Today sucked. (vent)
Mar 8, 2015 23:52:08 GMT -5
Post by olivegoose on Mar 8, 2015 23:52:08 GMT -5
Today was the worst day we have had in a long time by far.
MIL brought over this little push car thing for DS (it's like a car with a long handle thing so he can sit in the car and I can push him, it's cute). DS is 1 and he's almost too big for it, so my 110th percentile 4 year old DD obviously was not going to fit. We went on a walk and I put him in there instead of the Tula. DD asked if she could take a turn in the car next, so I got kneeled down to her level and explained that she was too big to sit in the car but she could help me push it if she wanted. She was sad, so I reminded her how some things DS can't do because he's too small and some things she can't do because she's too big. We went on our walk and every 2 minutes she started crying about the stupid car again. I told her it was time to go home, and she completely lost it. She threw herself on the sidewalk, kicking and screaming. Someone stopped their car and watched up, I swear they must have thought I was abusing her or something. I had to carry her and push DS halfway home and then I got her to walk. She walked back as slow as possible crying the whole way. We had three more outbursts at home over getting the wrong color of plate (she said she wanted blue and then changed her mind and wanted green... I said no because they eat different food and I already dished it up), being told she couldn't use the plunger in the bathroom, and when I asked her to put her clothes in the laundry basket.
When she does this I usually try and calm her down (expain why I said no, give her another acceptable option, reminder of why I said no) and typically she will deescalate. Today she just kept getting worse. I don't know how I managed to keep from screaming at her.
WTF do you do with stuff like this? I'm waiting to hear back from a new OT and child psychologist, we have DP scheduled and I'm calling monthly to check in, and I'm reading that "Explosive Child" book. I'm at my wits end. I've tried all the standard behavior charts, stickers, rewards, time out, sending her to her room... I've yelled back, I've tried giving lots of hugs, I get down on her level and explain it to her (usually the most effective)... I've taken things away from her.. I just don't know what to do. This has been going on since she was 18 months old. Endless, long, exhaustive, LOUD tantrums. I want to hid my head against the wall or at least buy some noise cancelling headphones.
MIL brought over this little push car thing for DS (it's like a car with a long handle thing so he can sit in the car and I can push him, it's cute). DS is 1 and he's almost too big for it, so my 110th percentile 4 year old DD obviously was not going to fit. We went on a walk and I put him in there instead of the Tula. DD asked if she could take a turn in the car next, so I got kneeled down to her level and explained that she was too big to sit in the car but she could help me push it if she wanted. She was sad, so I reminded her how some things DS can't do because he's too small and some things she can't do because she's too big. We went on our walk and every 2 minutes she started crying about the stupid car again. I told her it was time to go home, and she completely lost it. She threw herself on the sidewalk, kicking and screaming. Someone stopped their car and watched up, I swear they must have thought I was abusing her or something. I had to carry her and push DS halfway home and then I got her to walk. She walked back as slow as possible crying the whole way. We had three more outbursts at home over getting the wrong color of plate (she said she wanted blue and then changed her mind and wanted green... I said no because they eat different food and I already dished it up), being told she couldn't use the plunger in the bathroom, and when I asked her to put her clothes in the laundry basket.
When she does this I usually try and calm her down (expain why I said no, give her another acceptable option, reminder of why I said no) and typically she will deescalate. Today she just kept getting worse. I don't know how I managed to keep from screaming at her.
WTF do you do with stuff like this? I'm waiting to hear back from a new OT and child psychologist, we have DP scheduled and I'm calling monthly to check in, and I'm reading that "Explosive Child" book. I'm at my wits end. I've tried all the standard behavior charts, stickers, rewards, time out, sending her to her room... I've yelled back, I've tried giving lots of hugs, I get down on her level and explain it to her (usually the most effective)... I've taken things away from her.. I just don't know what to do. This has been going on since she was 18 months old. Endless, long, exhaustive, LOUD tantrums. I want to hid my head against the wall or at least buy some noise cancelling headphones.