Monday Meltdowns and Moans

[TheEleventhHour]

Share your LO's (or your own) latest meltdown. You can file any Monday complaints here too!

[TheEleventhHour]

Moan: I just hate Mondays. I don't know why but for the last few weeks I am SO tired every Monday. I don't do anything differently sleep wise but it is like my body knows the weekend is over and wants to rebel.

Meltdowns: I am about to have one because I take my big exam Wednesday and am FREAKING OUT. I hate how much anxiety I get surrounding testing.

Also, DS's latest thing is to be watching TV, then totally leave the room and start playing elsewhere, but then run back into the living room FREAKING THE F OUT when I shut of the TV. Dude! You are not watching it. You are not even in the same room as the TV! I do not get it. But I also do not get a lot of the things he does sooo ...

[cjsmom]

DS had a fit when he dropped his bowl of macaroni on the floor and I wouldn't let him continue to eat it. He also had a fit in the grocery store when he dropped his snack on the floor. Hold on to your food, kid!

[bennikki]

Spring has finally sprung in MN which means it's the season of melting snow and puddles. DS needs, NEEDS (he tells me) to be in the water at all times. I was a sweaty, hot mess this morning trying to wrestle him into the car.

Moan/Meltdown: DS2 has become a horrible sleeper. Up until we had to stop swaddling him at 13 weeks, he woke once, maybe twice a night pretty much since birth. We had to stop swaddling him because he started to roll all the time. At the same time we had to stop swaddling him, he caught a cold, so he was coughing at night, and the weather in MN went from winter to Arctic, so his eczema got horrible. He has not slept more than 3 hours in a row for over 4 weeks, and I'm losing it. DH helps at night, but I'm still awake, so it's not like him getting up with DS2 saves me any sleep. We just got a Magical Merlin Sleep Suit overnighted to us, so fingers crossed we start getting real rest.

[esmerelda]

DD lost it over her yogurt today. I have no idea what the issue was.

I woke up late from my nap so my hair is crazy at work today

[Deleted]

I am melting down due to the loss of a friend due to alcoholism and eating disorder. Can't believe her family and fiancé let her get that bad.

DD is melting down because she had to get in the car and no nap again.

DS is melting because he had to watch tv after dinner instead of before.

[chilibeansm0m]

Mar 9, 2015 11:52:27 GMT -5 TheEleventhHour said:

Moan: I just hate Mondays. I don't know why but for the last few weeks I am SO tired every Monday. I don't do anything differently sleep wise but it is like my body knows the weekend is over and wants to rebel.

Meltdowns: I am about to have one because I take my big exam Wednesday and am FREAKING OUT. I hate how much anxiety I get surrounding testing.

Also, DS's latest thing is to be watching TV, then totally leave the room and start playing elsewhere, but then run back into the living room FREAKING THE F OUT when I shut of the TV. Dude! You are not watching it. You are not even in the same room as the TV! I do not get it. But I also do not get a lot of the things he does sooo ...

I could have typed all of this. I am exhuasted todaY.

R flips out if we change the channel when she leaves. I've pretty much concluded half the time she is not interested in the tv. However she wants to hear it in the background. Dh and I like to mess with her and just hit pause as she walks out and see how many times she keeps coming back going no no no. Sorry not sorry. I used to warn her, "you're not watching barney so mommy is changing the channel" Now dh says screw that we do what we want. Ha.

I'm also really limiting the tv now. 1 show in the am so i can get ready and all of us fed. Plus before nap if she is good and maybe before bed if she's gooD. But she does not sit and watch it all from start to finish at all.

GL on the exam.

[TheEleventhHour]

@clarypax I am so sorry for your loss! That is so sad

[esmerelda]

@clarypax, sorry for your loss, I saw your post in the facebook group. I wouldn't blame her family or fiance tho when someone is sick there's nothing anyone can do to help unless the person wants to be helped. I know the wedding stress was likely the trigger that led her back down the eating disorder road but I wouldn't guarantee she was ever fully healthy. Having a mental illness is so much more complicated than that. Chances are even if her family was trying to get her help she wasn't going to help anything given what you've said. I really am sorry for your loss tho, losing a friend under any circumstance is a horrible feeling.

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I know it's not fair to blame them. I just thought they were taking good care of her, that she was healthy and happy. I guess I was wrong.

[esmerelda]

Mar 9, 2015 20:01:19 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

I know it's not fair to blame them. I just thought they were taking good care of her, that she was healthy and happy. I guess I was wrong.

I get what your saying and it really is awful to hear what your friend went thru before her passing. It's scary how long a person can hide things for if they don't want to admit whats going on or don't want help.  

[ann86]

Me: cramps! I went with out a period (since gettig pregnant with DD) till this past December. It finally decided to come back and I'm hating it. But I know I need it

DD was upset when we got to the park this morning because kids were outside playing at the preschool across the street. She just cried and cried to go over there. She stood at playground fence and stared at them across the street it was sad. She grabbed my hand and said she wanted to leave so we went for a walk and got lunch. We walked back to the park since that's where our car was parked and she started to have a meltdown about wanting to go down the slide. So we did since she didn't play earlier but then she started having a meltdown about going down the slide? I know she didn't get much sleep last night, so we left and the whole way home she cried about going down the slide. She got maybe a 20 min nap today I'm hoping tonight goes a lot better than last night.

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Mar 9, 2015 21:16:46 GMT -5 esmerelda said:

Mar 9, 2015 20:01:19 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

I know it's not fair to blame them. I just thought they were taking good care of her, that she was healthy and happy. I guess I was wrong.

I get what your saying and it really is awful to hear what your friend went thru before her passing. It's scary how long a person can hide things for if they don't want to admit whats going on or don't want help.  

Yeah I am sure she was hiding it. I didn't see her, but I am guessing she would have looked pretty skinny to have her heart give up? But she probably pretended she was eating. I am pretty sure why she didn't contact me. She was fired for drinking, and as a coworker she would not want to answer the question of why she left and what she was doing. I imagined it was for something better. I never thought it was because she was fired for drinking. Her boss let everyone know today. They were all shocked. Her former boss said even though they knew about the drinking problem and she hadn't worked there in a year that everyone in that office was shocked and took it hard too.

[esmerelda]

Mar 9, 2015 21:28:47 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

Mar 9, 2015 21:16:46 GMT -5 esmerelda said:

I get what your saying and it really is awful to hear what your friend went thru before her passing. It's scary how long a person can hide things for if they don't want to admit whats going on or don't want help.  

Yeah I am sure she was hiding it. I didn't see her, but I am guessing she would have looked pretty skinny to have her heart give up? But she probably pretended she was eating. I am pretty sure why she didn't contact me. She was fired for drinking, and as a coworker she would not want to answer the question of why she left and what she was doing. I imagined it was for something better. I never thought it was because she was fired for drinking. Her boss let everyone know today. They were all shocked. Her former boss said even though they knew about the drinking problem and she hadn't worked there in a year that everyone in that office was shocked and took it hard too.

I'm sure it was visible that she wasn't healthy. I'm sure her family knew something was wrong given what you said about her job I'd be willing to bet she got very defensive every time they brought it up. I'd be willing to bet her parents are devastated they didn't do more to help her the issue with eating disorders is that while they are under the mental illness label you can't have someone put under a psychiatric hold as easily as you can a suicide attempt. More or less no matter what anyone tried to do to help if she didn't want to get better she wasn't going to. As someone who struggled with eating issues and cutting for many years I know how easy it can be to deter people from the issues going on in your life. I really am sorry for your loss I wish your friend would have seeked help, I given the circumstance I am assuming she didn't. If she did I am sorry it didn't work for her. 

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Mar 9, 2015 22:39:46 GMT -5 esmerelda said:

Mar 9, 2015 21:28:47 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

Yeah I am sure she was hiding it. I didn't see her, but I am guessing she would have looked pretty skinny to have her heart give up? But she probably pretended she was eating. I am pretty sure why she didn't contact me. She was fired for drinking, and as a coworker she would not want to answer the question of why she left and what she was doing. I imagined it was for something better. I never thought it was because she was fired for drinking. Her boss let everyone know today. They were all shocked. Her former boss said even though they knew about the drinking problem and she hadn't worked there in a year that everyone in that office was shocked and took it hard too.

I'm sure it was visible that she wasn't healthy. I'm sure her family knew something was wrong given what you said about her job I'd be willing to bet she got very defensive every time they brought it up. I'd be willing to bet her parents are devastated they didn't do more to help her the issue with eating disorders is that while they are under the mental illness label you can't have someone put under a psychiatric hold as easily as you can a suicide attempt. More or less no matter what anyone tried to do to help if she didn't want to get better she wasn't going to. As someone who struggled with eating issues and cutting for many years I know how easy it can be to deter people from the issues going on in your life. I really am sorry for your loss I wish your friend would have seeked help, I given the circumstance I am assuming she didn't. If she did I am sorry it didn't work for her. 

I don't know if she got help or not either, but I am assuming not as well.  I'm sorry to hear of your struggles with eating issues and cutting.  I try to understand, but I know I will not fully understand it.  I hope that counseling, medication, and support can really help someone, but I guess you are right that they have to be willing to try or willing to admit there is problem maybe.  

[esmerelda]

Mar 10, 2015 7:36:14 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

Mar 9, 2015 22:39:46 GMT -5 esmerelda said:

I'm sure it was visible that she wasn't healthy. I'm sure her family knew something was wrong given what you said about her job I'd be willing to bet she got very defensive every time they brought it up. I'd be willing to bet her parents are devastated they didn't do more to help her the issue with eating disorders is that while they are under the mental illness label you can't have someone put under a psychiatric hold as easily as you can a suicide attempt. More or less no matter what anyone tried to do to help if she didn't want to get better she wasn't going to. As someone who struggled with eating issues and cutting for many years I know how easy it can be to deter people from the issues going on in your life. I really am sorry for your loss I wish your friend would have seeked help, I given the circumstance I am assuming she didn't. If she did I am sorry it didn't work for her. 

I don't know if she got help or not either, but I am assuming not as well.  I'm sorry to hear of your struggles with eating issues and cutting.  I try to understand, but I know I will not fully understand it.  I hope that counseling, medication, and support can really help someone, but I guess you are right that they have to be willing to try or willing to admit there is problem maybe.  

Yea mental illnesses are kind if like layers to a cake. On top is the problem, underneath is the all the triggers for that person, the reasons why any trama they've had to go thru. Every case is so different yet may have lots of similarities. Like for me specifically eating wasn't an issue until I already was dealing with depression. It wasnt nearly as much of an issue for me as your friend. As I was never in danger with my eating issue but there were times I was on a 500 calorie or less diet.

I know a friend who was also struggling around the same time as me and a big thing for her was she felt as tho she had no control over her life. Food consumption was the only thing she felt she had any say over and obsessed over it.

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Yes losing her job must have been traumatic. She lived what she did and had been doing it for 15 years or so. Also wedding planning. I know she had family issues. I just don't know the specifics. According to her the dad and stepmom were cool, but there were issues with the bio mom and siblings. Her relationships with men seemed to last about a year and then there was a new guy. I was supposed to be a bridesmaid and I asked about it a month later and already got the impression that she was not marrying that guy. The current fiancé was a new guy. She had health issues as well a hysterectomy and got bit by a brown recluse, which caused a hole in her leg. It was a lot worse than I imagined. She was healthy when I knew her, but I guess with the previous eating disorder and the drinking and the stress and possible continuing family issues, I guess she just wanted to escape. I do know she was good at hiding things. She joined a weekly poker game and never told me until she stopped it, and she was like I didn't want to tell you. And I was like why would I care if you play poker once a week? But to her I guess she was ashamed and kept secrets based only on what she thought people would think. She was never comfortable in her own skin. Always trying to be a star when just being herself would be enough, but she never thought it was.

[esmerelda]

Wow @clarypax it sounds like she needed help for a long time, even in her healthy state it seems like she was still struggling. I imagine the stress of losing her wedding planning was likely a big trigger with her eating.

Its really a shame. It sounds like she would have needed long term intense therapy to sort thru everything going on in her life. But based off how you described her it sounds like she would have been to ashamed to take that step.

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I mean this is in hindsight trying to think of some of her issues that possibly got worse to cause this. It is sad there is such a stigma with mental illness that she can document her health issue with the spider bite but could not seek help. She was also a model and that certainly doesn't help with eating disorders.

[esmerelda]

@clarypax, you are spot on about mental health issues. They are still seen as either taboo or attention seeking so much of the time the people that really struggle don't get the help they need.