Just an idea - goal setting

[icequeen]

Hi ladies!

I was thinking about maybe doing a weekly goals thread on Sundays. I used to be really good at setting specific goals for myself to accomplish for the week, whether they would be big or small, and it would give me something specific to focus on. Lately I haven't been doing that and I feel a little uneasy, like I'm going to slip. The goals can be anything that you are working on with your therapist, or in your relationships, dietary, or medication-wise. You can have just one goal or multiple goals, and the idea is to state what your goal is and how you plan on achieving it this week. The following Sunday we can review what the goals were and if we met them or not and start a new goal if we want. If we want to continue working on the same goal, that's totally fine too. I think I'll be doing that myself!

Just let me know if y'all would like to try this with me. If not, I won't be upset, promise! I will do it on my own. Hope y'all have a good evening!

[snarkysparklefart]

I think it's a good idea, I'm not sure how diligent I'd be with checking in on it, but I totally get what you mean about setting goals being helpful, and I think it's true for any stage or condition- I'm big on making lists!

[icequeen]

Oh good!! I am so glad at least one person agrees. I love my to-do lists and get such satisfaction out of checking everything off of them every day, haha. It's the little things, y'all.

[Deleted]

Im really good at making today lists. Completing them is another story.

[Deleted]

I think it's a good idea!

[icequeen]

Thanks, @rocknrollfriend! What happened to your avatar? Is everything ok? No one is stalking you or anything, right? Something else happened to another girl on another board and she had to take her profile pic down. Just making sure you are alright!

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Mar 15, 2015 16:45:18 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Thanks, @rocknrollfriend! What happened to your avatar? Is everything ok? No one is stalking you or anything, right? Something else happened to another girl on another board and she had to take her profile pic down. Just making sure you are alright!

Oh yuck, that sucks! I just changed it because I invited some of my IRL friends to "like" Then Comes Family on FB, and I like to stay semi-anonymous here. It's easier for me to be more open if I'm only sharing with Internet friends.

[icequeen]

Mar 15, 2015 16:48:07 GMT -5 @rocknrollfriend said:

Mar 15, 2015 16:45:18 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Thanks, @rocknrollfriend! What happened to your avatar? Is everything ok? No one is stalking you or anything, right? Something else happened to another girl on another board and she had to take her profile pic down. Just making sure you are alright!

Oh yuck, that sucks! I just changed it because I invited some of my IRL friends to "like" Then Comes Family on FB, and I like to stay semi-anonymous here. It's easier for me to be more open if I'm only sharing with Internet friends.

Gotcha! Just checking

[bluerainfire]

I am in for setting goals, I don't know how often ill get things check off, but it goes make me feel better

[icequeen]

Mar 15, 2015 17:44:44 GMT -5 bluerainfire said:

I am in for setting goals, I don't know how often ill get things check off, but it goes make me feel better

Yay, thanks bluerainfire!

[helloamanda]

Yes! Would be great to do this

[icequeen]

Awesome, thank you helloamanda. Have a good week!

[helloamanda]

Thanks! You too icequeen!

[runnergirl812]

I think it's a great idea. I'm not sure how consistent I would be in it however. But I say carry forward!!!

[icequeen]

Thank you, runnergirl812. I think I'll let this go until the end of the week and let the others give their opinions. I really hope we do this because it would help me a lot. I know I can do it on my own and be accountable to my therapy team, but sometimes I prefer the atmosphere of the boards better.

[yoshijo28]

I like this idea and will participate hopefully soon. But right now I don't think I can stick to many goals. But I'll try!

[Deleted]

I'm also big on making lists and setting goals. For me, social responsibility is a huge factor in success so I would be interested in a community for it.

[icequeen]

yoshijo28, @ordinaryamy thank you so much, ladies! We will do our best, no pressure.

[Deleted]

icequeen - I didn't realize there was a poll. Sorry about that.

[icequeen]

Thanks @giamia923 and @wallflwr926 for participating! Even if you want to do it one week and skip the next, that would be cool too, I think it's more for what @ordinaryamy said about accountability's sake. I know I'm accountable to my therapy team, but sometimes they intimidate me and make me angry when they make me do things I'm not ready for so on here it's easier for me to call the shots. I don't know if that makes sense.

[yoshijo28]

Perfect timing. My therapist gave me me a goal I *might* want to attempt.

[icequeen]

Mar 19, 2015 15:52:26 GMT -5 yoshijo28 said:

Perfect timing. My therapist gave me me a goal I *might* want to attempt.

OMG OMG OMG! YAY! I'm so freaking proud of you!

[yoshijo28]

Mar 19, 2015 18:45:08 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Mar 19, 2015 15:52:26 GMT -5 yoshijo28 said:

Perfect timing. My therapist gave me me a goal I *might* want to attempt.

OMG OMG OMG! YAY! I'm so freaking proud of you!

Thanks! I think I failed at my first attempt tonight but we'll see. It's more doable than what she requested of me last time but still giving me anxiety when I think about it. 

[icequeen]

Mar 19, 2015 19:10:08 GMT -5 yoshijo28 said:

Mar 19, 2015 18:45:08 GMT -5 icequeen said:

OMG OMG OMG! YAY! I'm so freaking proud of you!

Thanks! I think I failed at my first attempt tonight but we'll see. It's more doable than what she requested of me last time but still giving me anxiety when I think about it. 

It's ok! Just keep trying. It doesn't matter if you fail one time or ten times or a hundred times. Don't give up on yourself.

[icequeen]

OK ladies! It looks like it's a go with the goal setting thread! I will come up with a format for the thread and post it later this weekend. Don't worry, it won't be super long and it's totally voluntary to do it! I'm so pumped to do this with y'all!

snarkysparklefart,@wallflwr926,@rocknrollfriend,bluerainfire,helloamanda,runnergirl812,yoshijo28,@ordinaryamy,@giamia923

Forgive me if I forgot anyone, please join in on the thread even if you didn't vote in the poll and still want to set some goals. Have a great weekend, y'all!

[helloamanda]

icequeen You're the best!!

[icequeen]

Mar 20, 2015 21:25:51 GMT -5 helloamanda said:

icequeen You're the best!!

Aw, thanks girl! (((HUGS)))

[flcl]

Sorry I'm late to this poll. I think goal setting is a great idea although I don't know how good I'll be with participating. I missed the weekly checkin last week!! Setting goals has always been a difficult part of treatment but definitely a needed step.