My Husband is in Denial (intro/current pregnancy mentioned)
Mar 15, 2015 8:37:47 GMT -5
Post by gingerygirl on Mar 15, 2015 8:37:47 GMT -5
Hey everyone,
I've lurked for quite a while and I think I posted a few times (I don't really remember)but I never introduced myself, so here goes.
I lost my little girl at 23 weeks on August 31, 2014. There were no issues or problems, I just went into premature labor and they couldn't stop it. As far as labor goes (to my knowledge, it was my first time after all...) it was normal, albeit a bit fast. I was only in labor for about 6 hours. Our sweet girl was born alive and lived for two hours, but her poor fragile lungs were too underdeveloped. We named her Emma Rose. We were and still are completely devastated over losing our first baby. We had so many hopes and dreams.
Current pregnancy mentioned below
Fast forward to now, I'm pregnant again. I'm about 19 weeks right now and I'm rapidly approaching that time again. The closer I get to the 20-week period, the more nervous I get. Today my husband told me about a conversation he'd had with a friend in which he told the friend that I was 16 weeks when Emma was born. I corrected him by saying I was at 23 weeks. He vehemently denied it, saying it wasn't possible and that if I had really been that far she would have lived. I explained to him the logic that I had to have been at least 20 weeks because we had already had the anatomy scan telling us it was a girl and my doctor doesn't do those scans before 20 weeks. Then he confessed that he would rather think that I was only 16 weeks so that it seems like I'm further this time than I was last time. He wants to think that we've already past that milestone. Part of me wishes I could think like that, but the rest of me doesn't want to live in that denial. I can't decide if his way of thinking bothers me or not.
I've lurked for quite a while and I think I posted a few times (I don't really remember)but I never introduced myself, so here goes.
I lost my little girl at 23 weeks on August 31, 2014. There were no issues or problems, I just went into premature labor and they couldn't stop it. As far as labor goes (to my knowledge, it was my first time after all...) it was normal, albeit a bit fast. I was only in labor for about 6 hours. Our sweet girl was born alive and lived for two hours, but her poor fragile lungs were too underdeveloped. We named her Emma Rose. We were and still are completely devastated over losing our first baby. We had so many hopes and dreams.
Current pregnancy mentioned below
Fast forward to now, I'm pregnant again. I'm about 19 weeks right now and I'm rapidly approaching that time again. The closer I get to the 20-week period, the more nervous I get. Today my husband told me about a conversation he'd had with a friend in which he told the friend that I was 16 weeks when Emma was born. I corrected him by saying I was at 23 weeks. He vehemently denied it, saying it wasn't possible and that if I had really been that far she would have lived. I explained to him the logic that I had to have been at least 20 weeks because we had already had the anatomy scan telling us it was a girl and my doctor doesn't do those scans before 20 weeks. Then he confessed that he would rather think that I was only 16 weeks so that it seems like I'm further this time than I was last time. He wants to think that we've already past that milestone. Part of me wishes I could think like that, but the rest of me doesn't want to live in that denial. I can't decide if his way of thinking bothers me or not.
