Just ranting...

[officerofthelaw]

So over the weekend I had a "friend" on facebook send me a message and advised me that he already didn't like my sexuality but now that my wife and I are having a child he wanted to let me know that he does not approve. I was a little taken aback by this, I was not expecting it. I would be lying if I said that it didn't hurt my feelings. He says that it is a sin and he feels like I am putting my child in a bad living situation being raised by two women. I proceeded to tell him that I felt like religious people (not all) treat religion like a bag of chex mix and they pick out the rules they follow by but leave the sins that they commit in the bag. I told him that I did not feel like he should be expressing his opinion/thoughts to me because I didn't go up to him and say, hey I don't like that you're sinning by having sex with your girlfriend and not being married. He said that I was "harsh" for coming back at him with that response. WTH. I deleted him from my facebook but I feel bad now. I am not a mean person so I feel like I was mean back, but I was completely offended and flabbergasted that he would even say something like that to me.  Everyone has a right to feel/believe any way that they want but that doesn't mean they have to go out of their way to tell someone. Am I being to harsh?

[waffles]

WTF?! No. You were NOT harsh. HE attacked YOU. You stood up for yourself. It's a two way street. If he's going to point out your "sins" and tell you that you're doing a disservice to your child, fuck no.

I'm raging for you. RAGING.

officerofthelaw you did the right thing cutting this asshole off.

[RM80]

Seriously- what waffles said!

I would have been FURIOUS and had more than a few choice words for this individual. I would probably have gone a step farther and (regrettably later I'm sure) publicly shamed this individual on my facebook wall by sharing his little gem of advice. I would want anyone and everyone who is 'friends' with this person to know how horrible and awful they are!

Ugh. I'm angry for you!

[Stringy]

Uh yea. That was a perfect comeback and 100% true. How close of a "friend" was this? I'm glad you deleted him and you should not feel guilty one bit. No reason to keep that kind of garbage around especially once you have a LO.

[officerofthelaw]

Not very close, knew him growing up and lost touch many many years ago and he just recently found me on facebook and added me.

Mar 30, 2015 9:15:15 GMT -5 Stringy said:

Uh yea. That was a perfect comeback and 100% true. How close of a "friend" was this? I'm glad you deleted him and you should not feel guilty one bit. No reason to keep that kind of garbage around especially once you have a LO.

[hmsosie]

I love the way you handled it! Drives me NUTS when "so called christians" bash you for one thing but have their own skeletons... My theory is that I am fearfully and wonderfully made by MY God and I will meet him one day and we can discuss any issues he may have when that day comes.

[wittyandwaiting]

Mar 30, 2015 8:27:05 GMT -5 RM80 said:

Seriously- what waffles said!

I would have been FURIOUS and had more than a few choice words for this individual. I would probably have gone a step farther and (regrettably later I'm sure) publicly shamed this individual on my facebook wall by sharing his little gem of advice. I would want anyone and everyone who is 'friends' with this person to know how horrible and awful they are!

Ugh. I'm angry for you!

All of this.

You are a better woman than I am officerofthelaw! I think that anything you do to address it (short of being hateful or being violent) is a good response. So many of these things are let slide.

I would be on the public confrontation team, perhaps it's an unpopular opinion but I feel like when acts like this are kept in the closet it protects the perpetrator and tells them that it's okay to try to shame people behind closed doors. If you have something terrible to say to me or about me please be willing to sign your name to it.

I'm happy you responded to him.

[ionaerebor]

officerofthelaw, your response was perfect, don't feel bad about it. I definitely would not have handled it anywhere near as well. You definitely need to respond to these kind of comments, because the people saying them then think they are right.

[kristip]

I am so sorry that someone would have the nerve to write something like that to you! I wouldn't feel bad at all you weren't nearly as harsh as him. I think how your replied was total valid.

I look at it you motherly side came out to defend your baby and family

[PiradicalMaid]

OMG, I am so sorry that someone was such an asshole to you. Of course you were hurt. I think you handled a shitty situation the best way you could- I honestly don't even know how I would have responded to someone being so unbelievably awful.