Checking in about check-ins.

[wittyandwaiting]

Hi everyone,
I'm stuck. I love our big check-ins but I also miss having a TTC check in where everybody is where I'm at (or close).

Not sure if anybody feels the same so I figured I'd post a poll. I hope you'll take the time to vote.

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ETA: voting ends at 1pm EST on Friday.

[RM80]

I guess I'm caving, the longer I sit in the TTC camp, the more weird I get about mentions of little's and the struggles of pregnancy. I think I'm ready for a split of at least the TTC into it's own check-in.

I also think it would be more fair to those who are pregnant and parenting to have either their own or a combined check-in (whatever you decide). I know you all are monitoring/filtering your content for those of us who are still TTC, which is appreciated, but you deserve your own safe space to vent & share the stuff going on for you all!

I also feel like on the other place when there were separate check-ins there was more sharing of detailed info on topics that came up for people each week such as breastfeeding, sleep issues, charting/temping, etc.

The nice feature of this site is you can disable your signature for your post if you choose (on the website, not sure about when posting mobile) so if folks want to cross post & support others in different threads they can without tickers & other signature triggery items posting.

That's my 2 cents on the topic!

[healz413]

I'm also voting for split check-ins. I have not been over-censoring myself on my check-in posts but I've felt awkward and self-conscious every time I post in that check-in. I don't need separate check-ins to alleviate my awkward/self-conscious feelings. That's something I can suck up and deal with. But I do think it's important for TTCers to get to choose each week, day, or hour whether they want to read a pregnancy check-in or a parenting check-in.

The one thing I like about the joint check-in is that I can offer support to those TTC (whereas I wouldn't feel comfortable posting in a TTC check-in to offer support unless the TTC check-in folks decided they explicitly wanted that).

[Stringy]

I voted hybrid. I agree we don't get into as much depth about parenting or TTC in the big checkin (though maybe its cuz we are still a little slower than the old place).

But I do like checking in with everyone about life in general. Maybe the weekly one should be a non child related check in? But that may end up similar to the GTKY's.

FWIW, as a TTCer I have no problem with people who aren't currently TTC coming in and adding their two sense. I don't think anyone here is malicious enough to do that and throw in pregnancy details at the same time - but certainly people who are pregnant or parenting and have BTDT have good insights. In other words, for me, healz413, jumping in with some insight into a question about TTC is NBD to me. It may be to someone else though. I'm pretty laid back about that stuff and about "rules" of boards - so long as people are generally following the culture of the board.

[karlamo]

I vote for splitting the check ins and adding a non baby check in.

I have felt awkward about the things I post and how I must come across. I try to keep my check ins brief because of this. When we were TTC, anytime I heard parents talk about the challenges of parenting, I remember thinking that those are "problems" I wish I had.

Each phase of these journies comes with their own ups and downs and it would nice to have a safe space to talk freely about it without hurting others unintentionally.

If I've hurt or annoyed any of you by my posts please accept my apology.

[wittyandwaiting]

I'm kind of just posting to bump this up for anybody who hasn't voted of weighed in.

I voted hybrid as well. I'm so happy that everybody here is so kind, caring and supportive and still want a place to hear about what everybody up to!

karlamo - you definitely haven't hurt or annoyed me.

[wittyandwaiting]

Alright all, based on the poll (results below for those on mobile) it looks we're going for the hybrid model for check ins.



Thanks for voting.