QOTD/GTKY (4.8.2015 - for real this time)

[wittyandwaiting]

1. What's your conflict style? Fight, flight or something else.

2. What is something that you are working on right now to make your life or self better?

3. What's your favourite sign of spring?

[megd893]

wittyandwaiting, title made me laugh

1. Depends on the conflict definitely. I'm not afraid of confrontation, and when I feel its necessary (or I'm angry enough) I'll definitely fight. I rarely flight unless I feel there is no reasoning with the second party at that moment in time. I usually handle it with conversation (level headed, but I'm sure I can come across like an asshole). My MIL refuses to have any conflict with me because she can't understand how to do it. She screams and swears and I stand and respond evenly... it frustrates the HELL our of her and makes me LAUGH!!! hahah

2. Understanding things better. Especially my/our business. I'm becoming more involved in the finances, the AP/AR, our benefits etc. I want to feel like I'm not discounted because I'm a woman and younger than my brother... so I figure I'll work harder for the knowledge and the respect of our employees.

3. Colour. Outside, in the spring when colour happens again. Grass turns green, trees bud, flowers spring up, sunshine... colour

[officerofthelaw]

1. What's your conflict style? Fight, flight or something else.
In my personal life I don't have time for pettiness with people, so I ignore them. I am a one strike and you are out type of person. I will stand up for myself when need be, but I wouldn't categorize myself as either fight or flight.  In my career, I am def a fighter, you kind of have to be, or you shouldn't be an officer.

2. What is something that you are working on right now to make your life or self better?
Well we are working on our appeal for disability for my wife and now have an attorney who thinks we have a good case. If our appeal in front of the judge gets approved we will get a three year back pay plus start receiving benefits which would drastically improve our lives. We would probably just put a pool in our backyard or something, our last house had a pool and we kind of miss it. Either way, it would improve our lives.

3. What's your favourite sign of spring? For some reason, tulips are my favorite sign of spring and green grass.

[ionaerebor]

1. What's your conflict style? Fight, flight or something else. Generally fight. I love arguing in general, and though I try not to be confrontational, if someone is confrontational with me, I will argue back.

2. What is something that you are working on right now to make your life or self better? I've just signed myself up for therapy these past few days. I have some psychological issues when it involves my dad, and I really want to get them sorted out before the baby comes along.

3. What's your favourite sign of spring? The daffodils.

[RM80]

1. Generally I'm probably a flight person. I'm an avoider usually- to a point. I'm not hesitant to stand my ground though if it's something I feel strongly about. Really my response is different depending n the topic/context.

2. I am working on finding my next job within my company. My role is only intended to be for development and growth, well it's time to grow & move to my next challenge.

3. I planted some of my grandmothers lilies in my yard and they are starting to bloom!!

[kona]

1. Historically it has been flight. I will stand up for myself but I do tend to take the easy way out a lot.

2. I'm loving Ted Talks on Netflix, I feel like I am improving myself. I'm also working on learning more about my food and understanding why I might choose to live and eat a certain way. Finally, I am looking for a career and not just a j-o-b.

3. Seeing the green grass after the snow melts.

[mahler5]

1) flight is my default. I like to avoid conflict but sometimes to a fault. I have had to make myself speak up more though if something really bothers me or I get resentful.

2) being less wasteful. I think I finally have the recycling system down in our new city. Although DW does not and I have to remind her or pick stuff out of trash. Also, trying to spend less time on internet or watching Tv.

3) I love the red buds and dogwoods blooming. Also, planting vegetables! I just got some tomato plants planted this weekend. I hope it doesn't freeze again.

[wittyandwaiting]

Thanks megd893; I'm all about the laughs.

1. I'll fight when I think it's worthwhile but I'm also prone to giving the silent treatment which might be a flight response. I tend to be very careful and calculated with my words so I think that thinking time makes me seem like I'm stewing. I have a trick for when others are yelling....I quiet down so that they have to quiet down to hear me.

2. I need to drink more water. I'm working on it but I wish I enjoyed the taste of it.

3. Crocuses! All the crocuses!

[esquette]

1. My former therapist used to say that there are actually 4 responses to crisis: fight, flight, faint or freeze. I am usually a "freeze" than "flee" type of person. I usually clam up, shut my face down, and then I can get up and go hide. I'm also a crier. I cry a lot, when I am mad, sad, scared, anxious, etc. It is super frustrating, because I often have totally legit things to say, but the crying sort of makes people ignore me.

2. I've been tracking my food and trying to make better choices about what I eat.

3. I love the cherry blossoms.

[megd893]

wittyandwaiting,officerofthelaw,ionaerebor,RM80,kona,mahler5,esquette

I tagged everyone because I LOVED reading the 'improvement' answers this morning. Big or small things, all the answers made me smile