Embarrassing miscarriage question

[Faith15]

Has anyone else felt really horny during a miscarriage? I feel ashamed to admit this. Hoping it's the hormones? Or perhaps an orgasim would help shed the lining? Tell me I'm not crazy. just talking orgasm here, no penetration. Ouch! 

[hollyberry]

Dont be embarassed, I think its all pretty natural to feel all sorts of things. I would say with my last one I was a bit, now granted I was on pelvic rest for basically the whole time I was pregnent. And I also I get horny when I am stressed. But I was quite worried about infection so I just waited it out ( I had a d &c). But I don't know if medically it would help or even if its okay, sorry.

[PiradicalMaid]

I know orgasms help relieve my period cramps, so sometimes my sex drive ups during my period. I think it totally makes sense and might be helpful, depending on your provider's orders.

I've found myself regaining some sexual feelings that had been lessening while I was pregnant. I don't feel physically or emotionally ready to do anything yet, but I have noticed that. And I don't mean to make you feel bad by saying I'm not ready- it's fine if you are!

[sarahufl]

I just (literally last night) started feeling up to it again. My poor H has been really patient- the whole Ectopic nonsense has lasted a month and either I wasn't up to it or wasn't cleared to even try until yesterday.

We have to TTA for 3 months and we had no idea where any condoms were when I randomly was in the mood last night, so it didn't happen.

H was very sad.

[muscari]

Don't feel ashamed or embarrased, hormones are raging through your body and can do crazy things! All together my mc took 3 weeks, as I ended up with an incomplete mc after the cytotec. There were several times I felt like being intimate but didn't dare doing anything while I was still miscarrying. Plus, to be honest, I was worried that an orgasm might hurt When it was clear I was going to have a d/c I was looking forward to being able to be so again once I stopped bleeding. But then the dr told me 'nothing in vagina for 3 weeks after the d/c' because of risk of infection etc that really quite disappointed me! But then we were benched for one cycle which in the end wasn't an issue as after everything I've suddenly not felt like being intimate until just recently. I say if you feel like it, go with your feelings. I don't think there's any harm in it and maybe it will help you release some tension and all!?

[nikolie93]

Just wanted to chime in and say that yes, I felt horny. I remember feeling really weird about it too. Damn body!

[cabgirl]

Yes, I actually felt extremely horny during my miscarriage, to the point where it seemed weird and inappropriate. It was very confusing for me, because I was a complete wreck, constantly crying, and grieving to the point where I was hardly even functional. But, I wanted sex with my husband BADLY. It was hard to wait until we were cleared to have sex. In the meantime, I did use my (external) vibrator, and it didn't seem to cause any issues (and it provided me with some relief).

I don't know the science behind why this happens, but I'm sure it must have something to do with hormones, which are all over the place during a miscarriage.

Please don't feel embarrassed. We've all been through the physical reality of a miscarriage, and even though we might all experience it a little differently, we can still relate.