seerealsky, I feel like you just wrote my life word for word. My DH constantly spends money on stupid crap. Then he complains, "where did the money go?" I'm not going back to work just to support his damn spending habit. I finally got tired of his "woe is me I'm broke by Saturday" whine and printed off the bank statement and highlighted all his charges. Then I showed him my spending (major difference). Then I showed him all the monthly expenses and bills. He got with the program for maybe a week then went right back to his old ways. *bangs head against wall*
It's so frustrating, isn't it?? My mom threw a can of corn at my dad's head in an argument once when I was a kid. I'm starting to understand her so much more now that I feel like doing the same. LOL
On a more serious note, I did a lot of thinking today and looking at our budget, etc. I have informed the husbear that we will be having a serious talk after supper. He already knows he's in trouble and has figured out why by process of elimination.
Thanks for the support, ladies. I may reach out to you for more advice later, or to grouch about my husband some more on understanding ears. For now, I'm going to stuff my face and relax. Thanks calvinfoster for this thread. It was a good idea!
seerealsky, I feel like you just wrote my life word for word. My DH constantly spends money on stupid crap. Then he complains, "where did the money go?" I'm not going back to work just to support his damn spending habit. I finally got tired of his "woe is me I'm broke by Saturday" whine and printed off the bank statement and highlighted all his charges. Then I showed him my spending (major difference). Then I showed him all the monthly expenses and bills. He got with the program for maybe a week then went right back to his old ways. *bangs head against wall*
It's so frustrating, isn't it?? My mom threw a can of corn at my dad's head in an argument once when I was a kid. I'm starting to understand her so much more now that I feel like doing the same. LOL
On a more serious note, I did a lot of thinking today and looking at our budget, etc. I have informed the husbear that we will be having a serious talk after supper. He already knows he's in trouble and has figured out why by process of elimination.
Thanks for the support, ladies. I may reach out to you for more advice later, or to grouch about my husband some more on understanding ears. For now, I'm going to stuff my face and relax. Thanks calvinfoster for this thread. It was a good idea!
I think my DH needs a few cans of corn thrown at his head. He was just on the phone talking to his friend about upgrading our boat. WTF?! Did he win the lottery and not tell me? If not there will be NO new boat in this driveway.
aleys628 I think it may be illegal for them to have one salary range listed in an official document and pay you another. Also, I would refuse to use your own equipment to do work from home. You need to lay it all out. Give them your cell and internet bill from home and tell them that they need to reimburse you. If they won't, refuse to work from home. Definitely talk to hr and not the directors. Hr should be on your side and should be able to help. If they don't fix this it is time to look for another job.
I'm lurking on the suggestions for aleys628's issue because I'm in a similar situation and DH is trying to coach me into advocating for myself but I can get into big trouble for discussing pay with the wrong people, even though our pay grades according to position are available for all associates to see.
Thanks for the tips everyone! I wanted to offer a quick update in case anyone was going through something similar. I went to the doctor yesterday and what we thought were clogged ducts turned out to be galactoceles (milk filled cysts). That explains why I couldn't find the source of the clog and no matter what I did, they weren't budging. Since they're not painful (I was causing more pain with the constant heat and massaging) and would just return if they were drained, I've decided to leave them alone. I guess that finally knowing that it wasn't all in my head but that there was nothing I could do about them has helped relieve my stress because my supply is back on the upswing. Pumping is a bitch!
Post by splotch0713 on Apr 28, 2015 15:04:11 GMT -5
I have a WWD14D as well. Both of my nieces are sick with pneumonia right now, they are 1 and 4. The 1 year old has a birthday party this Saturday. My SIL hasn't cancelled the party yet because the dr said they should be ok by Saturday. I'm struggling with taking LO to this party. It is at their house and everyone has been sick the last week. The 4 year old was just diagnosed with pneumonia yesterday. I'm leaning towards not taking LO or going myself because I don't want to chance it. WWD14D?
Post by splotch0713 on Apr 28, 2015 15:28:46 GMT -5
mgk207, @mariahv, @txaggie08, @katylou91,Thanks guys! For some reason I was thinking it was crazy not to go because their dr said it would be ok. I think I'm struggling with it because my SIL's sister had a baby on March 30th and is going from what I can see. I'm hoping they'll just cancel it. Sometimes being an adult sucks but my job is to protect my baby girl no matter what, even if that means making other people upset. Thanks for letting me bounce this off of you guys!
Post by bookworm87 on Apr 28, 2015 15:51:38 GMT -5
splotch0713 I'm glad you decided not to go. Like you said, our first responsibility has to be to our babies even though sometimes the family pressure can be insane to bring your baby everywhere, even if it could be unsafe. My FIL had strep and my mother in law told us about it but still offered to watch the boy the next day, even though she had been exposed as well and could have just been not showing symptoms yet. No thank you to that.
Post by stampingqueen on May 5, 2015 4:54:25 GMT -5
mgk207 I recently caught myself doing something similar. LO would wake up and 4 and babble and whatnot. I always picked her up, fed, and put her back. Eventually I wondered what the hell I did that for. However, I have to say, for my kid, if I waited until she cried for food, I'd have a skinny kid. She wakes up in the morning (after being asleep 10 hours) and is the happiest baby. Smiling, laughing, everything. So I have to feed her when she gets up. She's obviously hungry after 10 hours, even if she's not crying.
mgk207 I struggle with this one. I feel like he's all alone in the dark but he's obviously not scared otherwise he would be crying right? I usually get up and feel him but lately he's gone back to sleep a few times. I wouldn't get up and pump though so if you're going to do that anyway I guess you might as well feed him?
I feed anyway but I make just enough milk and pump most nights if she doesn't wake up. Sometimes if she does I pump one side and feed on the other. I also don't mind her feeding at night BC it is less she needs at daycare.
If no milk supply issues I would be much more likely to let baby be as long as not fussy.
So do what works for you and lo. There is no right or wrong answer. Each baby is different as is each family and situation.
mgk207 I'm still trying to make up my mind on this one myself. My LO will wake up in the MOTN cooing and playing, but a couple of times when I've left her there it escalates to crying because she's hungry. So I usually feed her when I hear her wake up just because I assume she woke up because she is hungry and will eventually get to the point of fussing about it. That being said, a few times in the past week I've been so exhausted that I'll wake up, see that she's happy and decide to just go back to sleep until she fusses, only to wake up again later to her sleeping soundly. Obviously I like this option much better because of the bonus sleep, so I think it may be what we continue to do and break the habit of feeding every time she goes bump in the night.
mgk207 My LO only wakes up hungry, so any time he is awake at night, I feed him. I'd say feed him if you were going to pump anyway.
Feeding >>> Pumping
This is us too. But if I was more worried about trying to STTN or a schedule I maybe would rethink. I still nurse on demand (aka ALL the time) and it doesn't bother me or LO.
Post by amyface813 on May 13, 2015 17:42:58 GMT -5
I have a wwd14d... Fox was given double the dose of antibiotic shot today that the dr ordered. When DH came home he asked me about how big the first shot was because he thought it looked like more stuff and it looked more yellow. He asked the nurse if it was more than yesterday and she just shrugged and told him to hold his arms. The doc just called to tell me what happened and said there shouldn't be any issues but that she needed to tell us. I am thinking about calling back to make sure we don't get this nurse again... DH doesn't remember her name. I'm just not sure if we should do anything else.
Post by amyface813 on May 13, 2015 18:20:03 GMT -5
@txaggie08 luckily we are done with the shots for now. It is scary! I feel like we should do something but we don't want to get anyone fired or anything. It just is giving me a bad feeling in my stomach. He's so small!
What txaggie said. I know this time it isn't a risk to your LO that she gave the wrong dose, but what if she were careless with the dose of a riskier med?
Post by amyface813 on May 13, 2015 20:37:54 GMT -5
You're right of course! I'm going to talk to the doc again on Monday when he goes in for a follow up. Just ask what they are doing to prevent this from happening again and make sure they know that DH even pointed out that it looked like more and she didn't double check.
mgk207 Could you bring him in first thing? Some places have appointments first thing in the morning saved for last minute sick child visits. Depending on what time you work you could get him in right away to find out?
amyface813 I'm a little late to the party but I would definitely follow up. As I nurse I take that stuff seriously. Does your clinic have online charting? If so you should be able to look up the nurse's name so you can tell them you never want her as a nurse. Also, that is a medication error and it should be written up and fully documented. The clinic should also be following up with you to check and see if Fox is doing ok after that. I'd check to make sure that it was done. It isn't about getting her in trouble but to use it as a learning experience so it doesn't happen again.
Alright wwd14d? I have two pregnant coworkers due in August. They are having a joint shower. The problem is that it's the first baby for one and the third for the other. Would you go? If I go I definitely would get a gift for both. And they asked for a book in lieu of a card. Ugh.
Alright wwd14d? I have two pregnant coworkers due in August. They are having a joint shower. The problem is that it's the first baby for one and the third for the other. Would you go? If I go I definitely would get a gift for both. And they asked for a book in lieu of a card. Ugh.
I would go, but get them whatever you want (book, card, whatever!).
Alright wwd14d? I have two pregnant coworkers due in August. They are having a joint shower. The problem is that it's the first baby for one and the third for the other. Would you go? If I go I definitely would get a gift for both. And they asked for a book in lieu of a card. Ugh.
Is this a shower at work or outside? If it's at work, definitely go. If its outside, I would decide whether to go based on how close you are with them.
erien22846, I would spend more on the FTM's gift. The third time mom probably knows the drill as far as showers go (at least one would hope!) and doesn't expect the same gifts as the FTM. I think diapers are a good idea!
IMHO I would just spend the same amount on all gifts for coworkers no matter the baby #. Even the baby shower board seems to be ok with work showers for multiple babies. However, I don't think you are obligated to spend the same amount on both. I agree that a 3rd time mom probably just wants diapers.
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