Post by nashamber on Apr 23, 2015 19:50:43 GMT -5
4/26/15 UPDATE:
First off, thank you for the warm welcome and for the sweet comments about my little one. I was able to pull up my shower update post from TB. I couldn't stop laughing when I read it. It brought me right back to that day. Here it my original post on TB in blue. Hope it's not too confusing.
ORIGINAL POST ON TB:
I am attending a coworker's baby shower tomorrow. I just looked at the invite to make sure that I have the correct starting time and location of the shower, and noticed that in really small letters at the bottom of the invite are the words, "Don't forget to bring $65 for the lunch fee."
She's having her shower at an ultra snobby country club, BUT charging the guests that attend to cover the meal fee. In my opinion, if you can't afford to have the shower at the snobby country club perhaps you shouldn't be having it there. I'm slightly tempted to return my $100 gift for something in the $50 range. That way I'm not walking away from her shower $165 deep. Am I being unreasonable?
Has anyone else ever attended a shower where they had to pay a "cover charge"? I'm all for helping out and contributing at social events, but $65 is pretty steep.
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UPDATED POST ON TB:
I guess you could say curiosity killed the cat.
I decided to stop by at the shower for various reasons: 1) I RSVP and said I'd be there. 2) I saw my co-worker at work the day before and I seemed totally fine. To say I was not feeling well made me feel guilty. 3) The curious part of me wanted to see how the $65 fee would affect the attendance.
I showed up to the shower timely with a plan in mind. IF it appeared that my RSVP was used to determine how much food to order, I'd cough up the $65 to pay for my share of food. I arrived to the shower timely and at first thought I was at the wrong venue. The freakin' shower felt and looked like a wedding! I was about three guests back in the sign in line, when I heard the woman at the sign in table say, "will you be having lunch today?" AWESOME! This was my way out of the $65 fee. Depending on your answer you'd receive a wristband (yes, just like those wristbands you get at a club, concert, event etc which shows that you are of drinking age). Two of the guests in front of me had no idea there was a charge, but after learning of it they whipped out the cash to pay for it. Either they are really good at hiding the "WTF" facial expression or they were not a tad bit bothered by the fee. I received a phone call and stepped out of line to answer it. When I got back into line, the woman in front of me had answered "yes" to the question of eating lunch but she didn't have any cash or a check on her. It was so uncomfortable and she looked embarrassed. I offered to cover her lunch especially since I had gone into the shower thinking I'd end up paying for it anyway. She declined my offer and walked in. I too declined the lunch fee since I was planning on running out of there as soon as lunch was served.
I sat next to the woman who had declined my offer since we were probably the ONLY TWO guests who didn't have a hot pink band on. We both exchanged our thoughts on how "interesting" this shower was. Overall, the shower and the decor was amazingly beautiful, and the attendance was overwhelming. Clearly I was mixing with the wrong social club. I stayed for an hour and left when lunch was being served. I took a peek at the meal and it wasn't anything fabulous. But then again I'm not really sure what a $65 lunch should look like.
I guess the moral of the story is: To each their own - tackiness and all.
Hi all.
I was semi-active on TB before the mass exodus. Not sure if this rings a bell, but I was the gal who was invited to the "super fancy" country club baby shower that charged their guests a RIDICULOUS lunch fee. I came over in January but tax season hit hard. I'm a tax CPA and the past few months of insane hours and Mommy duties was sort of a nightmare. I'm glad to say that we survived! It wasn't pretty and there were many tears shed, but we did it. I've spent the last couple days trying to catch up with what has been going on. Congratulations to the mother who is pregnant and expecting another bundle of love (no clue how to tag people yet). You are my hero. When I feel like complaining from the sudden change in sleep due to the dreaded 4-month sleep regression, I think of you and how exhausted the first trimester must be.
I'm looking forward to participating more now that my work hours are somewhat normal. Glad to see names of those I recognize from TB.
Here's a picture of my little one:
xoxo.
