BOABA - B!tch Out a Bad Apple

[Sparkly]

Jan 21, 2015 22:32:08 GMT -5 hippo said:

Jan 21, 2015 17:31:15 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

I too would rather be BO immediately and/or receive a PM if someone has a problem with me. Call outs, especially generalized or after the fact are immature, and reflect more poorly on the one calling out vs. the one being called out, IMO.

I know have my days, often put my foot in my mouth, and I also get that just not everyone is going to like me. That's fine. But being called out and feeling like everyone hates me sucks and hurts my IRL feelings...it's not fun. That's not why I'm here and I certainly don't want to do that to anyone else either. If I do something particularly twat-y or hurt someone, I want to know, so I can fix it, apologize, learn, change.

In that case, I think that your intro on PB was twat-y.  You said that you lurked on TB, but neglected to mention that you were a regular poster under a different SN.  Am I wrong that you were Mamasarge on TB? Why didn't you just say that? Sparkly

I said "new place, new name" on the intro thread. I don't feel I ever lied about who I was. I simply didn't come out and say "hey guise, guess who!" And I think you can probably guess why. I apologize if that comes across as lying. I really just wanted a fresh start.

[Sparkly]

Jan 21, 2015 22:50:01 GMT -5 helloerrbody said:

Jan 21, 2015 17:31:15 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

I too would rather be BO immediately and/or receive a PM if someone has a problem with me. Call outs, especially generalized or after the fact are immature, and reflect more poorly on the one calling out vs. the one being called out, IMO.

I know have my days, often put my foot in my mouth, and I also get that just not everyone is going to like me. That's fine. But being called out and feeling like everyone hates me sucks and hurts my IRL feelings...it's not fun. That's not why I'm here and I certainly don't want to do that to anyone else either. If I do something particularly twat-y or hurt someone, I want to know, so I can fix it, apologize, learn, change.

Umm, I said that I wanted to be bitched out immediately so that I could fix my behavior, not that I thought a delayed call-out was immature or that it reflects badly on the one calling me out.  Please don't quote me to use what I said in an entirely different/twisted way.  Kthxbye.

Sorry. My intention was not to twist your words, but to agree then add my own (hence IMO).

[yummybunny]

Jan 22, 2015 6:29:30 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

Jan 21, 2015 22:32:08 GMT -5 hippo said:

In that case, I think that your intro on PB was twat-y.  You said that you lurked on TB, but neglected to mention that you were a regular poster under a different SN.  Am I wrong that you were Mamasarge on TB? Why didn't you just say that? Sparkly

I said "new place, new name" on the intro thread. I don't feel I ever lied about who I was. I simply didn't come out and say "hey guise, guess who!" And I think you can probably guess why. I apologize if that comes across as lying. I really just wanted a fresh start.

It does come across as deceptive. Also, sincere apologies are not conditional. That means they do not contain the word 'if'. 

[Sparkly]

In the interest of transparency, I will add that I apologize for any and all previous twat-ish behavior. As I said in the bit above, I often put my foot in my mouth. I was a bit crazy and desperate to know what was going on with my body when I first started this process. I'm not above being called out if I know what for and can make an effort to apologize and change. I attempted to apologize to those that called me out on TB, but I don't think it was received, and it's tough when someone won't tell you exactly what you did to make them hate you. I'm not here trying to lie or deceive. I genuinely learned a lot from this community and would like to continue to learn and be a part of it. That is all that I've been trying to do, as well as have a fresh start over here.

[Sparkly]

Jan 22, 2015 6:38:44 GMT -5 yummybunny said:

Jan 22, 2015 6:29:30 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

I said "new place, new name" on the intro thread. I don't feel I ever lied about who I was. I simply didn't come out and say "hey guise, guess who!" And I think you can probably guess why. I apologize if that comes across as lying. I really just wanted a fresh start.

It does come across as deceptive. Also, sincere apologies are not conditional. That means they do not contain the word 'if'. 

point taken. I apologize.

[michelleca]

I don't understand why a reg would have an AE? Can someone explain to a newb?

[icaughtfire]

Jan 22, 2015 6:41:18 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

In the interest of transparency, I will add that I apologize for any and all previous twat-ish behavior. As I said in the bit above, I often put my foot in my mouth. I was a bit crazy and desperate to know what was going on with my body when I first started this process. I'm not above being called out if I know what for and can make an effort to apologize and change. I attempted to apologize to those that called me out on TB, but I don't think it was received, and it's tough when someone won't tell you exactly what you did to make them hate you. I'm not here trying to lie or deceive. I genuinely learned a lot from this community and would like to continue to learn and be a part of it. That is all that I've been trying to do, as well as have a fresh start over here.

You apologize for previously acting twatty but you don't think this behavior is kind of twatty? How are you not here trying to lie & deceive when you're being fake? A name/avatar change is fine, but don't act like you jumped over here as a lurker.

[Sparkly]

Jan 22, 2015 9:30:57 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

Jan 22, 2015 6:41:18 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

In the interest of transparency, I will add that I apologize for any and all previous twat-ish behavior. As I said in the bit above, I often put my foot in my mouth. I was a bit crazy and desperate to know what was going on with my body when I first started this process. I'm not above being called out if I know what for and can make an effort to apologize and change. I attempted to apologize to those that called me out on TB, but I don't think it was received, and it's tough when someone won't tell you exactly what you did to make them hate you. I'm not here trying to lie or deceive. I genuinely learned a lot from this community and would like to continue to learn and be a part of it. That is all that I've been trying to do, as well as have a fresh start over here.

You apologize for previously acting twatty but you don't think this behavior is kind of twatty? How are you not here trying to lie & deceive when you're being fake? A name/avatar change is fine, but don't act like you jumped over here as a lurker.

icaughtfire I wouldn't have considered myself a reg on the TB as I was relatively new. That was the first day here. I wasn't sure I was going to stay/post after everything went down. I really didn't know what was going to happen. I haven't tried to hide since - I did post my chart and most of the same info in my sig.

[nachobutt]

Jan 22, 2015 9:36:25 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

Jan 22, 2015 9:30:57 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

You apologize for previously acting twatty but you don't think this behavior is kind of twatty? How are you not here trying to lie & deceive when you're being fake? A name/avatar change is fine, but don't act like you jumped over here as a lurker.

icaughtfire I wouldn't have considered myself a reg on the TB as I was relatively new. That was the first day here. I wasn't sure I was going to stay/post after everything went down. I really didn't know what was going to happen. I haven't tried to hide since - I did post my chart and most of the same info in my sig.

I guess you just didn't see THIS thread when we all first got here then? 

Anyways, You haven't tried to hide, but you also weren't actually honest.  I get wanting a fresh start. I do. You should've used this opportunity to do just that instead of trying to dupe us. Just because you used the same siggy doesn't really mean anything.  

I just for once, would like to hear you say, "you're right" with no IFs ANDs or BUTs. I know what it's like to get rough start out on the board, I did. But I didn't try to argue when I was wrong. Stop trying to defend your behavior. Just buck up and admit you were in the wrong, and let's move on from this.....

[risscaboobs]

Jan 22, 2015 11:55:42 GMT -5 nachobutt said:

Jan 22, 2015 9:36:25 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

icaughtfire I wouldn't have considered myself a reg on the TB as I was relatively new. That was the first day here. I wasn't sure I was going to stay/post after everything went down. I really didn't know what was going to happen. I haven't tried to hide since - I did post my chart and most of the same info in my sig.

I guess you just didn't see THIS thread when we all first got here then? 

Anyways, You haven't tried to hide, but you also weren't actually honest.  I get wanting a fresh start. I do. You should've used this opportunity to do just that instead of trying to dupe us. Just because you used the same siggy doesn't really mean anything.  

I just for once, would like to hear you say, "you're right" with no IFs ANDs or BUTs. I know what it's like to get rough start out on the board, I did. But I didn't try to argue when I was wrong. Stop trying to defend your behavior. Just buck up and admit you were in the wrong, and let's move on from this.....

+1 All of this.

[Sparkly]

Jan 22, 2015 11:55:42 GMT -5 nachobutt said:

Jan 22, 2015 9:36:25 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

icaughtfire I wouldn't have considered myself a reg on the TB as I was relatively new. That was the first day here. I wasn't sure I was going to stay/post after everything went down. I really didn't know what was going to happen. I haven't tried to hide since - I did post my chart and most of the same info in my sig.

I guess you just didn't see THIS thread when we all first got here then? 

Anyways, You haven't tried to hide, but you also weren't actually honest.  I get wanting a fresh start. I do. You should've used this opportunity to do just that instead of trying to dupe us. Just because you used the same siggy doesn't really mean anything.  

I just for once, would like to hear you say, "you're right" with no IFs ANDs or BUTs. I know what it's like to get rough start out on the board, I did. But I didn't try to argue when I was wrong. Stop trying to defend your behavior. Just buck up and admit you were in the wrong, and let's move on from this.....

You are right. I am sorry and I would like to move on.

[nachobutt]

Jan 22, 2015 12:46:07 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

Jan 22, 2015 11:55:42 GMT -5 nachobutt said:

I guess you just didn't see THIS thread when we all first got here then? 

Anyways, You haven't tried to hide, but you also weren't actually honest.  I get wanting a fresh start. I do. You should've used this opportunity to do just that instead of trying to dupe us. Just because you used the same siggy doesn't really mean anything.  

I just for once, would like to hear you say, "you're right" with no IFs ANDs or BUTs. I know what it's like to get rough start out on the board, I did. But I didn't try to argue when I was wrong. Stop trying to defend your behavior. Just buck up and admit you were in the wrong, and let's move on from this.....

You are right. I am sorry and I would like to move on.

Not sure if serious? or just telling me what I want to hear. Any who, Thank You.

[Sparkly]

Jan 22, 2015 12:50:08 GMT -5 nachobutt said:

Jan 22, 2015 12:46:07 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

You are right. I am sorry and I would like to move on.

Not sure if serious? or just telling me what I want to hear. Any who, Thank You.

no I am serious. I wouldn't bother being here if I didn't want to fit in and move on.

Eta: I also enjoy gifs and Steve Urkle.

[blush]

I was in the process of lurking/starting to post on TTGP when everything happened so I will start posting here. I was on the Bump for years, started on the Knot.

I don't think a weekly thread is necessary or beneficial. I think if someone is acting that badly they will be called out when as it happens. A weekly thread could cause unnecessary drama, people looking for someone to call out rather than someone who really deserves it.

[nachobutt]

[nachobutt]

WHAT WAS HE DOING WITH THIS CARROT?

[SheilaTheTank]

Jan 22, 2015 12:53:34 GMT -5 blush said:

I was in the process of lurking/starting to post on TTGP when everything happened so I will start posting here. I was on the Bump for years, started on the Knot.

I don't think a weekly thread is necessary or beneficial. I think if someone is acting that badly they will be called out when as it happens. A weekly thread could cause unnecessary drama, people looking for someone to call out rather than someone who really deserves it.

The kitten in your avatar made me squee at work. So freaking cute!!

[nachobutt]

For W

[GoBigOrGoGnome]

Jan 22, 2015 12:58:35 GMT -5 nachobutt said:

WHAT WAS HE DOING WITH THIS CARROT?

Yeah...What the fuck is going on here? I miss TGIF.

[blush]

Jan 22, 2015 12:59:07 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Jan 22, 2015 12:53:34 GMT -5 blush said:

The kitten in your avatar made me squee at work. So freaking cute!!

Thanks, he is the newest member of my family, Boxes. (named by my son)

[nachobutt]

I like where this thread is ending up.



(I'm done now, maybe)

[SheilaTheTank]

Jan 22, 2015 13:02:01 GMT -5 blush said:

Jan 22, 2015 12:59:07 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

The kitten in your avatar made me squee at work. So freaking cute!!

Thanks, he is the newest member of my family, Boxes. (named by my son)

That's a great name! Makes him even cuter. 

[Loki]

Jan 22, 2015 9:15:30 GMT -5 michelleca said:

I don't understand why a reg would have an AE? Can someone explain to a newb?

Because they're FUN!  Well, at least it was fun being Loki.  I did try to use some sort of crazy English UK based speak.  That was annoying.

Some things that popped in my still reserved head:
BOABs were never voted on.  They were just started when a user felt they needed to get something off of their chest.  And it's not always something that could be said in another thread.  Like, "Hey, BadAppleXYZ, why you always gotta be just typing +1 in every single thread on the board?!" Or "Hey, DurtyLilly, why you such a post whore?" Or "Hey, SymptomQueen, why don't you give others a chance to start daily threads?" Or "Hey Noobies, those popcorn .gifs are Old".

They're not anonymous, so people can get banned / warned for crossing lines.  AND because they're not anonymous, people are more likely to give constructive criticism.  If you bitch someone out for something that they shouldn't be bitched out for, you could get bitched out.

[BBNut]

No, Loki is Tom Hiddleston and he's not creepy even though he posts on a TTC board.

Don't burst my bubble.

[sister13]

Jan 22, 2015 14:09:48 GMT -5 BBNut said:

No, Loki is Tom Hiddleston and he's not creepy even though he posts on a TTC board.

Don't burst my bubble.

Lol, @i_am_loki should have used the spoiler feature!

[sister13]

I mean Loki!

[nandaboob]

Well i picked one helluva day to make my return.

Sup bishes?

RE BOABA: I don't think we should make it a thing.

[sister13]

Also, I was not around for any BOABs, so I was fully working under the assumption that it was a single thread dedicating to hating on one person, so I'm glad for bbg's explanation otherwise! Such a noob.

eta: did I already post this? 

[cateyes]

Jan 22, 2015 15:20:54 GMT -5 nandaboob said:

Well i picked one helluva day to make my return.

Sup bishes?

RE BOABA: I don't think we should make it a thing.

Welcome back Nanda. Sup. 

[notlindsrockies]

Jan 22, 2015 13:02:05 GMT -5 @moonandback141 said:

I feel like the entire cast of Family Matters dropped off the face of the earth.

I just realized this is my first contribution to this thread.

The girl who played Myra died of stomach cancer when she was 30. So sad.