I hate Facebook today

[dannigirl]

Anyone else avoiding Facebook?

[Deleted]

No but i understand why... so much hype. Lots of us have had losses or infertility or crappy moms ourselves, and every combo in between. so much hype. hugs all around to those whove lost a mom, or isnt a mom but desperately wants to be..

[healz413]

Yup. I deleted the app from my phone so I wouldn't impulsively go there like I usually do. Sending hugs.

[RM80]

I avoided FB and TCF all day- it was hard enough without all the direct reminders. Sending hugs!

[dannigirl]

* possbile trigger, talk of loss *

I get it, it was Mother's Day and I celebrated my mom.

I also made a point of celebrating Jo, and she did the same for me. I know talking about the death of a child, no matter the age, can be hard. But I also don't want Jo to feel like she's not a mother because we never got to raise our little girl.

I like to remind people sometimes... Especially people that know Jo. Because it feels like the non carrier, female or male, is forgotten about after a loss.

Anyway.. It just drove me nuts too, seeing all the posts about how having children 'complete you' and all that.. Gah!!!

I'm over it now.. Well kind of. lol
I will be over it when AF stops kicking my @ss!!! She's annoying right now.

[healz413]

dannigirl, sending love to you and Jo and your baby girl.

I had to close my office door and have a big ugly cry today. Even though I don't think I'd really care much about mother's day if I had living children, it's a super crappy day to face when your baby/ies are dead and/or when you're dealing with infertility.

[wittyandwaiting]

I'm not sure if I go here but Mother's Day is tough for me too. I always take time to myself to feel all the feels and this year I read a few articles. I've posted them below but....

warning: titles may be trigger-y.

((hugs to all))






Surviving Mother's Day As a Non-Mom (Not By Choice) m.huffpost.com/us/entry/7248240

To the Women Who Aren't Mothers on Mother's Day m.huffpost.com/us/entry/7203628

A toast to all the brave kids who broke up with their toxic moms.
jezebel.com/a-toast-to-all-the-brave-kids-who-broke-up-with-their-t-1702954639