WTF Is Going On This Wednesday?!

[icequeen]

Good morning, y'all! What's got you saying "WTF?!" today?

[cindylouwho]

My TV is on, I can hear sound, but the screen is black. It's only like a year old. How annoying!

[Deleted]

I'm standing in a wedding in 4 weeks, and I just want it to get called off already. There are so many fights, the future husband doesn't care, and it's just getting so unbelievably messy. I love my friend to death, but she won't be happy and it will make the environment with her kids incredibly toxic.

URGH!!

[valie]

WTF boobs! Why won't you give me milk anymore when I pump. This is a pregnancy thing isn't it...

*Pumping and TCFing*

[mrsoscarfelix]

work, work, and work. I work with bunch of assholes.

[mrsoscarfelix]

May 13, 2015 10:17:41 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

May 13, 2015 10:16:44 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

work, work, and work. I work with bunch of assholes.

I'm sorry.

thanks. I work for my Dad and everyone here hates that I am the bosses daughter so they treat me like crap. Oh well, the pissed me off way too much this time and I am going straight to my Dad. I don't even feel bad about it.

[FDL]

This spotting can stop already, please!

[Sparkly]

May 13, 2015 10:19:38 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

May 13, 2015 10:17:41 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

I'm sorry.

thanks. I work for my Dad and everyone here hates that I am the bosses daughter so they treat me like crap. Oh well, the pissed me off way too much this time and I am going straight to my Dad. I don't even feel bad about it.

I work for/with my Dad as well. It is a very difficult position to be in. I'm "the owner" now, to the public. My dad retired (from that aspect) in January, so with the staff I have now, and having been here the length of time, changing title and everything, it's different/better, but in the past, especially when I first started it was so hard. I honestly almost changed careers because some of the old staff were so horrible to me.

[mrsoscarfelix]

May 13, 2015 10:25:35 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

May 13, 2015 10:19:38 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

thanks. I work for my Dad and everyone here hates that I am the bosses daughter so they treat me like crap. Oh well, the pissed me off way too much this time and I am going straight to my Dad. I don't even feel bad about it.

I work for/with my Dad as well. It is a very difficult position to be in. I'm "the owner" now, to the public. My dad retired (from that aspect) in January, so with the staff I have now, and having been here the length of time, changing title and everything, it's different/better, but in the past, especially when I first started it was so hard. I honestly almost changed careers because some of the old staff were so horrible to me.

I am getting to this point. I emailed my Dad today that I think we need to have a sit down talk because I cannot work like this anymore, it's just unfair. It makes matters worse that the VP's daughter works here and they treat her like a princess and constantly compare me to her because my Dad isn't in a lot and does a majority of his working from home. It's just getting old. I really got my feelings hurt yesterday because they are saying the I blatantly disregarded something that was asked of me and didn't do it on purpose, when in all reality I had no idea I needed to do it. Especially because it had to do with billing and I would never intentionally not bill something, the fact that anyone would think that is ridiculous - my Dad owns the company, why would I purposefully not bill something ! I have hit my limit with these people.

[Sparkly]

May 13, 2015 10:33:13 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

May 13, 2015 10:25:35 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

I work for/with my Dad as well. It is a very difficult position to be in. I'm "the owner" now, to the public. My dad retired (from that aspect) in January, so with the staff I have now, and having been here the length of time, changing title and everything, it's different/better, but in the past, especially when I first started it was so hard. I honestly almost changed careers because some of the old staff were so horrible to me.

I am getting to this point. I emailed my Dad today that I think we need to have a sit down talk because I cannot work like this anymore, it's just unfair. It makes matters worse that the VP's daughter works here and they treat her like a princess and constantly compare me to her because my Dad isn't in a lot and does a majority of his working from home. It's just getting old. I really got my feelings hurt yesterday because they are saying the I blatantly disregarded something that was asked of me and didn't do it on purpose, when in all reality I had no idea I needed to do it. Especially because it had to do with billing and I would never intentionally not bill something, the fact that anyone would think that is ridiculous - my Dad owns the company, why would I purposefully not bill something ! I have hit my limit with these people.

How long have you been working there? I noticed in your siggy you are 24? So I assume not a super long time? I only ask because, like I said, I have been there. Depending on your ultimate goal career-wise, my (unsolicited) advice is to stick it out. Definitely be open & honest with your father about how you are feeling, and stick up for yourself as best as possible when it comes to the other employees. If your intention is to work to gain experience and someday take over the company, it is a long road, that will be difficult at times, but I think it's worth it, and many of these negative experiences are important for your professional development.

I have been here 8 years. My position has changed/evolved over time, and we are just now starting the ownership transition. I was in some very similar situations with co-workers back when I started around 23-24. I used to go home and cry almost every night, because of 2 particular people (1 who left about 2 years after I started, and 1 who just left/retired/resigned in the fall). The latter, I eventually learned to work with, and even (sometimes) got along with her....although the terms on which she left in the end were not good. I won't tell the whole story, but the point is, I'M still here. At the end of the day, you're the owner's daughter. You will have to prove yourself and earn people's respect over time, and you'll also just never be on the same level with the other employees because you're not. But you will eventually get the perks of being an owner, as well as outlast anyone who tries to come between you and your dad, or the future of the company.

[mrsoscarfelix]

May 13, 2015 10:45:06 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

May 13, 2015 10:33:13 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

I am getting to this point. I emailed my Dad today that I think we need to have a sit down talk because I cannot work like this anymore, it's just unfair. It makes matters worse that the VP's daughter works here and they treat her like a princess and constantly compare me to her because my Dad isn't in a lot and does a majority of his working from home. It's just getting old. I really got my feelings hurt yesterday because they are saying the I blatantly disregarded something that was asked of me and didn't do it on purpose, when in all reality I had no idea I needed to do it. Especially because it had to do with billing and I would never intentionally not bill something, the fact that anyone would think that is ridiculous - my Dad owns the company, why would I purposefully not bill something ! I have hit my limit with these people.

How long have you been working there? I noticed in your siggy you are 24? So I assume not a super long time? I only ask because, like I said, I have been there. Depending on your ultimate goal career-wise, my (unsolicited) advice is to stick it out. Definitely be open & honest with your father about how you are feeling, and stick up for yourself as best as possible when it comes to the other employees. If your intention is to work to gain experience and someday take over the company, it is a long road, that will be difficult at times, but I think it's worth it, and many of these negative experiences are important for your professional development.

I have been here 8 years. My position has changed/evolved over time, and we are just now starting the ownership transition. I was in some very similar situations with co-workers back when I started around 23-24. I used to go home and cry almost every night, because of 2 particular people (1 who left about 2 years after I started, and 1 who just left/retired/resigned in the fall). The latter, I eventually learned to work with, and even (sometimes) got along with her....although the terms on which she left in the end were not good. I won't tell the whole story, but the point is, I'M still here. At the end of the day, you're the owner's daughter. You will have to prove yourself and earn people's respect over time, and you'll also just never be on the same level with the other employees because you're not. But you will eventually get the perks of being an owner, as well as outlast anyone who tries to come between you and your dad, or the future of the company.

I have been here a little over a year. I really appreciate your advice - a lot. I am going to have that talk with my Dad more-so to get things of my chest, so I don't combust. But I really appreciate your experience and thoughts. I do plan on sticking it out and yes, that's my ultimate goal. I am just so afraid of letting my Dad down and it just feels like some of my co-workers are trying to make sure I fail.

[Sparkly]

May 13, 2015 10:52:40 GMT -5 mrsoscarfelix said:

May 13, 2015 10:45:06 GMT -5 Sparkly said:

How long have you been working there? I noticed in your siggy you are 24? So I assume not a super long time? I only ask because, like I said, I have been there. Depending on your ultimate goal career-wise, my (unsolicited) advice is to stick it out. Definitely be open & honest with your father about how you are feeling, and stick up for yourself as best as possible when it comes to the other employees. If your intention is to work to gain experience and someday take over the company, it is a long road, that will be difficult at times, but I think it's worth it, and many of these negative experiences are important for your professional development.

I have been here 8 years. My position has changed/evolved over time, and we are just now starting the ownership transition. I was in some very similar situations with co-workers back when I started around 23-24. I used to go home and cry almost every night, because of 2 particular people (1 who left about 2 years after I started, and 1 who just left/retired/resigned in the fall). The latter, I eventually learned to work with, and even (sometimes) got along with her....although the terms on which she left in the end were not good. I won't tell the whole story, but the point is, I'M still here. At the end of the day, you're the owner's daughter. You will have to prove yourself and earn people's respect over time, and you'll also just never be on the same level with the other employees because you're not. But you will eventually get the perks of being an owner, as well as outlast anyone who tries to come between you and your dad, or the future of the company.

I have been here a little over a year. I really appreciate your advice - a lot. I am going to have that talk with my Dad more-so to get things of my chest, so I don't combust. But I really appreciate your experience and thoughts. I do plan on sticking it out and yes, that's my ultimate goal. I am just so afraid of letting my Dad down and it just feels like some of my co-workers are trying to make sure I fail.

Totally know how you feel, girl. It sounds like you are in a very similar position to me. I imagine we are in different industries, but the complexities of family business and eventual succession kind of apply to all different types of businesses.

There were many (many) times I vented to my dad, and sometimes I think it was really hard for him to hear, but it was important to get it off my chest, and make him aware of what was going on with people. Like yours, he wasn't around a lot, or on the sales floor (retail store), so he really didn't know what was going on or how people treated me (or each other) unless I told him.

[silverspoon]

WTF to my car. It needs a new ignition cylinder(?). The key just won't turn. Now it has to go the dealership and the closest one is an hour away. My husband teaches auto shop and he can fix anything but he prefers that mine goes in. I'm just annoyed. I feel out of sorts in my mom's car that we are borrowing in the meantime. I miss my satellite radio.

I'm also annoyed that this is a known problem they have but it hasn't been included in any of the extended warranties.

Yeah, it's only been a day. I'm aware of how petty it is. I'm also super grateful that my parents have a spare car.

[hoopoe]

So, I'm in public health, and in the middle of sampling for my PhD. Which sucks for a lot of reasons, the first being it's really physical- I have to lug heavy equipment around, set up and take down the equipment, etc. combine that with nausea and fatigue, and I'm really hating it right now.

But the worst of it is that I have to sample water from toilets! So here I am, spending three hours of my day in a dormitory bathroom(double gross!), next to a toilet!

To top it off, I'm here over lunch, and like you Sparkly, I have to eat to keep the nasuea away. So I'm currently sitting by a toilet, sipping on a smoothie, completely grossed out by the situation I have found myself in!

I promise my normal life isn't this weird or gross!

[silverspoon]

May 13, 2015 11:40:40 GMT -5 hoopoe said:

So, I'm in public health, and in the middle of sampling for my PhD. Which sucks for a lot of reasons, the first being it's really physical- I have to lug heavy equipment around, set up and take down the equipment, etc. combine that with nausea and fatigue, and I'm really hating it right now.

But the worst of it is that I have to sample water from toilets! So here I am, spending three hours of my day in a dormitory bathroom(double gross!), next to a toilet!

To top it off, I'm here over lunch, and like you Sparkly, I have to eat to keep the nasuea away. So I'm currently sitting by a toilet, sipping on a smoothie, completely grossed out by the situation I have found myself in!

I promise my normal life isn't this weird or gross!

You have all my sympathies. That sounds like the seventh circle of hell.

All my samples would be compromised because I'm pretty sure I would have vomited in every toilet. 

[hoopoe]

May 13, 2015 11:43:25 GMT -5 silverspoon said:

May 13, 2015 11:40:40 GMT -5 hoopoe said:

So, I'm in public health, and in the middle of sampling for my PhD. Which sucks for a lot of reasons, the first being it's really physical- I have to lug heavy equipment around, set up and take down the equipment, etc. combine that with nausea and fatigue, and I'm really hating it right now.

But the worst of it is that I have to sample water from toilets! So here I am, spending three hours of my day in a dormitory bathroom(double gross!), next to a toilet!

To top it off, I'm here over lunch, and like you Sparkly, I have to eat to keep the nasuea away. So I'm currently sitting by a toilet, sipping on a smoothie, completely grossed out by the situation I have found myself in!

I promise my normal life isn't this weird or gross!

You have all my sympathies. That sounds like the seventh circle of hell.

All my samples would be compromised because I'm pretty sure I would have vomited in every toilet. 

I have already worked out which toilets are okay for me to vomit in! Ha!

[silverspoon]

Also WTF to work bathrooms being so gross. Any chance that maybe I could breathe my way through it is gone having to go in there.

It's an office of maybe 100 and 95% are women. They are not tidy.

And back off on the air freshener!! Now it's just heavily vanilla scented shit. One spray and walk away. Someone is holding their finger on the nozzle like it's silly string or something.

[cindylouwho]

May 13, 2015 12:01:05 GMT -5 silverspoon said:

Also WTF to work bathrooms being so gross. Any chance that maybe I could breathe my way through it is gone having to go in there.

It's an office of maybe 100 and 95% are women. They are not tidy.

And back off on the air freshener!! Now it's just heavily vanilla scented shit. One spray and walk away. Someone is holding their finger on the nozzle like it's silly string or something.

This is the worst. You're not masking the smell of your shit. Why don't people get this?!

And your reference to silly string made me LOL.

[missglitz]

May 13, 2015 10:22:03 GMT -5 FDL said:

This spotting can stop already, please!

I hope it stops soon!

[missglitz]

WTF Wednesday. Yesterday was a 15 hour work day. Today sucked and now I'm home with DS for a snack and about to head back for an evening event. And all I want is a Starbucks Frappaccino. I can't help it. That has bad news written All. Over. It.

[valie]

Back story: We gave DS my maiden name as his last name. FIL hates this and as a result has only seen DS once when he was days old. We still invite him to everything (e.g. 1st birthday) and send cards with photos when he misses stuff. He just refuses to respond or show up.

Today I get an RSVP from step-MIL's father for DS's birthday. For some reason he feels the need to suggest that we hyphenate DS's name to help patch things over with FIL. Is he effing serious? He thinks we should change our kid's name to appease his no-show grandfather? WTAF. No. Just No.

[peaseblossom55]

Except for meat I want the food from every commercial I see on TV.

[Deleted]

So I am currently on a Baby month group on Facebook, and someone just posted "what do you think the gender would be". Someone actually had the balls to say :

"We definitely want a girl, and I sort of have this gut feeling that it is a girl, same but feeling I had with my son, but I'm afraid because of our timing it will be a boy. This will be our last so I will be disappointed if it's a boy"

I'm sitting here like WTF?!?!! Other women are defending this!! That's a shit ton of pressure to put on our future child's genitals! I would just like a strong, healthy baby... seriously?!

[valie]

May 13, 2015 18:28:53 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

So I am currently on a Baby month group on Facebook, and someone just posted "what do you think the gender would be". Someone actually had the balls to say :

"We definitely want a girl, and I sort of have this gut feeling that it is a girl, same but feeling I had with my son, but I'm afraid because of our timing it will be a boy. This will be our last so I will be disappointed if it's a boy"

I'm sitting here like WTF?!?!! Other women are defending this!! That's a shit ton of pressure to put on our future child's genitals! I would just like a strong, healthy baby... seriously?!

I like that she is having the "same but(t) feeling."

[valie]

May 13, 2015 18:28:53 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

So I am currently on a Baby month group on Facebook, and someone just posted "what do you think the gender would be". Someone actually had the balls to say :

"We definitely want a girl, and I sort of have this gut feeling that it is a girl, same but feeling I had with my son, but I'm afraid because of our timing it will be a boy. This will be our last so I will be disappointed if it's a boy"

I'm sitting here like WTF?!?!! Other women are defending this!! That's a shit ton of pressure to put on our future child's genitals! I would just like a strong, healthy baby... seriously?!

Also... gender =/= sex. Her words, not yours I know. This is going to drive me batty around A/S time.

[icequeen]

@erin2021, I remember you talking about this wedding. I guess the best thing for you to do is just be there for your friend if things really do fall apart. Sorry you are in this difficult situation.
mrsoscarfelix, I agree with Sparkly that you should try to stick it out and be the bigger person. Your father knows you better than your coworkers do and you will always have his trust as his daughter. There are definitely pros and cons to being in your situation but if this is your dream future, then don't let a few assholes who likely are not going to stick around ruin that for you.
FDL, I really hope the spotting stops soon. I can imagine how worried you are. HUGS.
silverspoon, hope you get your car fixed! What a hassle. I hate driving anyone else's car except my own too.
hoopoe, oh the joys of PhD research. I don't miss them!
missglitz, coffee is not going anywhere for me anytime soon. It sucks that starbucks is so far from me!
valie, sorry about your FIL being a jerk. I hope you and YH can find a way to tell him to mind his own business.

WTF to my butthole. I'm serious, y'all. I have had this hemorrhoid since DD was born and I went to the doctor today to see if it was something that should be removed surgically or if I should just wait until I'm done having kids. The doctor shoved some kind of instrument up there and it hurt like hell. How on earth do people have anal sex? I swear to God! So sorry if this is TMI but this morning really sucked.

[Deleted]

May 13, 2015 18:48:09 GMT -5 valie said:

May 13, 2015 18:28:53 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

So I am currently on a Baby month group on Facebook, and someone just posted "what do you think the gender would be". Someone actually had the balls to say :

"We definitely want a girl, and I sort of have this gut feeling that it is a girl, same but feeling I had with my son, but I'm afraid because of our timing it will be a boy. This will be our last so I will be disappointed if it's a boy"

I'm sitting here like WTF?!?!! Other women are defending this!! That's a shit ton of pressure to put on our future child's genitals! I would just like a strong, healthy baby... seriously?!

Also... gender =/= sex. Her words, not yours I know. This is going to drive me batty around A/S time.

I corrected her on that as well! Apparently I was taking things too seriously and that the group was a "safe place". 
**highlighted was the name of the board, not my words. 


I have a friend who has had a still born and numerous miscarriages. It kills her when she reads things like that on baby boards.

[Deleted]

icequeen, I love your life! hahahaha I think I have a similar problem I need to get checked out, but I just keep putting it off.

[icequeen]

May 13, 2015 18:28:53 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

So I am currently on a Baby month group on Facebook, and someone just posted "what do you think the gender would be". Someone actually had the balls to say :

"We definitely want a girl, and I sort of have this gut feeling that it is a girl, same but feeling I had with my son, but I'm afraid because of our timing it will be a boy. This will be our last so I will be disappointed if it's a boy"

I'm sitting here like WTF?!?!! Other women are defending this!! That's a shit ton of pressure to put on our future child's genitals! I would just like a strong, healthy baby... seriously?!

I fucking hate that this comes up multiple times on a BMB. It's fine to have hopes for or have a natural pull towards a certain sex, but I can't believe people are this fucking shallow. The end result should be about the health of the baby, nothing else.

[Deleted]

May 13, 2015 18:55:25 GMT -5 icequeen said:

May 13, 2015 18:28:53 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

So I am currently on a Baby month group on Facebook, and someone just posted "what do you think the gender would be". Someone actually had the balls to say :

"We definitely want a girl, and I sort of have this gut feeling that it is a girl, same but feeling I had with my son, but I'm afraid because of our timing it will be a boy. This will be our last so I will be disappointed if it's a boy"

I'm sitting here like WTF?!?!! Other women are defending this!! That's a shit ton of pressure to put on our future child's genitals! I would just like a strong, healthy baby... seriously?!

I fucking hate that this comes up multiple times on a BMB. It's fine to have hopes for or have a natural pull towards a certain sex, but I can't believe people are this fucking shallow. The end result should be about the health of the baby, nothing else.

I have 2 boys, and have always imagined myself with a girl. Now I'm not so sure, and I'm totally ok with it. I've just always wanted a big family with 3 kids and we are almost there!