QOTD 5/18

[happymama]

I know we have discussed some similar topics before, but how do you divide up the family responsibilities? Things have changed a lot for us over the last couple years and I'm curious to hear what works for you.
(Working, bills, housework, laundry, cooking, outdoor and car maintenance, childcare, etc.)

[happymama]

DH is works full time, and I work part time. We each have a vehicle and take care of the maintenance for our respective vehicles. We each do our own laundry. We don't have outdoor chores as we live in a condo. I do childcare pickup/drop off, and DH gets DD up and dressed in the morning while I pack her lunch and diaper bag. I get home later due to picking up DD, so DH cooks dinner and usually has it ready when we get home. We share kitchen cleanup, but sometimes DH does it alone if I give DD a bath and get her ready for bed right after dinner. We shop together every Saturday and meal plan together, which saves a ton of money. I do the majority of the remaining housework and DD's laundry since I have two days off during the week. We have separate finances and split the bills between us based on our current financial goals.

[Unknown]

We both work full time.
DH: Pays bills, does all the yard work, general house maintenance, takes out trash
Me: Everything else, DH will very occasionally give DD a bath, do the dishes after dinner or throw a load of his shirts in the laundry. Of course in his defense, I'm not keeping the house sparkling at the moment and my meals are not gourmet.

[junewife]

We both work full-time, but DH works many more hours and his job is less flexible (he also makes a lot more money).

Me: manage budget and pay bills, meal plan/grocery shop, daycare pick-ups, most laundry, dishes most of the time, house cleaning in between visits from our housekeeper (whom we just hired when DH started his new job and I highly recommend it!), most childcare during the week, and just kind of generally managing our house/life and keeping track of what needs to get done

Him: daycare drop-offs, cooks 80% of dinners, occasional laundry/dishes (not often). Takes care of his car.

[lilqt3929]

DH and I dont have "set" responsibilities but we've kind of fallen into our own roles especially now that I am a SAHM.

DH: works full time, pays the bills, car maintenance on both cars, big repairs around the house (like plumbing, electrical etc) some lawn care and snow removal, bath time for LO and reading to LO at bedtime.

Me: Cook the majority of the time, meal plan, grocery shop, clean, laundry for all of us, some lawn care and snow removal, take garage out.

Neither of us will hesitate to help the other one out with whatever needs to be done around the house or with LO (except I'm not very handy when it comes to the cars and big home repairs, I'm the moral supporter haha). I tend to take care of a lot of things around the house since I'm home and have the time to do it especially since LO likes to sleep in and I have her naptime to get things done too. I feel like I've gotten into a good routine to be able to juggle a lot of the home responsibilities.

[salemkitty]

We both work full time.
DH pay bills, car maintenance, house maintenance, take out trash and recycling, his laundry, sometimes after dinner cleanup

Me drop off/pick up, 95% of baby care, grocery shopping, cooking, my and baby laundry, general house keeping

[ajaan113]

DH is a full time nursing student. Cooks, drop off/pick-up for DS (my MIL watches him), yard work, and some cleaning.

Me: work full-time (super busy during the school year), everything else.

We both go grocery shopping. He likes going. We go to the Asian market for veggies, fruit, and other stuff we can't get at Giant. Then "regular" store, like Giant or Trader Joes.

[carli]

Right now I feel like I do everything! I'm still doing daycare dropp off/pick up, work full time, fix dinner, bath time and bedtime. I also do the bills and most of the household stuff.

However, I actually enjoy it and it doesn't feel like too much until I get big and pregnant and DH loses his job so he's home all day. Now I feel like I walk into a mess and a DH that has a list of things he's been waiting to ask me all day. It's a bit much.

Luckily he said today that he feels unproductive when all he's doing is job hunting so I'm going to start making him daily to do lists and get the help I need! He's a great hubby just doesn't see all the things I do when I look around at what needs to be done.

[carli]

After writing that, I don't think I'm giving DH enough credit. He does do the yard work, minor home projects, take out the trash, cooks occasionally and has recently taken over the grocery shopping. I think I'm just burning out now that he's home all day complaining about having nothing to do lol He does seem to be realizing how much I'm doing though!

[sugarkissed]

DH works full time, and I have a casual photography business... although I've put that on hold until after baby is born.

He works, pays the bills, and does the outdoor and car maintenance. I do most of the cooking and cleaning and 95% of taking care of DD. He'll have to step up a bit this summer with a newborn, especially if I have another c-section, but overall we are pretty happy with the division of responsibility.

[fiveohfive]

DH and I both work FT

DH: cooking/grilling, home repairs, DD drop off/pick up, rodent killing

Me: Bath time, bill paying, most pool/yard work, gift buying/children's purchases, insect killing

50/50: laundry, housework, bath time/childcare, groceries, meal planning, trash/recycling

I think overall we are pretty well split with our responsibilities, although having DD2 has changed up our routine quite a bit.

[lilqt3929]

May 18, 2015 22:31:12 GMT -5 fiveohfive said:

DH and I both work FT

DH: cooking/grilling, home repairs, DD drop off/pick up, rodent killing

Me: Bath time, bill paying, most pool/yard work, gift buying/children's purchases, insect killing

50/50: laundry, housework, bath time/childcare, groceries, meal planning, trash/recycling

I think overall we are pretty well split with our responsibilities, although having DD2 has changed up our routine quite a bit.

I LOLed at who kills rodents and who kills insects. Good to have that straightened out ahead of time!

[redfraggle]

I'm sure I won't give a complete list, but here is a rough idea. I'm a SAHM, DH works FT.

Me:
most laundry, DH does help, but it is easier for me to do it during the day
most sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, again, DH does help, but I do most of these while he is working
most bathroom cleaning, this is not DH's forte, so I only ask for help occasionally
weeding gardens
most bill paying, again because I do it while DH is at work
most cooking

DH:
most yardwork and snow removal; I have never mowed a lawn in my life
most garbage and recycling tasks, I help if necessary
earning income

Evenly shared:
Dishes
Bedtime routines and baths
Getting kids ready on weekends (I do it during the work week with very little help)
Childcare tasks when we are both home

[RedDDD]

We both work full time but DH is a self employed general contractor so his schedule can be much more flexible then mine. I also have a long commute to work but I am the one that provides the benefits, consistent income (Winters are slower work wise for DH and he gets paid in large chunks). But the down time he does have in the winter usually works out cuz kids are sick and DC is closed during the holidays.

DH: Majority of the DC drops offs and pick ups
Dinner prep most nights 
Mows yard
All home remodel projects (our home was a total 100% gut job and we have redone every wall, ceiling, door, window + a recent addition)
Gets kids ready in the mornings


ME: Most bills but DH pays TV, Cell (we just started sharing the financial duties)
Two days a week DC pick ups with 1-2 days a week drop off
all night time kid routine
Cat litter and feeds cat
Laundry
General home organization

SHARED: Dishes
Cleaning
Yard work/vegetable garden
Dog care

[happymama]

May 18, 2015 21:02:47 GMT -5 jnetx said:

carli Men just seem to be like that! (I know that's a generalization but I think it is generally true.) My H just doesn't see what needs to be done when he walks into a room. He can walk over toys and ignore dirty counter tops all day long. If I point it out, he doesn't mind doing it, but he just doesn't see the mess.

This is so true. Most men just clean differently than women. DH will do the dishes but it never occures to him to leave the sink clean, wipe the counters, or sweep/mop. He only does it when I specifically ask him. I've discovered it's not worth fighting about or trying to get him to change...instead we just divide up the responsibilities in a way that he does the things that he is better at naturally and I do the same. If either if us needs some help we just ask.