Tuesday Twatwaffles

[icequeen]

Good morning! Anybody got a twat in their lives? Sound off here!

[icequeen]

The ped office is being a huge twat. I called yesterday morning first thing to see if I could get a script called in for DD's cough and the nurse said she would talk to the Dr and call me back when they decided what to do. Well, nobody called me back yesterday and DD (and I) had a horrible night. I am totes calling in a few minutes and letting them know how unacceptable this is. Because I feel extra bitchy today

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icequeen, I hate that~! Hopefully you can get them to write you the script you need.

My twatwaffle is my parents. I'm desperately trying to save money to buy a house so my dad offered to watch my boys for a few weeks. Well, I told my dad he would start tomorrow and he is like "well this is news to me!" Oh and my favorite line "I agree to $50 a day"

Can I just point out that he watched my brothers daughter while she was about 3-6 mos every day for numerous months and DID NOT CHARGE MY BROTHER. BUT I get charged.

Fuck.This.Shit.

[itsmeally]

icequeen that would be unacceptable in my book too!

Hmmm. My twatwaffle today is my baby. Molar teething, cold/cough, ear infection, plus just BEING A TODDLER - mom hell. I'm actually happy to be at work today, although I miss her desperately.

[scorpioscuba]

I don't have a twatwaffle (yet!) but just want to say WTF to @erin2021! That's BS. I'm sorry you Dad is charging you

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scorpioscuba, thanks! I'm having a rough time with them. I don't know if it is my pregnancy hormones or what, but I'm definitely losing my mind lately

[diamondsndaisies]

icequeen I hate when they don't get back to you when you have a sick baby. I would call too!
@erin2021, isn't $50 a day a little high? Maybe rates are just lower here then where you are. I used to pay $20 a day and I thought that was a little high but doable. It being your father, I would be upset too!

My twatwaffle is just this whole moving/remodeling process we've been going through. DH is so busy he hasn't been working on the house and therefor it means we can't even being to start moving in. We are closing on the new house today and he has barely starting ripping up the old floor. With his regular job, the cows, farming and being an emt he is never home to begin with, let alone actually be home to get anything done.

Sorry, I just needed a quick vent.

[diamondsndaisies]

Also, my new twat is coffee. WHY DON'T YOU TASTE GOOD ANYMORE?

[silverspoon]

$50 a day for family?! That is outrageous. Where I live centers go for 30-40 per day. I don't even know where you can go with that conversation.

[silverspoon]

May 19, 2015 9:35:59 GMT -5 diamondsndaisies said:

Also, my new twat is coffee. WHY DON'T YOU TASTE GOOD ANYMORE?

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I usually like mine really strong. I've been watering it down with milk lately just to get it down. I have to have at least one cup a day.

[diamondsndaisies]

May 19, 2015 9:58:01 GMT -5 silverspoon said:

May 19, 2015 9:35:59 GMT -5 diamondsndaisies said:

Also, my new twat is coffee. WHY DON'T YOU TASTE GOOD ANYMORE?

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I usually like mine really strong. I've been watering it down with milk lately just to get it down. I have to have at least one cup a day.

I drink it black as well. It just makes me sad, but I guess in the end its probably a good thing. I drink WAY too much caffeine so I figured now would be a good time to cut back. 

[silverspoon]

Pretty much everyone I work with right now qualifies, but I'm sure they would disagree.

Oh your printer doesn't work? See how much I don't care! There's 50 in the building. Take a walk!

It's possible that I am the twatwaffle today

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May 19, 2015 9:56:40 GMT -5 silverspoon said:

$50 a day for family?! That is outrageous. Where I live centers go for 30-40 per day. I don't even know where you can go with that conversation.

I have 2 kids, daycare wants to charge us $1300 a month, so I asked my dad to help for a few weeks till our babysitter was off for the summer. He said it would want $50 per day.

[silverspoon]

May 19, 2015 10:09:26 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

May 19, 2015 9:56:40 GMT -5 silverspoon said:

$50 a day for family?! That is outrageous. Where I live centers go for 30-40 per day. I don't even know where you can go with that conversation.

I have 2 kids, daycare wants to charge us $1300 a month, so I asked my dad to help for a few weeks till our babysitter was off for the summer. He said it would want $50 per day.

I didn't even think about paying for two in daycare. I'm sorry your dad is being a twatwaffle.

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May 19, 2015 11:20:12 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

May 19, 2015 10:09:26 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

I have 2 kids, daycare wants to charge us $1300 a month, so I asked my dad to help for a few weeks till our babysitter was off for the summer. He said it would want $50 per day.

That's such bullshit. TBH if a friend only needed me to watch two kids for a few weeks, I would do it as long as they brought food for me to feed their kids. And toys, since I am fresh out at the moment LOL 

My parents LOVE their little routines. They refuse to change them. The problem is, I'm exhausted, emotional, I have GAD and have numerous anxiety attacks. They never ask if I need help with the boys. I would LOVE if they offered to take the boys for a night, or a few hours, just so I can feel like a human. But they refuse. I have a wedding to go to and asked them to watch the boys over night, their reply was "get a sitter".

[icequeen]

@erin2021, WTAF?!?! I cannot believe your dad is being so unfair. He didn't charge your brother, but he's charging you? Fuck that shit. I'm personally a little surprised that grandparents even charge anything to watch the grandkids. My mom would drop everything to see DD and never ask for a penny in return. I know everyone's financial situations are different, but even $50 is just absurd, especially when your brother didn't have to pay anything. You could treat him to dinner instead.
itsmeally, sounds like we are having similar problems lately
diamondsndaisies, I hope y'all get some free time soon so you can work on the house. If it's really too overwhelming maybe you can ask a neighbor or family member or friend to help out and make them lunch and provide beer or something. My friend did that and it was a huge success lol.
silverspoon, I'm pretty sure if I was in a public work setting I would be the most disliked/avoidable person around right now.

[diamondsndaisies]

icequeen thats been the plan all along but DH refuses to let people help if he isn't there.....kinda defeats the purpose if you ask me.

[zaydensmomma20]

My MIL charges us whenever I have to go to my college classes. She charges $10 a day. Thankfully, I mostly take online classes with an occasional on campus class or two.

My in-laws are my twats today. They come visit DS everyday. Which I don't mind at all. However, they bring junk food (honey buns, candy, etc.) every time they come for to give to DS. Me and DH keep telling them that we are having enough problems trying to get DS to eat real food. Every time, every single time, after they leave DS asks for more honey bun or whatever they brought until he goes to sleep. I can't even get him to eat more than a bite of his dinner now!

[gidgetgirl08]

@erin2021 I am so sorry your dad is being like that! My parents ARE my sitter - I don't know what I would do without them. icequeen I do pay my mom $150 a week for keeping them while I work but that's b/c I refuse to NOT pay her - I appreciate her time and I know that there are other things she could be doing.

[icequeen]

May 19, 2015 12:54:00 GMT -5 gidgetgirl08 said:

@erin2021 I am so sorry your dad is being like that! My parents ARE my sitter - I don't know what I would do without them. icequeen I do pay my mom $150 a week for keeping them while I work but that's b/c I refuse to NOT pay her - I appreciate her time and I know that there are other things she could be doing.

I also appreciate my mom's time and dedication to DD, but to each their own! I wish my mom was able to see DD that often. I was under the impression that @erin2021 was asking for a minimum commitment, not a full time job.

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May 19, 2015 13:11:41 GMT -5 icequeen said:

May 19, 2015 12:54:00 GMT -5 gidgetgirl08 said:

@erin2021 I am so sorry your dad is being like that! My parents ARE my sitter - I don't know what I would do without them. icequeen I do pay my mom $150 a week for keeping them while I work but that's b/c I refuse to NOT pay her - I appreciate her time and I know that there are other things she could be doing.

I also appreciate my mom's time and dedication to DD, but to each their own! I wish my mom was able to see DD that often. I was under the impression that @erin2021 was asking for a minimum commitment, not a full time job.

Ya it would probably be 2-2.5 weeks at most, and as of right now we are struggling to put money away to buy a house because the one we are living in is being demolished as of Aug. 31st, so I thought my parents would help for a couple of weeks.

They did help my brother for months, without asking for a dime- that's the main issue I'm having right now.

[icequeen]

May 19, 2015 13:15:25 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

May 19, 2015 13:11:41 GMT -5 icequeen said:

I also appreciate my mom's time and dedication to DD, but to each their own! I wish my mom was able to see DD that often. I was under the impression that @erin2021 was asking for a minimum commitment, not a full time job.

Ya it would probably be 2-2.5 weeks at most, and as of right now we are struggling to put money away to buy a house because the one we are living in is being demolished as of Aug. 31st, so I thought my parents would help for a couple of weeks.

They did help my brother for months, without asking for a dime- that's the main issue I'm having right now.

Erin, I really wish they would be more understanding and reasonable. Is there maybe something you could do for them in return? Like help them with gardening, around the house, or with shopping? Just some random ideas. I just can't believe they are being so hypocritical.

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May 19, 2015 13:23:10 GMT -5 icequeen said:

May 19, 2015 13:15:25 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

Ya it would probably be 2-2.5 weeks at most, and as of right now we are struggling to put money away to buy a house because the one we are living in is being demolished as of Aug. 31st, so I thought my parents would help for a couple of weeks.

They did help my brother for months, without asking for a dime- that's the main issue I'm having right now.

Erin, I really wish they would be more understanding and reasonable. Is there maybe something you could do for them in return? Like help them with gardening, around the house, or with shopping? Just some random ideas. I just can't believe they are being so hypocritical.

I've tried, but I think the problem is, I am very close with my mom so I stop by their house a lot. I just talked to my brother and he said he had the same issue with them and his daughter at first, so he stopped going around as much and never asked for help. Now they always ask to have his daughter over. The problem is I don't want to dangle my children in front of their faces like bait. I want them to enjoy and want to hang out with them. I always do little things for my parents like dog sit for them when they go on vacation, take my mom out for lunch, my dad to baseball games etc. So it's not like I'm being a selfish brat u know? I feel like they are closer with me, so they are more brutally honest. I hope that makes sense.

[icequeen]

May 19, 2015 13:30:05 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

May 19, 2015 13:23:10 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Erin, I really wish they would be more understanding and reasonable. Is there maybe something you could do for them in return? Like help them with gardening, around the house, or with shopping? Just some random ideas. I just can't believe they are being so hypocritical.

I've tried, but I think the problem is, I am very close with my mom so I stop by their house a lot. I just talked to my brother and he said he had the same issue with them and his daughter at first, so he stopped going around as much and never asked for help. Now they always ask to have his daughter over. The problem is I don't want to dangle my children in front of their faces like bait. I want them to enjoy and want to hang out with them. I always do little things for my parents like dog sit for them when they go on vacation, take my mom out for lunch, my dad to baseball games etc. So it's not like I'm being a selfish brat u know? I feel like they are closer with me, so they are more brutally honest. I hope that makes sense.

Yeah girl, I completely feel you. That's bizarre. I agree with you about not wanting to play games like that with purposely limiting their time with them to make a point. This is so weird to me and I can't justify their behavior. Maybe they have fallen under hard financial times and really need the extra money? I really have no idea.

[Lollipop]

My stupid neighbour is a twat. He is far too interested in our lives, and it seriously bugs me. So today, he brought over a bike for S. It's too big, unrideable (needs tire tubes?), and who knows where he got it from and whether it's safe. He probably got it out of someone's garbage.

S won't be using the bike, but I'm the bad guy for not letting him, and when we do get him a (safe, properly sized) bike, neighbour is going to be offended. I can't wait until we can move.

[missglitz]

May 19, 2015 13:30:05 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

May 19, 2015 13:23:10 GMT -5 icequeen said:

Erin, I really wish they would be more understanding and reasonable. Is there maybe something you could do for them in return? Like help them with gardening, around the house, or with shopping? Just some random ideas. I just can't believe they are being so hypocritical.

I've tried, but I think the problem is, I am very close with my mom so I stop by their house a lot. I just talked to my brother and he said he had the same issue with them and his daughter at first, so he stopped going around as much and never asked for help. Now they always ask to have his daughter over. The problem is I don't want to dangle my children in front of their faces like bait. I want them to enjoy and want to hang out with them. I always do little things for my parents like dog sit for them when they go on vacation, take my mom out for lunch, my dad to baseball games etc. So it's not like I'm being a selfish brat u know? I feel like they are closer with me, so they are more brutally honest. I hope that makes sense.

I'm sorry that the whole thing is twat worthy in the first place. Families/parents/grandparents can be super complicated sometimes.

[tez]

I am my own twatwaffle. I am tired and cranky any keep it all in until I am alone withy husband. I am not interested at all in sex, I lash out at him for every little thing and it is worrying me that our marriage isn't going to handle this. I don't know how to fix it.

[crimsonandclover]

May 19, 2015 11:36:05 GMT -5 @erin2021 said:

May 19, 2015 11:20:12 GMT -5 @iliketurtles said:

That's such bullshit. TBH if a friend only needed me to watch two kids for a few weeks, I would do it as long as they brought food for me to feed their kids. And toys, since I am fresh out at the moment LOL 

My parents LOVE their little routines. They refuse to change them. The problem is, I'm exhausted, emotional, I have GAD and have numerous anxiety attacks. They never ask if I need help with the boys. I would LOVE if they offered to take the boys for a night, or a few hours, just so I can feel like a human. But they refuse. I have a wedding to go to and asked them to watch the boys over night, their reply was "get a sitter".

I feel you on that last comment. My mom is across an ocean, and ILs live 45min away. They have NEVER watched the DDs alone ever. We have only asked them once in a very desparate situation and even then MIL reluctantly said yes and then was thrilled when we found another solution. She recently told us that she just wanted us to know that she would not be available even for an emergency because she just can't handle the stress and, after all, they're our kids.
Sigh.
My mom gets all ragey when I tell her this because she would kill to be as close to her grandkids as MIL is.