I would think this is a popular opinion but obviously not because they keep popping up on my fb feed. *possible trigger warning?*
Please do not post pictures of abused babies, or news articles of horrific abuse, or videos of babies getting abused why would I want to see that ?! One of the mothers of the most horrific child abuse cases in New Mexico is getting out this year after ten years. People keep posting the babies picture in protest. It makes my stomach hurt.
I haaaate professional lawn care companies. It's 7am, gorgeous outside, the windows are open, the baby is napping and they start up their annoyingly loud equipment. That being said, if we had the extra $$ I'm sure we would totally do it.
I would think this is a popular opinion but obviously not because they keep popping up on my fb feed. *possible trigger warning?*
Please do not post pictures of abused babies, or news articles of horrific abuse, or videos of babies getting abused why would I want to see that ?! One of the mothers of the most horrific child abuse cases in New Mexico is getting out this year after ten years. People keep posting the babies picture in protest. It makes my stomach hurt.
chicorojo I understand why they do it (the shock value helps people remember what she did) but I also think it's disrespectful to the victims.
I hate when people tell me I look good for just having a baby. Thanks. I had one almost six months ago. Would I look like shit if I hadn't had a baby?
I'll take the compliment!!! I've always been around the top of the healthy weight range so I wasn't expecting to be "skinny" ever after having a baby. I am 10 pounds lighter than when I got pregnant. I am still not skinny but I love the compliments even if it has a qualifier. No one is going to be like "wow, you look great" without knowing I had a baby...
Also, it takes most people closer to a year to get all the baby weight off so be nice to yourself! I'm sure you look great!
chicorojo add another post to the list. Someone on my fb posted a story about a woman's child who died after vaccinations. The woman who posted it is anti-vax and there are just some things that I have to unfollow her for.
chicorojo add another post to the list. Someone on my fb posted a story about a woman's child who died after vaccinations. The woman who posted it is anti-vax and there are just some things that I have to unfollow her for.
Ugh! Enough with all the anti-vax posts! Stop shoving your opinions down my throat! I don't shove mine down yours! (Sorry this subject makes me a super stabby batch.)
Lol my husbands friend doesn't vax her kid. We didn't know til she posted a link to a similar story and was like this is why I don't vax my kid. Then she asked for a play date and my husband told her no because she doesn't vax her kid and pretty much told her she was stupid. It turned into a big ordeal lolololololol, it still cracks me up. I love his no filter sometimes, he doesn't beat around the bush at all.
I don't know if this qualifies as a UO, but it's a little bit anti-AP. My sister, who is about a 9 on a 10pt scale of Attachment Parenting, just sent me a video of my niece, who just learned how to crawl today. At 11 months. My other niece didn't even try to walk until 14 months. Both are developmentally on target in other areas, but I think my sister overdoes it with the baby wearing, at the detriment of her children's gross motor skill development. I'm sure they'll be fine in the long run, but I'm feeling judgey.
ETA: I'd consider myself to be like a 6.5, so I'm really not anti-AP!
I seriously think you can wear your baby too much. My old pastors wife wore her kid all.the.time she's two and barely learned to walk and had to have physical therapy because her legs were too weak....
This was inspired by a baby shower I'm going to soon.
I think that second kids within 4 years of each other (especially if you are planning for more) should not require a baby shower. Especially one where you register for things you probably already have - like diaper trash can, baby bathtub, etc. It's not like your first kid wore out the bathtub...
Yes yes yes !!!! Drives me crazy ! I'm a bitch about second baby showers though.
Wow. Two and can barely walk!? That's super excessive, IMO. I feel like LO's dr would not be happy about that. Even 14 months is kinda crazy. I get the whole AP thing, but like many things, it can be taken a little too far.
I think baby showers for 2+ kids are tacky. Some exceptions... Mostly tacky, though. (I would never have one)
I don't know if this qualifies as a UO, but it's a little bit anti-AP. My sister, who is about a 9 on a 10pt scale of Attachment Parenting, just sent me a video of my niece, who just learned how to crawl today. At 11 months. My other niece didn't even try to walk until 14 months. Both are developmentally on target in other areas, but I think my sister overdoes it with the baby wearing, at the detriment of her children's gross motor skill development. I'm sure they'll be fine in the long run, but I'm feeling judgey.
ETA: I'd consider myself to be like a 6.5, so I'm really not anti-AP!
I made this same observation this week regarding delayed crawling/walking with my friend's children. It makes sense that without the opportunity to roll/crawl there is going to be a delay in those milestones. Purely anecdotal experience.
I (again) agree with mgk207 that I wish we had a better system for celebrating all babies in this country! I don't want another shower (ever, I feel sooo uncomfortable having people watch me unwrap gifts. At my family shower I actually had to stand under a fan afterwards because I was overheating from the stress of everyone watching me open gifts) but I think it is kinda sad that any babies I have after Braden won't be as celebrated by the families.
DH's cousin did a sex party (to reveal the sex not have sex) for their second and didn't have a shower. They had beer and food so it was just basically a party for the second. I think some people brought gifts but it wasn't a requirement by any means.
For someone that lives for fashion i think Carrie Bradshaw (Sex & the City) makes some pretty bad outfit choices
Yes!!! I think her apartment was much better styled than her actual results wardrobe. The cowboy hat with the tube top, I cringe every time I think about that.
My UO - I've never seen Girls and don't think I ever will. Not a Lena Dunham fan and it annoys my Brooklyn sensibilities.
My UO: I seriously doubt I'm going to be baby wearing once DD is able to walk, unless it is a special circumstance. At that point, she can ride in a stoller or walk. I laughed when I read about how Kinderpacks allow you to wear your preschooler. Nope, not happening.
Re baby showers: I guess I am in the minority but I love baby showers and don't think twice about gifts for second + babies. In my friend group we do a sprinkle for every baby, but it is just our circle of friends and there is no registry. We get together have cute snacks and maybe do a craft for the mom. We generally do a group gift for something fairly practical like a double stroller or restaurant gift cards. They are different from the big showers we throw for the first baby but still very special. I do side eye sending out a registry or throwing your own shower for a second + baby. ETA not everyone who comes brings or contributes to the gift. It's nbd. Re late development: I know a kid who developed large motor skills later and were held a lot. In their cases the motor skill that was late (rolling and walking) developed as soon as the kid was given a chance to practice. One kid now plays high school basketball and the other is a 4 year old althetic protegy. Both pediatricians were concerned at the time, but both kids were fine.
mgk207, I get what you mean. I really try not to judge other parents (unless they're harming their child or something), but sometimes I just can't help it! I keep my mouth shut because its really none of my business what they do but internally, I'm giving them a mega side eye
Yeah, like I said, I'm sure they'll be fine in the long run. My judgmental streak tends to come out from time to time. My sister is a really wonderful mother, and BIL is the best you could hope for (I posted a pic of him tandem baby wearing a while back). Their style just could not work for me. The 11 month old has never taken a nap outside the baby carrier. They sleep in separate bedrooms, each with one baby, because the girls can't sleep alone (I think, at this point, they should try LakerMama66g them together...that could be a game changer for them!) It's all in the best interest of the kids, but it's taking a toll on them as a couple and as people, physically and mentally. Those girls will never question if they are loved, though!!!
I am venturing into flameable territory here but I think some people take their parenting to an extreme that is best for them, not because it is best for the child. I am not into AP, but I agree there are some aspects that are good for development and very pragmatic. I think a lot of extremeists just want the label or to do what feel best for them. I have seen the same attitudes present in extreme baby wise followers. DH and I have spent a lot of time talking about how parenting involves a lot of doing what's best for your kid even if it isn't the easiest or most fun thing at the moment.
This is late but I can't get in to the perfectly staged photographs of babies, professional or otherwise, for every month or occasion that everyone is posting on FB. It's just too much for me. I put a lot of pressure on myself the first few months to try and take these creative and whimsical monthly photos and we tried three times to get newborn pictures (LO's schedule was so unpredictable in the beginning he was ether screaming, eating or sleeping so we always cancelled) and felt guilty for not capturing these moments at such a high level as everyone else was doing. I've let this go and love our candid shots and random photo shoots in our back yard with our tripod. Nothing fancy.
This is late but I can't get in to the perfectly staged photographs of babies, professional or otherwise, for every month or occasion that everyone is posting on FB. It's just too much for me. I put a lot of pressure on myself the first few months to try and take these creative and whimsical monthly photos and we tried three times to get newborn pictures (LO's schedule was so unpredictable in the beginning he was ether screaming, eating or sleeping so we always cancelled) and felt guilty for not capturing these moments at such a high level as everyone else was doing. I've let this go and love our candid shots and random photo shoots in our back yard with our tripod. Nothing fancy.
Yes! The staged ones just look so silly and unnatural to me. I mean, who leaves their newborn in a basket with some fluff in it in the middle of a field? And how many newborns can prop their heads up on their hands?
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