Moms having #3 or higher

[crimsonandclover]

It seems there are quite a few of us on here who already have at least 2 LOs. My DDs are 4 and 2, and I have to admit that we were on the fence for quite a while about whether to have a third. Both of us really wanted to in theory, but the reality of both of us working and chasing around 2 LOs made us rather reluctant to try for a third. What I kept telling myself was that if we didn't have a third, then in 10 years I knew I would look back and regret it and want to tell my past self to suck it up and have another before it's too late!

And isn't that just a ringing endorsement for having a third? Seriously, though, I'm both looking forward to it and scared out of my mind. How about all of you - was it clear for you that you were having a third (or more)? Are you only excited or is anyone with me in varying between being excited and petrified?

[lucanjo14]

We have known we wanted a total of 3 or 4 kids, but we had planned on spacing them out a bit more. Our DS and this baby (#3) will be only 18 months apart. Pretty nervous about that honestly. Will plan on getting on some bcp so that I can space out the next baby a bit more.

[pinktoes]

We were done - D.O.N.E. - done after 2. Sold/donated all the baby gear 5-6 years ago. Here we are with a 3rd planned pregnancy. Reality is that if we'd saved everything, most of it would have needed replacing anyway.

Basically, never say never

[crimsonandclover]

May 22, 2015 5:37:52 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

We have known we wanted a total of 3 or 4 kids, but we had planned on spacing them out a bit more. Our DS and this baby (#3) will be only 18 months apart. Pretty nervous about that honestly. Will plan on getting on some bcp so that I can space out the next baby a bit more.

Yeah, I was ready to TTC#2 about 5 seconds after bringing DD1 home from the NICU (hormones, what can I say...), and at first I said I wanted a third child pretty quickly, too. But after DD2 it took us almost a year and a half to actually decide that yes, we did want a third. And then it took us 7 months to conceive (not an eternity, but also not fast), so our #2 and #3 are actually spaced out quite a bit farther than I originally wanted! If all goes as planned, this one will arrive about a month before DD2 turns 3.

[amandflo]

It's a running joke between my MIL and I actually. DW was adamant before DD1 was born that we would be one and done. Swore blind she only ever wanted one, told every body about it. And then literally within days of DD1 coming home she wanted another one. It couldn't have been more than a week before we decided we wanted at least three, maybe four.

I'm glad that we waited a fair bit between #2 and #3. We found it really hard having a newborn and a two year old, and I don't think I could have dealt with a 4 year old, a two year old and a newborn. Now that both DD1 is in school full time and DD2 is in nursery in the mornings, I feel like I will have enough time to actually bond with #3 in a way that I didn't really with DD2.

[dizzycooks]

We've always wanted 3 or 4, but had if issues with number 1 and a loss so we were greatful for anything. #2 surprised us after a failed iui and many months of trying. We never avoided after dd2, why would we? Lol. Dd2 also never slept. She literally has just recently started sleeping so I kept saying we can't handle another; dd2 is amazing bc. Welp, here we are. I'm excited, but nervous. My girls will be maybe 4 and not quite 2. We will probably be doing bc after #3 because I need a bigger gap next time.

[bunnyfungo]

We decided pretty early on that we wanted 4 (together). DD1 just turned 3 and DD2 is 1. I also have two stepsons (10 and 12). At this point we are used to a chaotic, loud, and full house. I really enjoyed the 20 month age gap between my first two, so we are happy that we were able to get 2u2 again.

[jollywife]

We have always wanted three or four. We did iui with number one and were shocked and excited when we got pregnant after first pp cycle with number two. They are just shy of two years apart. We wanted similar spacing this time around but it took two years for my cycle to come back. Shockingly for us this pregnancy also happened right after that first cycle, so this one will be almost three years younger than dd. We're very thankful and still nervously hoping things work out!