Am I just being emotional? (1st appt)

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I had my dating ultrasound this morning. Everything went great. 1 baby with a heartbeat at 163BPM, measuring 8w2d which puts me at a due date of Sept 1st.

However, the ultrasound lady was just so mean. Mind you, I wasn't expecting balloons and squees because this is my first ultrasound ever, but the lady said maybe 10 words total... "Take your pants off" "Everything looks great"... No smile, no conversation... Nothing!

My experience was so off putting that I almost feel like I should change OB offices. Do I need to get my panties outta knot and get over it or is my bitching rational? What was your first ultrasound like?

[lilo]

I'm sorry you had a bad experience. Our U/S techs were different both times we went. They didn't talk a whole lot. But honestly you only see them a few times so if you really like your OB I wouldn't switch.

[cruisegirl28]

I wouldn't change offices for that. You see the technicians so rarely. I had some that were nice and some that were rude. I wish they were all nice, but maybe she was having a bad day or something.

[nocatanywhere]

Sounds like she doesn't have great bedside manner, which does suck Sorry. Unfortunately every now and then you come across folks in the medical industry that just... aren't good with people. Which seems like it'd be a weird thing to be when you work with people all day, but yeah.

I think it's fine that you feel put out by it. It's an exciting time for you and it's a letdown to deal with someone brusk and clinical. Like you said, you weren't expecting balloons and squees, but a little effort isn't TOO much to ask from a healthcare provider. Is this someone you will see regularly, or does your office have multiple techs? Maybe she was having an off day.

[Deleted]

Yea. That is true that I will only see them a few times. Thank you ladies! My appt with the doctor is Feb 16 so hopefully that one goes well.

[keen]

No you're not being emotional. people in the healthcare industry need to have good bedside manner. No they don't have to jump up and down in excitement for you, but they should be nice. My first scan (last pregnancy) was similar to yours. Cold and harsh tech. I wasn't even doing or asking anything beyond her capabilities, I think the only thing I asked was for her to turn the screen so I could see it near the end of the scan. Anyway the next time I was in I mentioned it to my OB who made sure never to schedule a scan with that lady again.

[London]

I can definitely see myself being annoyed, but if you like your OB I wouldn't fret. For all you know, maybe the tech was in an especially bad mood today or something. It's a bummer that she put a damper on things, but focus on her words (aka "everything looks great") and carry on with what's hopefully a great OB

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nocatanywhere I believe there are multiple techs. So I'm hoping I won't have to see her anymore. It was just awful. & like you said, I don't understand why you chose to be in this field when you can't even pretend to be friendly. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say she was having a bad day.

[mufflerlove]

I have never had a U/s tech who said more then a few words to me. It's the same ultrasound clinic and the only one in my town and they are all not friendly at all.

[jujubee]

At my first ultrasound with my son the tech could not tell me anything and had to wait for the radiologist to do their report. This was not at my OB's office though, it was at an independent radiology center. Maybe it's easier to just be mute than to risk getting too chatty and saying something they're not allowed to.

[sdfonz619]

Wow, I am sorry that was your experience, but I wouldn't changes offices over it either unless the practice as a whole makes you uncomfortable. Whenever I encounter people like that, it is always my goal to kill em with kindness. While I know it can be difficult to do, it usually breaks down whatever bad mood or wall they have put up. As PP's mentioned, showing interest in what they are looking at or what something means is a good way. Hopefully, this was a one time deal and it was just a bad mood. Congrats on seeing your LO though!

[snakefisherbub]

well it sucks that you had a bad tech but the good news is your baby had a nice strong heartbeat! yay! Honestly I'd probably be a little upset too but it doesn't seem to be worth changing offices over.

[indseylay]

I had a rotten experience with an MW my first time around, she just had horrible bedside manner. But she ended up being exactly who I needed in the delivery room.

I wouldn't chance offices over one tech. Maybe she was just having an off day. Glad you saw baby though! How exciting.

[mandy522]

I think everyone else has covered it so I'm just here to say congrats on hearing the HB! Such a great moment

[obie1680]

When I had my u/s with my son the tech wasn't allowed to say anything but what they saw like: sac, placenta, heart etc... My OB office has u/s in it so your appt with dr is immediately after and they go over what they see on it. But I never had anyone with a bad attitude but sometimes you get the lady that digs into so hard to get good pics that your belly can feel sore!

[andtheheartbreakers]

That's too bad that she wasn't very warm, but if you like your doc then I wouldn't worry. You get a minimal number of scans anyways so you might never see her again! Focus on the fact that you have a baby with a healthy heartbeat!!!

[BookishMomma]

Jan 22, 2015 13:22:23 GMT -5 @redandblack14 said:

I had my dating ultrasound this morning. Everything went great. 1 baby with a heartbeat at 163BPM, measuring 8w2d which puts me at a due date of Sept 1st.

However, the ultrasound lady was just so mean. Mind you, I wasn't expecting balloons and squees because this is my first ultrasound ever, but the lady said maybe 10 words total... "Take your pants off" "Everything looks great"... No smile, no conversation... Nothing!

My experience was so off putting that I almost feel like I should change OB offices. Do I need to get my panties outta knot and get over it or is my bitching rational? What was your first ultrasound like?

I have had technicians who refused to talk to me whatsoever. Wouldn't tell me what they saw, etc. I'm glad she at least told you everything looked great and told you the heartbeat!

[rubylovebug]

Jan 22, 2015 17:26:44 GMT -5 BookishMomma said:

Jan 22, 2015 13:22:23 GMT -5 @redandblack14 said:

I had my dating ultrasound this morning. Everything went great. 1 baby with a heartbeat at 163BPM, measuring 8w2d which puts me at a due date of Sept 1st.

However, the ultrasound lady was just so mean. Mind you, I wasn't expecting balloons and squees because this is my first ultrasound ever, but the lady said maybe 10 words total... "Take your pants off" "Everything looks great"... No smile, no conversation... Nothing!

My experience was so off putting that I almost feel like I should change OB offices. Do I need to get my panties outta knot and get over it or is my bitching rational? What was your first ultrasound like?

I have had technicians who refused to talk to me whatsoever. Wouldn't tell me what they saw, etc. I'm glad she at least told you everything looked great and told you the heartbeat!

^This.  I'm sorry she wasn't warmer, that does suck - but I had to see a specialist last preg & not only did the tech's bedside manner suck she wouldn't say anything about what she was looking it.  If you like your OB, I wouldn't consider a change over the tech.

[ugotstarbucked]

I'm sorry the tech wasn't very friendly, but I'm so glad you had a good ultrasound with a healthy little gummy bear in there!

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Jan 22, 2015 20:21:06 GMT -5 @sterling said:

I think they are trained to not say too much. It's very clinical, technical work, and I don't think they want to instill false hope (or dread for that matter) so they err on the side of not being chatty. And like others have said, you don't have much interaction with them.

Because of my loss history and having a very hands on OB, he does my U/S himself, which is great, though certainly not the norm, even at my practice.

From all the responses, this is what I'm guessing too. I would've tried to make conversation with her, but I honestly didn't want to distract the lady with a big plastic stick in my vagina.