Monday Bitchfest 6/1

[happyfeet9]

Part bitchfest part asking for positive thoughts. The tenant who is renting the apartment in our family home is a total con artist; hasn't paid my mother rent for 3 months, was supposed to move by mid May and still isn't budging. He keeps feeding my mother one story after another and we need to move in by the end of this month when our lease is up. She's going to court today to get an eviction notice. She's gone through so many headaches with this guy, I'm just really hoping it goes through and we are able to move forward.

[nbateman5]

I just want to bitch for being such a fatgirl. I just want to eat ALL THE FOOD. I want pizza, burgers, hooter's wings, funnel cakes. I should have had better restraint when I was preggers because a year off of being healthy really f'd me. And damn u H for encouraging the unhealthy habits. I gained 60lbs dating him for 6 years. Then lost it, maintained for 3 years and got preggers. We both lack motivation but feel so much better when we're skinnier.

[jesster88]

happyfeet9 That's horrible! I hope they are able to reach resolution in court although I hate it has come to that.

I haven't really had working mom guilt until today. DH asked I he could sign a permission slip for daycare to give DS tyenol for his teething pain. They can't give OTC meds at all. I completely respect their rules, but now I have to be on call to leave work because DS has been inconsolable screaming to the point of holding his breath when in pain. On top of that I am stressed by my tanking pump output at work. We are currently burning through the freezer stash and I have no issues with supplementing with formula. O just feel defeated to put so much energy into pumping only to not get enough. DH and I disagree about how much milk to send to daycare, so it increases the pressure to produce more milk.

[grlittle29]

Also on the fat girl train over here today. Ugh. So sick of having trouble finding clothes in my closet that fit. DH used to be a great influence on both working out and eating better, but getting pregnant again really set us both into a pattern of bad habits. It doesn't help that running with milk boobs is hard.

[chicorojo]

Add me to the feeling fat group also. This is the heaviest I have ever been. And although I'm not huge at all, I want to lose this dang gut. I think if I could just lose 12 lbs I would be happy.
I have no self control when it comes to food though !

[mlee116]

+1 for not eating well or exercising enough.  I think I'd feel 10x better if I had some damn discipline.

I'm so mad at my mom.  She and my dad moved away for the summer because of their job and I'm more than happy to help do things while they're away.  I've gone over to get their mail, check on the house, etc.  So she calls yesterday and this was our conversation:

Mom: The pharmacy messed up my prescription again and I can't get it up here.  I mean, its not like I need it right away, but it's so annoying.
Me: That sucks, can you use another pharmacy?
Mom: I don't know, haven't thought about it.  I was just going to see if you could go pick it up on your lunch break and mail to me.
Me: Yeah, I can try but I haven't been able to take a lunch break lately, so it may be later in the week.
Mom: Just forget it!  Anytime I ask you to do something, you always have some reason it can't be done.
Me: Um, I said I could do it, I just may not get it done tomorrow.  Work is really insane right now.
Mom: Well, guess what, that's life!  Just forget it.  I'm so sorry that you have such a hectic life.

Um, WTF?  You should've gotten your shit together before you left.  I have 2 kids, work FT and a commute.  Yes, my life is pretty hectic.  If you're too busy, so am I.  Of course I second guess myself, but I'm pretty sure I'm not the ass here.

[mlee116]

Jun 1, 2015 9:54:45 GMT -5 @txaggie08 said:

I have another bitch about myself. Why am I nervous about asking my boss to go to reduced hours tomorrow? It's my life, and this will be way better for reducing some of my stress. Plus she's super nice, and was part time for like 15 years while her kids were growing up. Should. Not. Be. Nervous.

Good luck, don't be nervous!

[chicorojo]

I just posted my above notch and then quickly woofed this down. No. Self. Control.

[mlee116]

Jun 1, 2015 10:14:10 GMT -5 chicorojo said:

I just posted my above notch and then quickly woofed this down. No. Self. Control.

I want! Get in my bellah!

[nolanova85]

Add me to the fat group. Like nbateman5 said, I am so angry at myself for indulging all throughout pregnancy, because now it is super hard to get back into good habits. I have 14lbs of pregnancy weight to go (but I really need to lose 18-20 to get where I feel good about myself) and have plateaued for the last 3 weeks. I've been doing much better this week so I'm hoping to see some progress at my Thursday weigh-in. I've been setting mini-goals for myself, and I really wanted to be to where I only had 10lbs of pregnancy weight left by the time LO was 6 months. Doubtful I will lose 4lbs in 16 days!

Another bitch: the people living on the other side of our duplex have some serious domestic shit going on. The owner, who was a lovely guy, died suddenly & unexpectedly in December. Whoever is living there now (not sure if it's his family or tenants - we never see anyone coming or going) has an extremely violent temper. We rarely hear them at all, but I was working from home on Wednesday and could hear a man just ripping apart someone who sounded much meeker, so I am assuming it was either a woman or child. I was home alone and it was the first time I heard it, so I didn't do anything other than tell DH about it that night. Well, last night it started again, and I think I could hear hitting or slapping, or perhaps something being thrown. Every bone in my body said to call the police, but DH is out of the state for work and I felt like I would be putting me & LO in danger (because obvi the neighbor would know who could hear them and who called the cops, and he obvi has a violent temper). I told DH about it again and we're hoping he's home next time it happens (well, we're hoping it doesn't happen anymore at all, but we're assuming it will) because he plans to let them know like - hey- we can hear you.

I just don't know what to do. My brother had a lot of mental and emotional struggles growing up and was often violent to the point where the police visited, and it was awful and humiliating. Remembering that, part of me wants to mind my own business because hey - all families fight, right? But if someone is getting hurt, I just feel like I have to do something - but at the same time, I'm nervous about risking retaliation. Uggghhh, we pretty much live in Mayberry, so this is very unexpected. Though my own family is proof that domestic stuff can happen in any household in any neighborhood.

Sorry for the dear diary post!

[nbateman5]

nolanova85 yikes, that's a rough and scary situation to be in. I'm sorry I have no advice but hope he chills the F out!

[nolanova85]

Jun 1, 2015 11:53:12 GMT -5 @txaggie08 said:

nolanova85 That is a tough situation to be in. Have you and DH gone over to introduce yourselves? Maybe apologize in advance for any baby cries and mention that you can hear through the walls. Nothing to indicate that you heard anything previously, but it would give you a chance to see the people and see if you get any creepy feelings about them.

That's a good idea.  Maybe we'll do that this weekend when DH gets back.  Play it off as LO is starting to teethe, so you might hear some extra crying...   thanks for the suggestion!

[neonsun419]

Can I join the fat girls club? None of my clothes fit properly...I lost weight in my legs/butt but gained a shit ton around my waist.

My bitch fest...we still have 3 weeks of school left.

Also, I've asked daycare not to heat LO's bottles beyond room temperature, and that's just to make sure the fat mixes. Today when I got there they had a two ounce bottle he hadn't finished in a dish of water on the stove. It was way too hot. I dumped it and we discussed. I have a great relationship with my daycare ladies (small center), but c'mon!

[happyfeet9]

Quick update to my bitchfest - the papers were submitted but legally they are entitled to a minimum 30 day notice from the time all adult tenants are served eviction notices (in this case 4 people, parents and two daughters). Because it's the beginning of June that automatically puts them into July at earliest, even if they get processed and served tomorrow. If the guy tries to appeal this, the process starts all over again.

Because our lease is up on June 25th with no chance of extending or signing a lease to lease, we now have to look into getting a storage facility for the bulk of our items and squatting with other family or friends for a few weeks.

This is where my mother's heart of gold ends up coming to screw us over. Because she took it on good faith that the guy would move rather than going the eviction route to begin with. It's times like this I wish my dad were still around because he wouldn't have put up with this BS. Sorry for the DD. I'll go open a bottle of wine now. Thanks for your support.

[chicorojo]

happyfeet9 sorry your family has to put up with bs from shitty tenants !

[beckyrosen]

It's still Monday for another half hour.

So, my sis is getting a divorce. She had her husband move out a couple months ago.

Well, my sis is out of state job hunting (and being a tourist) and her soon to be ex husband stops by my apartment today to talk/to explain his side/to get me to understand his side and convince my sister to give him another chance. Nothing I can say will change anything. I have nothing to do with it and I'm not gunna get in the middle. Plus, did he really think I'd take sides against my sister? And, what an awkward conversation that was...

[ThePregosaurus]

beckyrosen, Ugh! How awkward!

It's technically Tuesday now but only by 4 hours.. I wish I had that "Go the F@$# to Sleep" book right now. DS will not go back down like he normally does. I have to be up for work in an hour so if I go back to sleep now, it's going to be so hard to wake up. Boo!

[chicorojo]

Jun 2, 2015 17:18:58 GMT -5 mgk207 said:

Jun 2, 2015 5:43:33 GMT -5 @nedralynn said:

I know its Tuesday now but well I'm pissed. My manager puts out our schedules weeks in advance I write them down. She then tends to change them and doesn't let me know. Insteadnof working 8-5 today like I was supposed I'm working 8-8 as the only manager on today....

That just reminded me that I had a dream about you last night! I found you at your store and introduced myself as "mgk207" lol

I always wondered what would happen if any of us met in real life?! Like what would we say? "Hi mgk207, im chicorojo" so weird.

[nannygoat]

Jun 2, 2015 17:23:10 GMT -5 chicorojo said:

Jun 2, 2015 17:18:58 GMT -5 mgk207 said:

That just reminded me that I had a dream about you last night! I found you at your store and introduced myself as "mgk207" lol

I always wondered what would happen if any of us met in real life?! Like what would we say? "Hi mgk207, im chicorojo" so weird.

Naturally! Since we only know a hand full of real names... You are and always will be chicorojo and mgk207.