So far my sister knows, I texted her a pic of my positive test yesterday. Saturday my in-laws are watching DD while we go to my nieces dance recital so we are going to drop her off in her big sister shirt
We're a household of Chelsea FC fans, so I'm going to lay out our team shirts, DH, mine, DS and an itty bitty onesie and add the text, "Adding a new fan to the roster, February 2016".
We are making little gifts for our family members to tell them. Sharpie mugs and picture frames with the US picture. I think they'll like them!
I think we are planning on doing something similar for the parents. We'll do like... Grandpa, est. Feb 2016.. or something on the mugs. And we'll probably just roll up the u/s and place it in the mug. We might do that for my best friend too, with "Auntie Nicole."
I don't know how we'll tell family or other friends. We'll probably do something with the dog as our big announcement on social media. Not sure yet.
We sent my parents a picture of DS in a shirt that says "guess hoo's going to be a big brother?" And it has a picture of an owl. They are over the moon excited. We just told some other family members/friends. Our social media announcement will be DS in a cape and mask with a chalk board that says "every hero needs a sidekick. Baby last name 2.0 February 2016"
I'm telling family and work different ways. As for announcing to the world via facebook I will take a picture with my furbaby, 9mo, and then me with an "oh shit, i did it again" sign next to them. Maybe i'll add an 'I'm screwed' to the bottom as well for sarcasm. Don't get me wrong I love that i'm having another baby but this one is an even bigger surprise/opps then the first one was.
Post by akraus2015 on Jun 10, 2015 10:37:15 GMT -5
My excitement is getting the best of me, so we told our parents and a few of our very close friends this week. We'll probably do a FB announcement after the first dr. appointment.
We sent my parents a picture of DS in a shirt that says "guess hoo's going to be a big brother?" And it has a picture of an owl. They are over the moon excited. We just told some other family members/friends. Our social media announcement will be DS in a cape and mask with a chalk board that says "every hero needs a sidekick. Baby last name 2.0 February 2016"
Probably doing something like this ... but maybe not an owl shirt. DS would appreciate it if I found a truck themed shirt of some sort ;-) Also, probably just going to use that for everybody we "announce" to.
My mom already knows and I plan on telling my dad on Father's Day. Still thinking of a cute/creative way. Otherwise I have no idea what I'll do for the general announcement but I'm super excited to start brainstorming!
I'm telling family and work different ways. As for announcing to the world via facebook I will take a picture with my furbaby, 9mo, and then me with an "oh shit, i did it again" sign next to them. Maybe i'll add an 'I'm screwed' to the bottom as well for sarcasm. Don't get me wrong I love that i'm having another baby but this one is an even bigger surprise/opps then the first one was.
I don't know why, but this is really rubbing me the wrong way. It just seems super klassy to announce to the world that your baby was an accident. Maybe my own struggles with getting pregnant are influencing my opinion.
I'm telling family and work different ways. As for announcing to the world via facebook I will take a picture with my furbaby, 9mo, and then me with an "oh shit, i did it again" sign next to them. Maybe i'll add an 'I'm screwed' to the bottom as well for sarcasm. Don't get me wrong I love that i'm having another baby but this one is an even bigger surprise/opps then the first one was.
I don't know why, but this is really rubbing me the wrong way. It just seems super klassy to announce to the world that your baby was an accident. Maybe my own struggles with getting pregnant are influencing my opinion.
I'm also of the "sensitive to strugglers" group when it comes to announcing/sharing anything baby/pregnancy related, especially in social media. I'm sure that's not your motive, wicked22, but it might be something to think about. many would love for just one outside baby, the "I'm screwed" might cause some hurt feelings amongst those you don't even know are struggling.
I'm telling family and work different ways. As for announcing to the world via facebook I will take a picture with my furbaby, 9mo, and then me with an "oh shit, i did it again" sign next to them. Maybe i'll add an 'I'm screwed' to the bottom as well for sarcasm. Don't get me wrong I love that i'm having another baby but this one is an even bigger surprise/opps then the first one was.
I don't know why, but this is really rubbing me the wrong way. It just seems super klassy to announce to the world that your baby was an accident. Maybe my own struggles with getting pregnant are influencing my opinion.
I think it's different for everyone. My friend is pregnant with her third, and they were definitely not planning on anymore, so this little girl was a huge surprise for them. They aren't really FB people so they didn't do an announcement, but she doesn't seem to have any qualms about telling people that this one was a surprise. If most of the people know know already knew that you were done with planned babies, they might find it funny-ish. I probably wouldn't say "I'm screwed" or anything like that, but that's just me.
I don't know why, but this is really rubbing me the wrong way. It just seems super klassy to announce to the world that your baby was an accident. Maybe my own struggles with getting pregnant are influencing my opinion.
I think it's different for everyone. My friend is pregnant with her third, and they were definitely not planning on anymore, so this little girl was a huge surprise for them. They aren't really FB people so they didn't do an announcement, but she doesn't seem to have any qualms about telling people that this one was a surprise. If most of the people know know already knew that you were done with planned babies, they might find it funny-ish. I probably wouldn't say "I'm screwed" or anything like that, but that's just me.
I see your point but it can still be a slap in the face to those that have struggled to get pregnant or are struggling at the time. If that showed up on my newsfeed when we were going through testing I probably would unfollow the friend because it would be a total gut punch. But I'm a sensitive Sally.
For fb I was thinking of either a picture of dd with a big sister book or with a checklist (like be born, learn to talk, learn to walk, be a big sister). For family not sure.
I just told my family last time. For my mil we had given her a thank you card (since she helped h get a new phone) that said thanks for getting daddy a new phone, see you in October. Fir my fil and sil I had taken a picture of my nephew with a sign that said 1, my niece with a sign that said 2, and on the ultrasound picture I put a 3 and put them in a album on my ipad and told my sil I had a new pinterest project.
I'm telling family and work different ways. As for announcing to the world via facebook I will take a picture with my furbaby, 9mo, and then me with an "oh shit, i did it again" sign next to them. Maybe i'll add an 'I'm screwed' to the bottom as well for sarcasm. Don't get me wrong I love that i'm having another baby but this one is an even bigger surprise/opps then the first one was.
I don't know why, but this is really rubbing me the wrong way. It just seems super klassy to announce to the world that your baby was an accident. Maybe my own struggles with getting pregnant are influencing my opinion.
This is a super long explanation but let me start by saying I'm truly sorry if it's rubbing you the wrong way and for anyone else that see's it like you do. I'm not trying to offend anyone. This Is just how i'm trying cope with the situation at hand and the people that know me, understand my situation, and my humor. They will all be right there with me to laugh and cry.
I always wanted kids 2 in fact but never thought it would be in the way in which they are in fact oh shit moments. That donsn't mean I love/will love them any less then if they were 100% planned for or spent thousands of dollars trying to have them or adopt them. In fact my sister had fertility issues when trying to have her 2 kids that I had assumed I would have to go thru the same ups and downs when I was ready. She had both of hers after giving up twice and the last one was during her divorce.
In an ideal world i'd be married and 100% in love with my husband who i'd like to strangle on occasion. We'd either be ntnp, or trying and succeedin because again it would be a prefect world. In this very moment that's not the case at all. I'm 26, have a BS in accounting, have a decent job. Now add in that I live with my sister and here 2 kids, I am a single mom to a almost 9 month old that was born 8 weeks early. I've gotten all the bills paid or down to just 3 that equal about 2 grant on my own. Baby daddy doesn't help me out with anything and nor lives with us yet I am an idiot and still see him and obviously still sleep with because again I'm and Idiot. I make just enough to be denied financle assictance thru the state something i've never wanted to ask for but when you need help you need help. I just recently found out I'm pregnant again more then likely because while i was on the mini pill I had a round of antibiotics recently and didn't think. I'm not and will never play poor me, I'm owning my mistakes and will continue to do the best that I can and stay strong. My announcement is my why of laughing at myself for being an idiot and when my children are older and come across it I will explain it to them. I will also hopefully be able to create a teachable moment from this.
One last thing I don't have a problem calling my children accidents or that finding out i was pregnant was an oh shit moment for several reasons. My mother who is the best mother i could have ever asked for tells every ear on my birthday I'm the very best accident that could have happened to her. It sounds super weird but I've always owned it and even joke with her about it. She was 36 already had 3 kids, the oldest being 16, and she thought she was done with my sister 4 year earlier. She promptly told my dad to get snipped. So far all the grand kids of my family have been oh shit moments/acciendts for one reason or another and they are all growing up to be amazing, funny, adorable kiddo's. They all have strong momma bears that are willing to tell it like is and are do everything in our power to raise them right in a non ideal/crappy situation.
Sorry it was so long but I once I get going with a thought it just goes and goes.
wicked22 I'm sorry you're in an unhappy situation, and maybe the people who are close to you will understand the humor. However, I think the point people were trying to make is that maybe you should reserve that kind of humor for the people close to you, not a social media announcement. Most likely, there are people on your FB who are silently suffering (because, unfortunately, that's how pregnancy loss and infertility seem to work) and might be hurt by your words. Of course you don't mean it that way, we all understand that. We're just trying to point out to you that, just like some people don't know your situation, you also don't know everyone else's. Loss and IF are incredibly sensitive issues; it doesn't take much to hurt.
wicked22, I'm sorry you're not in your ideal situation. I agree with tkford216, though, unless your FB is only full of immediate family and friends that all know intimate details of your life... You never know what someone else is going through.
And I'm not even going to touch on the term "baby daddy."
Post by virginiaorjohn on Jun 10, 2015 15:04:34 GMT -5
My mom, dad, and two best friends all knew after we got our first beta results, but that's because they knew that we were doing IVF.
In fact, my husband was out of town for work when I heard back about our first beta. I texted him our results! Modern pregnancy and all that, I suppose!
I would like to wait until maybe the 8th-9th week to tell his parents and extended family, and then wait until second tri to tell the rest of my family. We probably won't make any announcement over FB or IG. I spent too many months jealous of other people's pregnancies, and now I don't even want to share mine at the risk that someone in my feed is having a bad IF day and my announcement makes them cry. Maybe that will change, but that's how I feel right now.
My mom, dad, and two best friends all knew after we got our first beta results, but that's because they knew that we were doing IVF.
In fact, my husband was out of town for work when I heard back about our first beta. I texted him our results! Modern pregnancy and all that, I suppose!
I would like to wait until maybe the 8th-9th week to tell his parents and extended family, and then wait until second tri to tell the rest of my family. We probably won't make any announcement over FB or IG. I spent too many months jealous of other people's pregnancies, and now I don't even want to share mine at the risk that someone in my feed is having a bad IF day and my announcement makes them cry. Maybe that will change, but that's how I feel right now.
I totally see where you're coming from on the social media thing. During the years we were TFAS, and especially during my CP, every single pregnancy announcement stung. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them; I was just so sad for my own situation. And of course there were those that posted fake announcements, or I found out about close family member's pregnancies through FB. It was about 75% of the reason I deleted my FB.
I'm totally not saying anyone else shouldn't announce though!
I would like to wait until maybe the 8th-9th week to tell his parents and extended family, and then wait until second tri to tell the rest of my family. We probably won't make any announcement over FB or IG. I spent too many months jealous of other people's pregnancies, and now I don't even want to share mine at the risk that someone in my feed is having a bad IF day and my announcement makes them cry. Maybe that will change, but that's how I feel right now.
I totally see where you're coming from on the social media thing. During the years we were TFAS, and especially during my CP, every single pregnancy announcement stung. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them; I was just so sad for my own situation. And of course there were those that posted fake announcements, or I found out about close family member's pregnancies through FB. It was about 75% of the reason I deleted my FB.
I'm totally not saying anyone else shouldn't announce though!
Absolutely, this exactly. Everyone here has some ADORABLE announcement ideas and I would like each one if we were friends on FB. I just think for me personally, I'm just not yet removed enough from all the IF feels to post something myself. That might change though!
I'm going to do a photo shoot with DH and DD in late July (after 12wk u/s) and then use those photos to send out pregnancy announcements. I'm old school, I still send mail. I won't announce on FB, I'm not super active and am not a fan of announcing big life events on FB. Last pregnancy I eventually (like at 7-1/2 months, posted one of mat photos).
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