Baby hates daddy? Help!

[vshumway]

Will A take a bottle from DH if you are there? I think you need to start having him do all of the parenting when you are home. A needs to see that his dad can meet his needs as well.

Honestly, I am not the default parent at my house. DH gets home about 3 hours before me, therefore spends a lot more time with her than I do. When she is hurt, she wants him. Knowing that your child prefers someone else is the most difficult thing in the world. I cannot imagine if she screamed when she was left alone with me. So ((hugs)) to both you and DH. He is going through a lot and I also agree that there may be more going on. But he does need to spend time with A, not just playing, but being the one to make him his food, feed him, change him, bathe him, etc. so they can both get comfortable with him doing it.

[HatTrick]

I don't have much to add. I think you got some great advice here. But I wanted to offer ((hugs)).

[tenniscourt]

I just saw this thread but wanted to offer ((hugs)). PPs have given great advice. I hope the end of the day was a lasting turn-around.

[katybriggs]

Thanks again everyone. The afternoon went smoothly and scream free!

This weekend we'll work on hitting the reset button. DH is willing rotate in more & I'm willing to relinquish some control. Hopefully monday starts out better!

[MissDemeanor]

Big hugs to your whole family. You've had a crap ton of stuff going on, and I deeply admire your strength.

I was wondering if maybe YH had a set time for help if that would make it easier for him to accept it. So rather than calling someone to come take over and feel like he's failed, instead have it organized that your dad or whomever comes over from 12-1:30 or whatever. There are days I'd do anything for a small break during the day, and going grocery shopping alone sounds like a dream.

Being the spouse of someone going through depression is hard! You needs hugs. And time to yourself. And maybe someone to talk to? You're handling your heavy load so well, but maybe seeing a counsellor might be beneficial for you too. Just the way we go to the doctor or dentist for check ups, I often think we should have mental health check ins too.