bluedot you have my full understanding and sympathy re:the hoarding issue. It's so equally infuriating and sad. I guess I consider it lucky my friend "Billy's" mother was a severe hoarder (also hoarded animals), like the kind on the tv shows. Fecal matter, mold, you name it...it was scary and I learned a lot about the illness and gained a lot of empathy from getting to know Billy and his siblings and seeing how hoarding destroyed their family. MIL isn't yet to the level of Billy's mom, but she's closer than she was when I first met her and she already had a pretty bad problem then. Does FIL not live with NMG because of the hoarding issues?
The hoarding is part of the reason, the other reason is he just doesn't like her. They should have gotten a divorce years ago, but there is a large farm in the mix and FIL didn't want her getting control of any of it... So they still go out on date nights and he tolerates her crap... just like the rest of us...
bluedot that must be frustrating on a lot of levels. It sounds like her level of crazy is a little multifaceted. Does DH do with all that?
He knows she is nutty. At the same time she's his mom, so he is conflicted... she drives him crazy with the hoarding and things she says and does, but he still doesn't want to hurt her feelings, so nothing really gets talked about...
the few times he has tried to say anything about the problems, she goes into a tail spin and throws out major guilt and makes threats...
NMG cancelled out dinner plans tonight because, "she is on her death bed" she is fine... she's just being lazy... or she heard that QVC will be selling something she can't miss. In sadder news I think I've mentioned that she is a hoarder... and has filled up the small home she loved in (owned by BIL)... well we think her dying game was to get FIL to let her move back in with him. The guy (DH and his brothers) cleaned out the house just this summer and got rid of the trash she left behind... it took many trips to the dump and a full weekend of 12 hour days. She recently found out the house was clean... and I'm pretty sure there isn't room to sleep in her place... so... ugh this makes me so sad for FIL... someone needs to tell her she isn't allowed to trash his house!
Will fil force her to get help before moving in?
It sounds like she needs help. She can't control the urge, unfortunately. Her gifts to you make more sense now. She see true value in all those things.
I don't think so... she's in counseling... but she just started up again... she always goes until the therapist asks for a family session... because then she knows she will be outted. Or if they won't prescribe her meds she quits too...
Post by djtippietoes on Jan 23, 2015 7:31:12 GMT -5
I'm so sorry katm84. I didn't keep up with the randoms after noon yesterday, but I was hoping your paycheck was just an oversight. That's really unprofessional of them.
@elf828 no, I mean a the bagel itself has cheese baked in/around it! Of course it also has a healthy Sandy Cohen approved schmear of cream cheese on it.
Sandy Cohen is my #2 TV dad I would like to be married to. Even with those eyebrows. I went to Berkeley too, we could bond over that I think, and make fun of the Newpsies together.
I love you both so much for these references!! DH is bald, but has what we call "Sandy Cohen" eyebrows - I love them
That's so frustrating. Can you call a therapist and leave a message about the hoarding? But then you'd need the therapist's number and she could still stop going. Ugh.
Good luck today katm84. I had something like that happen early on in my career. It really stinks. In my particular case it was the last straw to get out of an overall toxic work environment which was a really good thing.
I am inspiring so much lust. The receptionist keeps glaring at my hacking cough (I'm covering with my elbow damnit!) and the guy who moves the cars around on the lot has come in twice and not looked over at me once. He asked the receptionist if she is drinking green tea. She said no, honey lemon.
It's all very erotic in here.
Just scandalous!! I feel dirty just reading about it!! You Canadians are always toeing the line of propriety
Post by mosaicmoscato on Jan 23, 2015 8:26:01 GMT -5
Finally back home in GA, hopefully this gives me more time to (probe?)! Also if any mamas have any positive vibes/thoughts they can spare us today we'd greatly appreciate it! DH applies for a promotion that would allow us to live closer to family which would be huge for us!
Hey ladies! katm84 I'm super pissed for you and glad you are standing up. mamosey in my one short trip to Alabama I also came to the census that is does deserve the F.
For our date last night we got chicken & waffles!! So amazing. I've been missing out for sure. The place we go has the best food anyways. But my life is changed.
Did you go to Chappy's?
eta: It sounds like I'm stalking you, but I'm really not.
Sorry for being whiney, but I am so frustrated with MH. I feel like I am left to do everything, at least when it comes to LO.
MH ususally leaves for work 5:15-5:30, so I deal with getting myself and A ready for daycare and work alone. MH took off today and I took A to daycare, because contractors are coming to do some repairs. Did MH help this morning? no! Ugh!
katm84 I'm sorry it ended up that way with your boss. I hope she doesn't give you a hard time about gong back to your former position. I can't remember, were there reasons you'd want to stay long term? Or do you think you'll start looking for something else?
That's so frustrating. Can you call a therapist and leave a message about the hoarding? But then you'd need the therapist's number and she could still stop going. Ugh.
We don't even know the name or exact place... or honestly if she's really going... she won't offer up many details... she did tell DH she's talked about how mean everyone is to her... ugh
The other day I talked with DH about my baby fever. He said he's no where near ready to start trying again and we decided to revisit the conversation in six months. Then this morning, he tried to put a baby in me (if you catch my drift). WTF? I'm so confused....
The other day I talked with DH about my baby fever. He said he's no where near ready to start trying again and we decided to revisit the conversation in six months. Then this morning, he tried to put a baby in me (if you catch my drift). WTF? I'm so confused....
Today is not starting off on the right note. DD is a clingy, whiny mess. There is snot on my sofa. During the last diaper change DD rolled over, sat up and promptly peed on the carpet - like all in one swift move. Even the dog said "F this!" and went back to bed.
Edit: Google said she's 12, not much better than 1,0 I know lol. And you calling Shia an adult made me feel old(cause I went to middle school with him) even though I know I am an adult.
Whoa! I just saw the edit now! 12 sounds more right than 10, but still... yeah.
And you did?? I had no idea! What was he like back then? I feel sad for him. I don't know what's going on but I hope he's getting things sorted out.
Did you see the Rob Cantor video? I was really confused by it until the end. And then I was more confused. And then I was hopeful that maybe he's getting to a better place and just has a great sense of humour? I don't know.
Good morning ladies. I've been lurking about the last few days but haven't been able to post much. We're in teething hell right now and PP AF is no joke. I am so ready for this week to be over.
Good luck katm84 and hashtagrainbow. DH is getting screwed over by his current employer and I wish he could take a stand like you are, but alas, we're a single income family of 5 so can't risk it.
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