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Jun 20, 2015 8:49:55 GMT -5
Post by mrswheelo on Jun 20, 2015 8:49:55 GMT -5
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I know alot of us have graduated to other boards & the activity is low, but I thought I would check in here, just in case there were any new members or anyone lurking.
AFM, it has been 7 months since Lane and Lydia were born and died. I can't get my head around how life has went on without them sometimes. Of course, I never go a day without thinking of them, so I can't say I'm without them. I miss my special babies so much. I'm finally in a place now, that isn't sad all of the time. I can think of them without crying. Now, when I remember them, I think of how precious they were. How tiny their little hands and feet were. How they each had features that mirrored myself and MH. They were amazing. And I'm lucky to be their mother.
The most difficult issue I've had to face so far, is friends/family acting as though they didn't exist. I'm sure they don't mean it, but it is painful. My children aren't any less real bc they died. I don't love them any less. And it doesn't hurt any less. I don't understand why ppl do this. You don't pretend someone never had a mother just because she has passed away. So this has been a challenge for me. And the best way I've found to deal with it so far, has been to politely correct them. it is uncomfortable at first, but I dont feel bad afterwards.
I know alot of us have graduated to other boards & the activity is low, but I thought I would check in here, just in case there were any new members or anyone lurking.
AFM, it has been 7 months since Lane and Lydia were born and died. I can't get my head around how life has went on without them sometimes. Of course, I never go a day without thinking of them, so I can't say I'm without them. I miss my special babies so much. I'm finally in a place now, that isn't sad all of the time. I can think of them without crying. Now, when I remember them, I think of how precious they were. How tiny their little hands and feet were. How they each had features that mirrored myself and MH. They were amazing. And I'm lucky to be their mother.
The most difficult issue I've had to face so far, is friends/family acting as though they didn't exist. I'm sure they don't mean it, but it is painful. My children aren't any less real bc they died. I don't love them any less. And it doesn't hurt any less. I don't understand why ppl do this. You don't pretend someone never had a mother just because she has passed away. So this has been a challenge for me. And the best way I've found to deal with it so far, has been to politely correct them. it is uncomfortable at first, but I dont feel bad afterwards.
Anyway, thanks for hearing me out & I hope everyone is doing well.