Post by pdxlaurens on Jan 23, 2015 10:41:18 GMT -5
So our LO is the first grand baby for 3 of our 4 parents. My dad and his wife have grandbabies from her kids and those kids call them papa and noni. I figure our kid probably will too since he's likely to pick that up from his "cousins". For the rest of our parents I gave them the option of picking what they wanted to be called as grandparents. I know that many new talkers end up naming their own grandparents so in reality this may change and I mostly did it just to appease our parents. We will refer to our parents by these names with him until they're otherwise named. My husband's parents want to be Grandma and Grandpa which is fine and my dad and his wife want to be Papa and Noni still which is also fine. The one I'm not sure if I should discourage is my mom. This morning she mentioned she wants to be called honey. The part that's weird about that is that that's her first name. Is it weird that my kid would call my parent by their first name when I don't? It's an unusual name so it kind of sounds like a grandparent nickname so maybe I should just let it be. Anyone else have a parent wanting an unusual grandparent nickname? I just can't decide if I should let nature take it's course here or encourage my mom to be "grandma honey" or some other variation. I know it's a silly thing to be worrying about but on 2 hours of sleep things seem to stick in my head.
Post by neonsun419 on Jan 23, 2015 10:58:48 GMT -5
My 4 year old uses the title "grandma/grammy" and "pappy" before using their first names - think: "grandma Jane". We did this because my paternal grandmother was not a nice person and my mom didn't want to be called Grandma-last-name. It thoroughly annoys my MIL to not be Grandma-last-name, but not enough for her to use her words and say something about it. IMO let the grandparents dictate what they want to be called. When I was little I used to call my maternal grandfather "pep-pep" until I was like 8 and my grandma asked us to call him grandpap.
Post by seerealsky on Jan 23, 2015 11:16:46 GMT -5
We always called my maternal grandparents "Grandma Jo and Grandpa Orville", so to me "Grandma Honey" would be normal.
My parents and my husband's father all like just the plain ol' grandma and grandpa. But husband's mother wants to be called "Oma." (She is also under 40, which plays the biggest role in that she feels like she isn't old enough to be "grandma.")
I don't think I'd like to call my grandparents by their first name, and I don't think I'd like to hear my daughter call hers by only their first name. My best friend has a grandma Honey and even I call her grandma honey instead of just Honey haha. My dad is grandpa and my mom is Babi (pronounced bubby-it's Czech for grandma).
My in laws are called Ma and Poppy by my niece and nephew so that's what will probably continue with my girls too. The twins are the first grand babies for my parents and I believe they're planning the traditional grandma and grandpa.
Post by gdaniels77 on Jan 23, 2015 12:41:02 GMT -5
I just feel like a kid calling their parents/grandparents by their names is a bit disrespectful sounding, even if it's at the request of said grandparent. But Grandma So-and-So sounds much better than just So-and-So.
My ILs are the standard Grandma and Grandpa, and DH's biological mother and her husband requested to be Gammy and Pop, all of which were established with my stepson. On my side this is the first grandchild and my parents are being really weird with names. My mom wants to be Mamina, which is what we call my grandmother, but she realizes this may be difficult to pick up so she's fine with Mamina or Abuela but strictly not Abuelita because supposedly that makes her sound "old". My stepmom is Nana. My dad has always said he wanted to be called Old Dave (no joke) until a few weeks before LO got here and I told him to seriously consider if that's what he wanted to be known as for the rest of his life. He came up with Papa but pronounced pa-PA as if his grandchildren are magically going to be French, and he writes it out as Pa'pa... No idea why. He said he just doesn't want to be Granddaddy, because then people would have the connotation that he wears stinky overalls and chews tobacco. So naturally, we've all been calling him Granddaddy
My parents are grandma and grandpa. My mother in law is grandma or grandma Lou to the other 25 cousins... That being said, DD calls both grandmas mama (her version of grandma) and my dad papa (her version of grandpa) I have gotten in the habit of referring to them as mama and papa. I'm curious to see if it sticks or if it will turn into grandma and grandpa
Post by liljsmomma on Jan 23, 2015 13:43:46 GMT -5
My parents are Nan and Pa that's just what they wanted to be called plus it's easier to day at first then grandma and grandpa! DHs parents are baba and geda I'm not sure if it's a Ukrainian thing or not but that's what all the grandparents on that side are called
Post by frenchy816 on Jan 23, 2015 14:36:27 GMT -5
My dad wants to be called 'Bumper'. It's weird, but it fits him because my dad is a strange man, in the best way possible. He really wanted to go by his childhood nickname, but we all nixed that. My mom is going by Grammy and DH's mom is Grandma.
Post by pdxlaurens on Jan 23, 2015 17:43:08 GMT -5
thanks all for your input! I still haven't decided what to do with my mom but some of the alternates that are out there are really interesting. Maybe I'll let her think she's going to be just honey to him and then see what he actually ends up calling her. My mom had a rough week so I'll let it be for now either way.
Post by beckyrosen on Jan 23, 2015 17:49:23 GMT -5
My parents are Grammy and Bobop, although when DS was little he insisted on calling her Mom because that's what I called her. He would get mad at me when I would try to correct him. I'm not sure what DD will call my husband's mom (this is his first child, and I don't know what his sisters kids call her).
Post by amyface813 on Jan 23, 2015 18:43:38 GMT -5
My parents are Meme and Papa. Meme was part of my first nephews naming system. There was mama, meme (Grammy) and Mayme (Amy). Bian (Brian), and Adern (Adam). We all occasionally still go by those names because they were so cute coming out of his little mouth!
My dad is Saba (Hebrew for grandpa), his wife is FeeFee which is a variant on her name and what her grandkids call her that my nephew made up. My mom is Nonny, which began as Nana but got changed by my nephew. DH's parents are Grandma and Poppa. My grandma is Gigi/G.G. (for great grandma), DH's grandparents are Granny (what he calls her too), and Oma and Opa LastName.
Post by apsalartoll on Jan 23, 2015 21:30:06 GMT -5
My parents have no preference about what to be called, so we are going with default Grandpa and Grandma. If LO comes up with other names when she starts talking that's fine. My ILs are French Canadian and they already have grandchildren who call them Grandpapa and Grandmaman so we'll go with that. My grandmother is Granny and I actually don't know what DH's nieces and nephew call their great-grandmothers. LO won't meet them until this summer anyway.
My parents are Nan and Pa that's just what they wanted to be called plus it's easier to day at first then grandma and grandpa! DHs parents are baba and geda I'm not sure if it's a Ukrainian thing or not but that's what all the grandparents on that side are called
Yes, that's a Ukrainian thing. My cousin's wife is Ukrainian and this is what their son calls her mother, though they use a different name for grandfather. There are several ways to say 'grandpa' in Ukrainian.
Good to know!! I've always thought it was a Ukrainian thing but never actually confirmed it with the in laws!
I would use Grandma Honey or some other prefix, personally. It's how I grew up knowing my grandparents so it's what makes sense to me. I feel like it's a bit more respectful to have an endearing name before the actual name. But if your mom isn't ready to be called grandma and really prefers Honey, then go for it. The one that's confusing for me is DH's dad will be grandpa, and his wife recently sent a card calling herself aunt. She had a rough relationship with DH years ago but there aren't any problems anymore. I don't want her to feel like she can't be called grandma, but I also don't want to force her into being called something she doesn't want. Though I feel like having grandpa married to aunt is a little too inbred sounding for me...
I would use Grandma Honey or some other prefix, personally. It's how I grew up knowing my grandparents so it's what makes sense to me. I feel like it's a bit more respectful to have an endearing name before the actual name. But if your mom isn't ready to be called grandma and really prefers Honey, then go for it. The one that's confusing for me is DH's dad will be grandpa, and his wife recently sent a card calling herself aunt. She had a rough relationship with DH years ago but there aren't any problems anymore. I don't want her to feel like she can't be called grandma, but I also don't want to force her into being called something she doesn't want. Though I feel like having grandpa married to aunt is a little too inbred sounding for me...
do you think your DH's dad's wife is just trying not to step on the toes of the "actual" grandma? I know my mom would be livid if my dad's wife wanted to be called grandma even though my mom doesn't want the title, lol.
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