Career Goals for your SO

[cl8badb]

Id say his goal is to be partner at his accounting firm. He'd love to meet that goal within the next 5 years.
I dont feel like i sacraficed my career for his. Right now i just feel like my career is put on hold to be home with J.

[daffy2k]

Long term goal is to be superintendent of the area, ideally in the next 10 or so years. I've never met a superintendent under 40, maybe even 45, so if he makes that he'd be the youngest. He was recently promoted to lead and hopefully will get area foreman in another few years.

I don't feel like I sacrificed my career for his, so much as I sacrificed it for our kids. We mutually decided that it was best for our family for me to stay home until the kids were in school. And it doesn't really feel like much of a "sacrifice" to me anyways. I love being at home with M and can't really imagine being happy if I jumped back into work where I left off.

[huckleberry08]

I just want him to be happy. I know that he likes what he does, but not his current position. He would love to teach but I'm not sure how to make that happen, especially since we both want to try for another baby. He is making sacrifices right now for the sake of income and flexibility. We're getting to the age where it will be tough to make a career change, though, and that worries me.

[vitafelix]

DH doesn't really know what he wants to do with his life. He's better than most people at most things (which gets annoying), so he has a lot of options and just doesn't know what to pursue. Lately he's been talking about being VP of some sort of company (probably software related) in the next 5 or so years. He opted not to go to grad school so he could work and I could get my bachelor's degree. He still only has a Bachelor's and makes about twice the amount that I do with a master's. I don't know that he really enjoys the work he's doing now, but it does keep him very busy and he needs that. He is intolerable when he's bored. He has also been working on developing an rpg (similar to D&D), that I think may get off the ground in the next 5-10 years. I think he would be really happy working for StarCity or Wizards, but he doesn't think he can get anything that would pay nearly as well as his current job and he can't justify the pay cut.

[majwv8]

H works in IT. He has been working at a hospital for about 8 years now. He's moved up a bit in status while he's been there and there have been weird mergers and new buildings and things happening while he's been there - he's technically worked for 3 different companies even though he never changed jobs.

The only two people above him are set to retire in the next 5 or so years so I think he has his eye on taking over their positions. He's kind of cornered himself into the healthcare market since he knows so much about it now. He doesn't have a whole lot of ambition to go out and do anything crazy, so I can't see him leaving where he is at because he makes good money and has good hours.

[ordinaryme]

He has one goal: full time firefighter/EMT. That's all he wants to be and that's what he has wanted since he was a kid. I'm hoping this happens for him soon, because he is really done with the company he is currently working for. I don't feel I've sacrificed anything for this to happen. I've always worked with kids, and I've always wanted to be a mom. I feel if he gets his dream job, it will help me in the fact that I will be able to go back to school and get my degree.

[melohdy]

He's in school now to be an engineer. I'm praying that he's working in his field in 5 years. His career goals have changed a ton over time. He also now wants to be Career [reserve] military where before he wanted to do his 6 years and get out.

I haven't sacrificed my career (I'm the breadwinner) but I've sacrificed some advancement by letting him go to school now. If I started a master's program when he started school I'd be done and making $20k more than I'm making now.

[callmeKD]

his goal is to be a court administrator. he's working his way up. no I don't feel like I've sacrificed my career goals.

[callmeKD]

I would actually prefer for him to be the breadwinner for the rest of our lives. It would take the stress off of me.

[sctiger]

My husband develops software for oil companies. He likes his job okay but it's not really what he wants to be doing. He will finish his masters in computer engineering in August and will look for a new job after. He would like to be more in the robotics area of computer engineering. Since I'm a school employee our careers are very compatible. Luckily he works very typical, predictable hours.

[nursemommy13]

My XH's career goal was to become a big shot actor. Bahahahaha

I think that's why we are divorced. I never "supported" his dreams.

Wonder how his new girlfriend feels about that. Lol

[nursemommy13]

Jan 23, 2015 13:36:58 GMT -5 thelorax said:

Jan 23, 2015 13:12:11 GMT -5 nursemommy13 said:

My XH's career goal was to become a big shot actor. Bahahahaha

I think that's why we are divorced. I never "supported" his dreams.

Wonder how his new girlfriend feels about that. Lol

Did they have the baby yet? (sorry if that is a sore spot. Feel free to ignore me) 

No sore spot. No worries!

I believe she is due in 3ish weeks. I've been insta-stalking for updates lol. Cause I know he will back out on his days to watch M when that baby comes.

[subliminalrabbit]

DH's goal is to be a tenured creative writing professor and regularly published author. I really hope both are in the cards for him soon, because I supported him in these goals emotionally and financially for so long and it's frankly been exhausting.

I didn't give up any career goals for his. We were lucky enough that change came in the best way for both of us at the same time.

[megaroo64]

My H is in IT. He's been at the same company for almost 20 years- we are old, and he started there as an intern in college. If you asked him a year ago where he wanted to be in 5,10,15 years he would have said still with his company. However, they are making a lot of changes and he is really unhappy so he is meeting with a recruiter next week. I think now his goals absolutely involve leaving his current position. I think he won't make any other goals until that is fulfilled.

[ciahanna]

DH is the third lowest on the sheriff depth totem pole. He doesn't have the opportunity to move up because there's literally nowhere to go unless someone retires and that won't happen anytime soon. He's looking into other departments but that means starting over when he's already got 13 years in. When he does retire he's got a backup though. He's a certified accident investigator so he could always work for an insurance company or something.
I've gotten to where I'm ok with his work,I'm not thrilled to always worry about his safety. I can't think about it often or I'll go crazy.

[daffy2k]

Jan 23, 2015 17:51:52 GMT -5 ciahanna said:

DH is the third lowest on the sheriff depth totem pole. He doesn't have the opportunity to move up because there's literally nowhere to go unless someone retires and that won't happen anytime soon. He's looking into other departments but that means starting over when he's already got 13 years in. When he does retire he's got a backup though. He's a certified accident investigator so he could always work for an insurance company or something.
I've gotten to where I'm ok with his work,I'm not thrilled to always worry about his safety. I can't think about it often or I'll go crazy.

I actually know a retired RCMP who did this.  He retired from the police force quite a long time ago and went to work in insurance.  He really enjoyed it.  I think he did move up quite a bit in the company that he ended up working for, but he also stayed with them until last year and I think he was over 60 when he finally decided to fully retire.

[ciahanna]

Jan 23, 2015 18:01:00 GMT -5 daffy2k said:

Jan 23, 2015 17:51:52 GMT -5 ciahanna said:

DH is the third lowest on the sheriff depth totem pole. He doesn't have the opportunity to move up because there's literally nowhere to go unless someone retires and that won't happen anytime soon. He's looking into other departments but that means starting over when he's already got 13 years in. When he does retire he's got a backup though. He's a certified accident investigator so he could always work for an insurance company or something.
I've gotten to where I'm ok with his work,I'm not thrilled to always worry about his safety. I can't think about it often or I'll go crazy.

I actually know a retired RCMP who did this.  He retired from the police force quite a long time ago and went to work in insurance.  He really enjoyed it.  I think he did move up quite a bit in the company that he ended up working for, but he also stayed with them until last year and I think he was over 60 when he finally decided to fully retire.

Yeah DH plans to do the full 25 as a cop and then some. I don't think he'll fully retire until he's 65. He's also certified to teach,he occasionally teaches courses to other cops, so he may end up doing something like that too. I know when he does retire he wants to move to VA and maybe try to do something part time at Colonial Williamsburg. 

[phishgirl]

DH and I are in the same career path. We are both teachers but in different districts, content areas, and level. At this point in both of our careers, he would have to work more hours for not that much more money in order to use his administration degree. It's not worth it. I don't have my admin degree but I do have an additional master degree in special education which I use indirectly by teaching inclusion classes. He does a lot of scheduling for his school and is in charge of freshman orientation and things like that. Being in education, every year his school has different committees that he is on but his department is involved in a ton of art shows and he's constantly going to after school. There's not that need for tons of change in our field I guess.

[skk]

My SO works in construction and enjoys what he does, but realizes he won't be able to do it forever. In 5 years, he hopes to get into a more stable field that is less taxing on the body and has more set hours. (Right now his hours change every time he's on a new job site.)

His career goals have definitely changed over time and he's always been very flexible. He's such a good people person and a hard worker so he can really excel at anything. I just hope he will find something that he's happy doing.

I'm the breadwinner in our house and I'm okay with that. I've never had to sacrifice my career for his. He finished his degree while I worried about most of the bills earlier in our relationship, but my career has continued to move right along.

[dmlk413]

My H had a career change about two years ago and is so much happier. He plans to finish his apprenticeship in September and and then he plans to hopefully move up over the years. He wants to work for this company through retirement.

I sacrificed my original career goals because DH refused to move. I also supported us financially in the early years when the bad economy seriously affected his paycheck. He makes much more than I do now and like callmeKD said I hope it stays that way because it cuts down on my stress level.

[coffeebeanfiend]

DH is a powder coat paint technician and he likes it well enough but hates the foreman he works with. He's also grossly underpaid. I think he will stick with it a long time but we're considering moving to Germany where 99% of their automotive industry uses powder coat an he would be making 6 figures there. I should get on teaching him more german before he seriously start looking