POLL!! WWF16D: Announcing?

[SubtleGrandeur]

We're having an ultrasound on Thursday to make sure that there's a baby in there with a heartbeat.  I'll be 8w4d at the time of the u/s.

DD's 3rd birthday party is in a couple of weeks and I'll be just shy of 10w.  Every year, we make a video that has pictures from birth up until her birthday.  Assuming we see a baby with a heartbeat at the u/s... DH and I have been toying around with the idea of having the last picture be of her in a "Big Sister" shirt holding a picture of the u/s. 

It will only be close friends and family at her party and we would probably hold off on making a social media announcement until we find out the sex. 

Do you think 10 weeks is too soon to announce even after seeing a heartbeat?  Click the poll!!!!

[morwen]

I don't think it's too early, especially if it's just for close family/friends

Personally I'm not planning on announcing until the end of 1st tri or maybe after we get our screening tests back, but my family doesn't do well at keeping secrets.

[lemoncupcake]

We shared with our immediate families and closest friends after the first u/s, so I say go for it!

[britterrss]

My friend announced to social media at 10 weeks --- I don't know if I'd go that far!

[mrsmuq]

We shared with siblings, parents, and close family/friends at about 8w with DS. This time around, we're hoping to wait a bit longer (hopefully until end of 1st tri) because my middle sister is also pregnant with her first, and my baby sister just got engaged.

[britterrss]

Andplusalso - this girl I know was like 5-6 weeks pregnant and already announced to Facebook. She found out she was pregnant like 2 days after me and thought she was due in March, which was impossible at that point. So I guess she finally figured out it would be February, but announced before she's even been to the doctor or anything.

edited: spelling

[SubtleGrandeur]

Jun 29, 2015 8:55:13 GMT -5 britterrss said:

Andplusalso - this girl I know was like 5-6 weeks pregnant and already announced to Facebook. She found out she was pregnant like 2 days after me and thought she was due in March, which was impossible at that point. So I guess she finally figured out it would be February, but announced before she's even been to the doctor or anything.

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I've seen several people post pictures of pee sticks on Facebook to announce theirs. And, it wasn't as if they were farther along and just chose to use the pee stick. Based on their EDDs, they probably ran out of the bathroom and posted. No way no how would I ever announce that early. Yowza.

[wicked22]

Jun 29, 2015 8:59:13 GMT -5 SubtleGrandeur said:

Jun 29, 2015 8:55:13 GMT -5 britterrss said:

Andplusalso - this girl I know was like 5-6 weeks pregnant and already announced to Facebook. She found out she was pregnant like 2 days after me and thought she was due in March, which was impossible at that point. So I guess she finally figured out it would be February, but announced before she's even been to the doctor or anything.

edited: spelling

I've seen several people post pictures of pee sticks on Facebook to announce theirs. And, it wasn't as if they were farther along and just chose to use the pee stick. Based on their EDDs, they probably ran out of the bathroom and posted. No way no how would I ever announce that early. Yowza.

I did that but only in my N14 group on facebook.     

[britterrss]

Jun 29, 2015 9:01:40 GMT -5 wicked22 said:

Jun 29, 2015 8:59:13 GMT -5 SubtleGrandeur said:

I've seen several people post pictures of pee sticks on Facebook to announce theirs. And, it wasn't as if they were farther along and just chose to use the pee stick. Based on their EDDs, they probably ran out of the bathroom and posted. No way no how would I ever announce that early. Yowza.

I did that but only in my N14 group on facebook.     

That's a little different. This girl posted a sign with her 6 mo old baby saying "I'm going to be a big sis" for all of FB to see.

edited: cut off before I was finished typing

[lemoncupcake]

I can't fault people for announcing early if that's what they want to do. The fact is, the majorities of BFPs turn into healthy pregnancies which turn into healthy babies.

I'm too anxious to announce that early, but I don't care if other people choose to do so.

[wicked22]

Jun 29, 2015 9:03:01 GMT -5 britterrss said:

Jun 29, 2015 9:01:40 GMT -5 wicked22 said:

I did that but only in my N14 group on facebook.     

That's a little different. This girl posted a sign with her 6 mo old baby saying "I'm going to be a big sis" for all of FB to see.

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yeah that just has nope written all over it. 

[musicalsilver]

I found an awesome study on this ...

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18310375

It looked at miscarriage rate after viability had been determined via u/s. At 9 weeks, it was 0.5%, at 10 it was 0.7%.

This study ...

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17823976

Says that second trimester miscarriage rate is 0.5%.

So really, there's not much of a difference if you announce at 9 versus any time in the second trimester assuming you haven't had previous miscarriages (the second trimester miscarriage rate is a little higher if you've had previous ones), as long as you've had viability confirmed by u/s.

I might just announce earlier then planned after reading those!

[SubtleGrandeur]

Jun 29, 2015 9:10:09 GMT -5 musicalsilver said:

I found an awesome study on this ...

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18310375

It looked at miscarriage rate after viability had been determined via u/s. At 9 weeks, it was 0.5%, at 10 it was 0.7%.

This study ...

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17823976

Says that second trimester miscarriage rate is 0.5%.

So really, there's not much of a difference if you announce at 9 versus any time in the second trimester assuming you haven't had previous miscarriages (the second trimester miscarriage rate is a little higher if you've had previous ones), as long as you've had viability confirmed by u/s.

I might just announce earlier then planned after reading those!

Those numbers definitely make me feel better about it!  Thanks for making me not do my own research!!

[britterrss]

People can post announce whenever they want - I hope I didn't come off as saying you shouldn't announce whenever you want. I just am a paranoid kind of person and won't announce at all until 1st tri is over.

edited: my brain, it no work

[tkford216]

If it's just close family and friends, I don't see a problem with it. We plan on telling some close people after our u/s as well. And like silver said above, the rate for m/c goes WAY down after you've seen a healthy heartbeat.

[EatsRitz]

I voted too early, but that's because for ME, it would be too early. I had my third miscarriage at ten weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 7 (baby died shortly after that u/s). I tend to err on the side of waiting a little longer, but that's due to my loss history and I know most people haven't gone through all the shit I have. So it's up to you, basically.

[dreadpiratebuttercup]

I don't think it's too soon. We're quietly telling family this weekend, and I'll just be 9 weeks.

[EatsRitz]

I should also add: we've told all of our families every time I've had a miscarriage, whether they knew about the pregnancy beforehand or not. So if you would tell them about a loss, might as well tell them you're pregnant in the first place.

All of our immediate families know I'm pregnant now and I'm about 7 1/2 weeks.

[kelle017]

I don't want to announce until after my nt scan it h is really bugging me so assuming my appointment next week (at 9 weeks 6 days) goes well we may tell family then and wait a few weeks for social media:

[lazyreader]

My first appointment is today. We are planning on telling my family after that. We will share on FB once I have a belly. So I'm guessing towards 12ish weeks.

[rivers and roads]

I personally wouldn't tell the whole world that early, but we told close family and a few best friends very early. Similar to what EatsRitz said, if you would still tell them about the miscarriage and lean on them for support, then I don't see why not. If it's just close friends and family, I think that's fine!
(Obvioulsy a personal decision for what works for you and YH. Some people are more comfortable sharing the good and the bad, others would only like to share the good and therefore feel the need to wait until things feel "safer.")

Happy early birthday to your DD!

musicalsilver, thank you for those links! H and I were talking over the weekend about, how we still won't share with many others, we were curious how much we can take down our guards around our hearts if we hear a h/b this week. That's good info to have.

[akraus2015]

I don't think its too early at all. We plan to announce today after we hear a heartbeat. i'm terrible at secrets, so everyone knows already anyway.

[chickadee]

I think it is such a personal decision; if it feels right, go for it! Ironically, this time we really feel strongly about waiting since we don't want our 3 1/2 year old to know but it is the hardest because I feel like I already look different! The first time I didn't show until almost 18 weeks!

[bee]

We announced after our first ultrasound. Yea it was early but we are ok with it.

[SubtleGrandeur]

Thanks for the input, ladies!!! We've told our parents and my BFF, but that's it so far. DD's party will have our parents, siblings & their kids, my aunts and my grandma (whom we're REALLY close), and a few close friends. So, I'm really leaning toward going ahead with the announcement. Definitely waiting to post on social media, though.

Now, FX that there's an actual baby with a heartbeat in there....

[allegro55]

I chose yes, but I don't think it is too early for YOU to announce. I just like to wait as long as possible to avoid all the pregnancy related questions. H can't keep a secret, and has already told people at work...

[mynameiscarrie]

Lurking from N15-

Everyone has different comfort levels. We announced to everyone after our 10 week ultrasound.Our parents knew at 6 weeks. We were able to see baby move around- she was dancing!- and saw a good, strong heartbeat so we decided we were comfortable enough announcing at that point. That being said, it's totally up to you.

[alpies]

Honestly, the vast majority of people we see often - family, close friends, coworkers - already know. If we had done a better job of keeping the secret from the beginning, I would probably wait till the end of the first tri to announce on social media but at this point it just seems silly to wait. So I just need to get the stuff ready for the picture we're going to use to announce on Facebook, and then we'll probably post it in the next week or so.

[swivelchair5]

Our immediate families know, but I will probably wait until it becomes too obvious to hide, or we find out the sex, to tell anybody else. Last time we had told all of our extended families, and a bunch of friends and were all set to make a facebook announcement, when I miscarried in my 11th week. So clearly I am being really cautious, and what is right for me isn't what is right for you.

[trtlcrzy]

I will probably do the same thing as last time. Tell family and close friends after my u/s on 7/15, tell work around 12 weeks, and announce on fb when I announce the sex.