adorebel, I agree that reading and writing the word "trigger warning" is more jarring and painful than just reading the post.
I'm not sure I agree with voting on this. I've never thought it was required to post a warning before saying "I'm happy to be here, my last pregnancy ended in a MC, so I'm a bit nervous" Where as "I just got back from the doctor, and it looks like my baby stopped developing, and has no heart beat" Would likely have a warning.
If I were to have another loss this time I would create a new post and put a trigger warning on that but there's no way I would remember to do so if I were to mention my previous loss in a comment. I also wouldn't post a trigger warning if I were to mention my living children in a comment. Either could be upsetting to someone but I'm not willing to try to censor myself that much.
I agree with the above poster it cannot be expected that someone post a warning every time they make a comment mentioning their loss. Also as far as posting about a new loss usually you can figure out what happened from the subject line alone.
If I were to have another loss this time I would create a new post and put a trigger warning on that but there's no way I would remember to do so if I were to mention my previous loss in a comment. I also wouldn't post a trigger warning if I were to mention my living children in a comment. Either could be upsetting to someone but I'm not willing to try to censor myself that much.
This is exactly what I'm trying to say.
I have no desire to have to walk on eggshells to make sure I'm not offending anyone, especially when by me being required to "warn" others that I'm about to talk about my twins, offends me.
If I wanted to tell you the whole story, what it was like to deliver them, what happened afterwards, I would put a warning, because, it is graphic, and it was traumatic, however, THEY, are not.
girpipley, it does feel natural and inevitable for me to think about and discuss this pregnancy and my symptoms in relation to my only other experience being pregnant - with my son. That's probably why warnings didn't even occur to me. I guess it's not so different than a STM with a LC mentioning a previous pregnancy, though I only got 15 weeks in, so the tests surrounding that milestone are looming in my mind. The love and fear I'm feeling now has a lot to do with the short time I spent as his mom.
Post by almachs0786 on Jul 10, 2015 23:56:10 GMT -5
I will say that for me, the trigger warning is more appreciated when talking about/describing a current loss. I don't really feel "triggered" when someone mentions that they've experienced previous losses, etc. I don't know why I feel there's a difference, but there is IMO.
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