Re-intro
Jan 24, 2015 1:31:01 GMT -5
Post by froggiesgirl on Jan 24, 2015 1:31:01 GMT -5
Hi Ladies,
I recently did an intro on TB (RKMS) right before 'all that' happened. I've been working so much that I didn't have the energy or desire to track down exactly what the drama was about. So, I had originally planned to stay, mostly because learning new chat/online/community systems is very stressful for me (and I certainly wasn't proficient there yet), but I'd been lurking for awhile and as the familiar faces left, I felt less comfortable. Some of you extended an invitation here, so, here I am.
***Possible triggers, but I have so little to tell, I am not sure...***
My story, as a recap, is that DH (36) and I (32) hit about 13 months with zero,zip,nada, so I am working him towards seeing a specialist to get a SA started. My ob/gyn suggested it in October, but of course, I figured it would work out in the meantime... Some of you provided very helpful insight on giving him What to Know when She's Not Expecting (sorry if that's off, it's late) and your experiences with supporting your SOs under similar circumstances. What I hadn't shared before, is that in a prior relationship, DH had begun trying, without success either, and is now convinced "it's him," as his ex was successful in her new relationship. I don't want a blame game, but as some of you said before, knowing how to move forward is the first step, and an SA is sooooo much less invasive than what we have to do.
It was hard to finally accept that this group's old home was where I belonged, so shifting and re-doing "our history" is tough, but I appreciate having a new place to go and will try to contribute to the community.
I recently did an intro on TB (RKMS) right before 'all that' happened. I've been working so much that I didn't have the energy or desire to track down exactly what the drama was about. So, I had originally planned to stay, mostly because learning new chat/online/community systems is very stressful for me (and I certainly wasn't proficient there yet), but I'd been lurking for awhile and as the familiar faces left, I felt less comfortable. Some of you extended an invitation here, so, here I am.
***Possible triggers, but I have so little to tell, I am not sure...***
My story, as a recap, is that DH (36) and I (32) hit about 13 months with zero,zip,nada, so I am working him towards seeing a specialist to get a SA started. My ob/gyn suggested it in October, but of course, I figured it would work out in the meantime... Some of you provided very helpful insight on giving him What to Know when She's Not Expecting (sorry if that's off, it's late) and your experiences with supporting your SOs under similar circumstances. What I hadn't shared before, is that in a prior relationship, DH had begun trying, without success either, and is now convinced "it's him," as his ex was successful in her new relationship. I don't want a blame game, but as some of you said before, knowing how to move forward is the first step, and an SA is sooooo much less invasive than what we have to do.
It was hard to finally accept that this group's old home was where I belonged, so shifting and re-doing "our history" is tough, but I appreciate having a new place to go and will try to contribute to the community.