What's Terrifying You?

[kcbizme]

Not necessarily "baby" related..

My mom is coming to stay with us for 6 weeks. I'm afraid we're all going to get cabin fever and end up at each others' throats. 3 adults in a 2 bed/1 bath (TINY) apartment can make for lots of complications.

I'm also worried that I won't know when I need to go to the hospital. My goal is to labor at home as long as possible and I'm afraid I won't make it to the hospital in time. Probably irrational, I know.

[pearsforpoops]

This thread makes me want to hug everybody and I'm not even really a hugger.

I am scared of the catheter. I know I'm the fluke/exception/whatever so don't want to freak anyone out but the single worst part of my CS with Haden was the catheter. It was an awful experience and I don't want one again. It's standard practice at my hospital to leave it in for 24 hours but I'm going to beg for them to remove it as soon as I can walk to the bathroom. It's the only thing I'm nervous about re: my RCS.

Other than that just regular nerves about having a 14-month-old and a newborn. I feel like I was able to give Haden 100% and obviously I don't have 200% to split between the 2 boys. I know it will work out, but of course until we're actually doing it, the nerves will be there. I want Hunter to having everything Haden did, but don't want to deprive Haden. Argh.

[jessuh]

Jan 26, 2015 11:30:12 GMT -5 kcbizme said:

Not necessarily "baby" related..

My mom is coming to stay with us for 6 weeks. I'm afraid we're all going to get cabin fever and end up at each others' throats. 3 adults in a 2 bed/1 bath (TINY) apartment can make for lots of complications.

I'm also worried that I won't know when I need to go to the hospital. My goal is to labor at home as long as possible and I'm afraid I won't make it to the hospital in time. Probably irrational, I know.

I know you hear stories about car babies and whatnot, but as a FTM, odds are that you will have a lot of time in the hospital. Even googling will show you that the average labor for a FTM is between 10-20 hours. I would be more concerned about potentially getting to the hospital too early if you want to labor at home as long as possible. In my experience, it was MUCH easier to labor in the comfort of my home than in that hospital bed on my back with monitors strapped to me. Like night and day difference.

[kcbizme]

Jan 26, 2015 12:48:51 GMT -5 jessuh said:

Jan 26, 2015 11:30:12 GMT -5 kcbizme said:

Not necessarily "baby" related..

My mom is coming to stay with us for 6 weeks. I'm afraid we're all going to get cabin fever and end up at each others' throats. 3 adults in a 2 bed/1 bath (TINY) apartment can make for lots of complications.

I'm also worried that I won't know when I need to go to the hospital. My goal is to labor at home as long as possible and I'm afraid I won't make it to the hospital in time. Probably irrational, I know.

I know you hear stories about car babies and whatnot, but as a FTM, odds are that you will have a lot of time in the hospital. Even googling will show you that the average labor for a FTM is between 10-20 hours. I would be more concerned about potentially getting to the hospital too early if you want to labor at home as long as possible. In my experience, it was MUCH easier to labor in the comfort of my home than in that hospital bed on my back with monitors strapped to me. Like night and day difference.

That is my goal. I have been told by many many people that the longer you wait to go to the hospital, the better your chances of having an unmedicated birth are (which is my goal for birth). I'm very good at listening to my body, but not having been through it before, it just makes me nervous!

[MauiBliss]

I'm scared that I'm not more scared. It makes me think I'm walking into an exam that's worth the whole grade and somehow, I missed that day of lecture and didn't read the syllabus. I should probably be more afraid!

[jessuh]

Jan 26, 2015 12:54:29 GMT -5 kcbizme said:

Jan 26, 2015 12:48:51 GMT -5 jessuh said:

I know you hear stories about car babies and whatnot, but as a FTM, odds are that you will have a lot of time in the hospital. Even googling will show you that the average labor for a FTM is between 10-20 hours. I would be more concerned about potentially getting to the hospital too early if you want to labor at home as long as possible. In my experience, it was MUCH easier to labor in the comfort of my home than in that hospital bed on my back with monitors strapped to me. Like night and day difference.

That is my goal. I have been told by many many people that the longer you wait to go to the hospital, the better your chances of having an unmedicated birth are (which is my goal for birth). I'm very good at listening to my body, but not having been through it before, it just makes me nervous!

oh for sure! I don't mean to minimize your fears/anxiety at all! I was trying more to be reassuring, but I suck at that sometimes lol
I had the same fears because I didn't know what to expect with labor at all, but most people show up to the hospital hardly dilated and the first stages of labor typically take the longest. I was just reading a book about natural birth (Ina May's Guide to Childbirth) and she even talked about how labor can sometimes stall or slow down in the hospital bc of the clinical atmosphere and the monitors and I totally buy that

[toastercat]

Jan 26, 2015 13:00:55 GMT -5 MauiBliss said:

I'm scared that I'm not more scared. It makes me think I'm walking into an exam that's worth the whole grade and somehow, I missed that day of lecture and didn't read the syllabus. I should probably be more afraid!

No. You're perfect. As long as you have an arsenal of education, you will be able to figure it out on the fly. Let me put it like this: Labor isn't a platorm game, it's a sidescroller- the kind where you can't go back and you don't know what's ahead. As long as you know where your jump button, attack button, and murder husband buttons are, you are golden.

[MauiBliss]

Jan 26, 2015 15:07:05 GMT -5 toastercat said:

Jan 26, 2015 13:00:55 GMT -5 MauiBliss said:

I'm scared that I'm not more scared. It makes me think I'm walking into an exam that's worth the whole grade and somehow, I missed that day of lecture and didn't read the syllabus. I should probably be more afraid!

No. You're perfect. As long as you have an arsenal of education, you will be able to figure it out on the fly. Let me put it like this: Labor isn't a platorm game, it's a sidescroller- the kind where you can't go back and you don't know what's ahead. As long as you know where your jump button, attack button, and murder husband buttons are, you are golden.

*fans self* I love when you talk nerdy to me. 

[kcbizme]

I'm *worried* about finding a day care. I have 5 weeks left and ZERO ideas/suggestions that are close to me/my H or either of our jobs. And with him in school to finish his degree, me staying at home is not a feasible possibility.

[wamom]

This is round 3 for me so I'm not really terrified of keeping a baby alive or changing a diaper or even the change in family dynamics. I guess I'm just a little sad DD will be thrown in to the middle child spot with twin younger siblings to compete with and I want her to be ok with that role. I am nervous about delivering two babies. But I am more worried about preterm labor before 34 weeks or nicu time for either baby.

I think overall I am just excited for being near the end of my last pregnancy, the amazing support system I have with my husband and mom, and the first glass of wine I get to enjoy when all is said and done.

[frecklesinside]

Jan 26, 2015 12:48:51 GMT -5 jessuh said:

Jan 26, 2015 11:30:12 GMT -5 kcbizme said:

Not necessarily "baby" related..

My mom is coming to stay with us for 6 weeks. I'm afraid we're all going to get cabin fever and end up at each others' throats. 3 adults in a 2 bed/1 bath (TINY) apartment can make for lots of complications.

I'm also worried that I won't know when I need to go to the hospital. My goal is to labor at home as long as possible and I'm afraid I won't make it to the hospital in time. Probably irrational, I know.

I know you hear stories about car babies and whatnot, but as a FTM, odds are that you will have a lot of time in the hospital. Even googling will show you that the average labor for a FTM is between 10-20 hours. I would be more concerned about potentially getting to the hospital too early if you want to labor at home as long as possible. In my experience, it was MUCH easier to labor in the comfort of my home than in that hospital bed on my back with monitors strapped to me. Like night and day difference.

This. It is better to worry about getting there TOO soon since that will most likely be the case. The longer you labor at home, the less likely you are to have interventions or end up with an unnecessary c-section. Sooooo many women get freaked out and head into the hospital wayyyy too soon. It is far more likely you will overestimate how much time you have left than that you willl underestimate it. 

[frecklesinside]

Jan 26, 2015 12:54:29 GMT -5 kcbizme said:

Jan 26, 2015 12:48:51 GMT -5 jessuh said:

I know you hear stories about car babies and whatnot, but as a FTM, odds are that you will have a lot of time in the hospital. Even googling will show you that the average labor for a FTM is between 10-20 hours. I would be more concerned about potentially getting to the hospital too early if you want to labor at home as long as possible. In my experience, it was MUCH easier to labor in the comfort of my home than in that hospital bed on my back with monitors strapped to me. Like night and day difference.

That is my goal. I have been told by many many people that the longer you wait to go to the hospital, the better your chances of having an unmedicated birth are (which is my goal for birth). I'm very good at listening to my body, but not having been through it before, it just makes me nervous!

Ha, sorry, I should have kept reading before responding! Now my post is redundant. Still good advice though IMO.

[suelou18]

Like a couple of others have said, I'm afraid of what I don't know. Thanks to the lovely ladies here and through classes at the hospital I've learned a lot, but there is definitely still the fear of the unknown.

[5099peperk]

I am most scared of an epidural. I have panic attached and needles always trigger one. I like to think that I have a higher pain tolerance, and have felt quite confident that I can do this without one or just the IV pain meds. But this past week I was hospitalized with a kidney infection and those two days really messed my neck up to point that I was in tears from the pain. This has now made me very nervous that I might not be able to handle pain as well as I thought. The thought of the needle in my spine, catheter and being confined to my bed is really freaking me out.

It also make me nervous that I do not know how long my labor will last. When working out you know there is an end and can push through it by saying "only one hour, you can take one hour out of your day and push hard". I don't know how I will handle not knowing how much longer it will take.

I am confident that my DH and I will be able to adjust to having a baby, and that we have everything we need to care for the baby. We have not bought all the gadgets, but have a few good staples that we did splurge on. I have been proud of myself for not going crazy on buying cloths and other things that are pushed on pregnant moms as something you need to raise a baby.

I am also confident in my decision to breastfeed (if I am able to) and cloth diaper.