I guess I'll start us off since I'm the fucking dumb ass who ran out of gas in the way to daycare because I thought I had enough to make it to the station near the office. LO and I are currently awaiting rescue. I hate myself so much right now.
I guess I'll start us off since I'm the fucking dumb ass who ran out of gas in the way to daycare because I thought I had enough to make it to the station near the office. LO and I are currently awaiting rescue. I hate myself so much right now.
One time I ran out of gas at the drive-tru ATM. Yes, I was THAT person. Everyone hated me that day.
I had a wake up call to my dogs in a serious brawl with each other. Thankfully I was the one that has the worst injuries. I have a giant knot on my leg from jumping off the bed to separate them and banging it on our footboard.
Also, my house is being creepy again. I haven't had anything happen since the monitor incidents a few months ago. When we got home from our disney trip, DH and I were in the backyard playing frisbee with our dogs. I was sitting on the patio and all of a sudden the porch spotlight came on. The switch is in the garage and the garage door was closed. Then on Monday, I had a volleyball game. I got home around 9:30 and DH kept asking me where I went. Confused, I told him I was at volleyball. He's like yeah I know but why did you come home and leave. He said that the garage door opened and when he went to go see what I was doing, the door to the house was standing open as well but no one was home. I need to fucking move.
Good morning. We are currently contemplating making some changes in order to get out butts out of debt. Or at least significantly lower our debt so we can buy a house and get by comfortably on one income before having anymore kids. We have been just barely scraping by since DD was born and DH has been feeling awful about it because he feels like he doesn't make enough to support us. But really he does, we just have student loans and car payments and credit cards and it's gotten impossible to keep up.
So here are our options:
A. Move in with family (probably MIL...again... Ugh) for a year so when our lease is up in November. That we can apply what we're currently paying towards rent to the credit cards and car loans. By doing this we will be able to pay off all of our small debts by next January (2017) and start house hunting that spring.
B. I go back to work full time, DD goes to daycare and we stay in our apartment for another year. Then when our lease is up next November (2016) we move in with family for a few months while we finish paying everything down and look for a house. In this scenario we are living with family more to bridge the gap between our lease running out and finding a house we like than for financial reasons.
I am leaning towards option B but in order for it to work I need to make enough money (on top of what I'm already earning) to cover daycare and our rent. We also need to continue living like we're flat broke and put all of our extra money towards our debts. I want this to work but it looks like we have a rough road ahead of us either way. Adulting is hard!
TL;DR: We're in debt up to our eyeballs and something's got to give!
Also, my house is being creepy again. I haven't had anything happen since the monitor incidents a few months ago. When we got home from our disney trip, DH and I were in the backyard playing frisbee with our dogs. I was sitting on the patio and all of a sudden the porch spotlight came on. The switch is in the garage and the garage door was closed. Then on Monday, I had a volleyball game. I got home around 9:30 and DH kept asking me where I went. Confused, I told him I was at volleyball. He's like yeah I know but why did you come home and leave. He said that the garage door opened and when he went to go see what I was doing, the door to the house was standing open as well but no one was home. I need to fucking move.
Also, my house is being creepy again. I haven't had anything happen since the monitor incidents a few months ago. When we got home from our disney trip, DH and I were in the backyard playing frisbee with our dogs. I was sitting on the patio and all of a sudden the porch spotlight came on. The switch is in the garage and the garage door was closed. Then on Monday, I had a volleyball game. I got home around 9:30 and DH kept asking me where I went. Confused, I told him I was at volleyball. He's like yeah I know but why did you come home and leave. He said that the garage door opened and when he went to go see what I was doing, the door to the house was standing open as well but no one was home. I need to fucking move.
So freaking creepy! I still get creeped out looking at our monitor because of your stories. Now DH is claiming that our kitchen cabinets are opening and closing on their own. I can't tell if he's trying to scare me or if he really believes it, either way I wish he'd shut up about it!
I'm on a roll today, guys. I left my pump flanges at home, so now I'm sitting outside waiting for Target to open so I can go buy some because that's quicker than driving 45 minutes round trip to go get mine.
Also, on the subject of ghosts and such. Our apartment building was converted from an old school building. When I tell people this they're always like, "oh, I wonder if it's haunted". And I'm like, haunted by WHAT exactly? It was a SCHOOL, why the heck would it be haunted??
Also, on the subject of ghosts and such. Our apartment building was converted from an old school building. When I tell people this they're always like, "oh, I wonder if it's haunted". And I'm like, haunted by WHAT exactly? It was a SCHOOL, why the heck would it be haunted??
staryb I would go with option B for sanity and then option A if you can't find a good paying job.
I actually have the option of just going back to fulltime at my current job. The pay isn't great but I have the pull I need there to work the hours that are most convenient for us. The hard part with this option is finding affordable daycare nearby. That's one of the main reasons I didn't go back in the first place. But I guess it would be smart to look into other job options as well. Decisions, decisions.
I'm on a roll today, guys. I left my pump flanges at home, so now I'm sitting outside waiting for Target to open so I can go buy some because that's quicker than driving 45 minutes round trip to go get mine.
Also, my house is being creepy again. I haven't had anything happen since the monitor incidents a few months ago. When we got home from our disney trip, DH and I were in the backyard playing frisbee with our dogs. I was sitting on the patio and all of a sudden the porch spotlight came on. The switch is in the garage and the garage door was closed. Then on Monday, I had a volleyball game. I got home around 9:30 and DH kept asking me where I went. Confused, I told him I was at volleyball. He's like yeah I know but why did you come home and leave. He said that the garage door opened and when he went to go see what I was doing, the door to the house was standing open as well but no one was home. I need to fucking move.
Post by windwithfingers on Jul 15, 2015 8:20:34 GMT -5
DS had one wakeup at 11 then slept in until 5:40. We have our huge annual family reunion (80+ people partying and sleeping in one house, one garage, one camper, and various hotels in the area). I'm excited for it because last year I was pregnant and one month out from DH's passing, so I was a goddamn mess. I can drink again this year! I'm slightly worried about how Q's sleep will be affected since he JUST started STTN, but I'll deal with it the best I can. He might just sleep with me in bed while we're there.
The pedi gave us the go ahead to start feeding DD a wider variety of food as long as we cut it into bite size pieces. She's been getting fed up with the purées anyway so last night she ate rigatoni and she loved it. Up until this past week or so I've been referring to myself as a "food prude" because I was so picky about what I would allow my kid to eat. Now I'm excited to let her try more things. It's going to make our vacation next month so much easier in terms of feeding her while we're out.
I'm on a roll today, guys. I left my pump flanges at home, so now I'm sitting outside waiting for Target to open so I can go buy some because that's quicker than driving 45 minutes round trip to go get mine.
You're telling me. AF also made an appearance last night after an 18 month hiatus.
Good morning. We are currently contemplating making some changes in order to get out butts out of debt. Or at least significantly lower our debt so we can buy a house and get by comfortably on one income before having anymore kids. We have been just barely scraping by since DD was born and DH has been feeling awful about it because he feels like he doesn't make enough to support us. But really he does, we just have student loans and car payments and credit cards and it's gotten impossible to keep up.
So here are our options:
A. Move in with family (probably MIL...again... Ugh) for a year so when our lease is up in November. That we can apply what we're currently paying towards rent to the credit cards and car loans. By doing this we will be able to pay off all of our small debts by next January (2017) and start house hunting that spring.
B. I go back to work full time, DD goes to daycare and we stay in our apartment for another year. Then when our lease is up next November (2016) we move in with family for a few months while we finish paying everything down and look for a house. In this scenario we are living with family more to bridge the gap between our lease running out and finding a house we like than for financial reasons.
I am leaning towards option B but in order for it to work I need to make enough money (on top of what I'm already earning) to cover daycare and our rent. We also need to continue living like we're flat broke and put all of our extra money towards our debts. I want this to work but it looks like we have a rough road ahead of us either way. Adulting is hard!
TL;DR: We're in debt up to our eyeballs and something's got to give!
DH feels the same way in our house. He got out of the military right when A was born. So we went from putting money into our saving every month to now just getting a small amount from the GI bill while he is in school. We definitely had to due some re-budgeting and I can tell it messes with him now that I'm the main provider. Good luck! It's hard to make the sacrifices now, but will be all worth when you guys are enjoying your new home!
Good morning. We are currently contemplating making some changes in order to get out butts out of debt. Or at least significantly lower our debt so we can buy a house and get by comfortably on one income before having anymore kids. We have been just barely scraping by since DD was born and DH has been feeling awful about it because he feels like he doesn't make enough to support us. But really he does, we just have student loans and car payments and credit cards and it's gotten impossible to keep up.
So here are our options:
A. Move in with family (probably MIL...again... Ugh) for a year so when our lease is up in November. That we can apply what we're currently paying towards rent to the credit cards and car loans. By doing this we will be able to pay off all of our small debts by next January (2017) and start house hunting that spring.
B. I go back to work full time, DD goes to daycare and we stay in our apartment for another year. Then when our lease is up next November (2016) we move in with family for a few months while we finish paying everything down and look for a house. In this scenario we are living with family more to bridge the gap between our lease running out and finding a house we like than for financial reasons.
I am leaning towards option B but in order for it to work I need to make enough money (on top of what I'm already earning) to cover daycare and our rent. We also need to continue living like we're flat broke and put all of our extra money towards our debts. I want this to work but it looks like we have a rough road ahead of us either way. Adulting is hard!
TL;DR: We're in debt up to our eyeballs and something's got to give!
DH feels the same way in our house. He got out of the military right when A was born. So we went from putting money into our saving every month to now just getting a small amount from the GI bill while he is in school. We definitely had to due some re-budgeting and I can tell it messes with him now that I'm the main provider. Good luck! It's hard to make the sacrifices now, but will be all worth when you guys are enjoying your new home!
That's the attitude we're trying to have. We, DH especially, are so bad about wanting instant gratification, that it's really hard to accept that it will take years to get where we want to be. The thing is though, had we done this years ago we might be done by now and, by contrast, if we don't do it now in two years we'll be kicking ourselves. We need to get it together before our kid is old enough to realize that we're struggling.
Also, my house is being creepy again. I haven't had anything happen since the monitor incidents a few months ago. When we got home from our disney trip, DH and I were in the backyard playing frisbee with our dogs. I was sitting on the patio and all of a sudden the porch spotlight came on. The switch is in the garage and the garage door was closed. Then on Monday, I had a volleyball game. I got home around 9:30 and DH kept asking me where I went. Confused, I told him I was at volleyball. He's like yeah I know but why did you come home and leave. He said that the garage door opened and when he went to go see what I was doing, the door to the house was standing open as well but no one was home. I need to fucking move.
Creeeeeeeepy! Your house is totally haunted. We had a couple creepy incidents and I finally stood in the living room and said "FIL, if you are trying to let us know you are around, you need to find a less creepy way to do it." It's been fine since.
staryb I would also go option B both for sanity and I think it will make you both feel more empowered because you'll do it all yourselves. DH and I have been through far more financial difficulties than not, but it's totally worth it to be independently "adulting." The couple months we lived with FIL were awful because we just weren't ourselves (we are both highly independent.) As someone who has been (and is currently) going through it, feel free to pm me anytime for tips. Maybe we should do a thread? We can all benefit from saving money!!
Today we are going to the bank to finalize pre-approval for a home loan! It's exciting and crazy! I'm realizing that it's good that we have no other plans all summer because we'll be spending every free minute house-hunting. After boring bank time, I'm hoping to take DS to the pool for a bit.
@starby I know buying a house is the American dream and what you're "supposed" to do. But I'd caution against rushing to buy a house soon if you don't feel comfortable with your finances. It's amazing how quickly the expenses of owning a home and unplanned repairs add up. Make sure you're saving up for both a down payment and an emergency fund. It's easy to get caught up in the excitement of wanting to own your own home, but there's nothing wrong with renting for longer until you are more secure in your finances.
In terms of your choices, I would go with B. I could not live with my MIL. And I also see working now as both a financial benefit today and a long-term investment in your future earnings potential.
Post by sweetsurprise on Jul 15, 2015 9:40:51 GMT -5
KayVeeKay Sorry your day is starting off wrong! swise22 omg. Bad dogs! And bad house!! staryb option B!!!! windwithfingers the reunion sounds fun!! Gingers crossed that Q keeps up his great sleeping habits. kellrr yay about the loan! Can't wait to hear about the houses you look at. Also, I've heard from apk4. She's out there doing her thang!
Post by sweetsurprise on Jul 15, 2015 9:42:40 GMT -5
I'm here. DS didn't go to bed until after 10 and then woke up twice before his 5 am official wake up. I ate/drank my sleepiness away this morning at the Starbucks drive through but now I'm fading again. Bahhhhh.
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