How in the world does everyone deal with PGAL anxiety. I thought that getting to see and hear a heartbeat would put me at ease but that's not the case. My next ultrasound is Friday and I'm so scared. I keep freaking out thinking that there will no longer be a heartbeat! Am I being crazy? And how do you ladies deal with the anxiety?
I definitely don't think you are crazy, it's so hard to embrace the possibility of a positive outcome when you've experienced loss. when I'm in a dark place I repeat the mantras that are pinned at the top of the board, and try to remember them. (((Hugs))) I'm sorry you are feeling so anxious.
Thank you ladies! Some days are good but today I am struggling. I am definitely going to try and use the mantras in between appointments. I know after my Friday ultrasound I won't get another one for 4 weeks so I have to try and relax.
((Hugs)) Sorry you're feeling anxious. I have an ultrasound Friday too, and I know what you mean about the heartbeat- we heard it once already, but it didn't really put me any more at ease. To deal with PGAL brain, I like to try to stay as busy as possible, and create mini milestones for myself. Sometimes it helps, sometimes not so much...
Post by downtheshore on Jan 25, 2015 22:02:42 GMT -5
The truth is, it is really, really hard. I prayed a lot and just tried to have faith. But before every early appointment I was a wreck. But, time passes, day by day. Take it one day at a time and celebrate each day.
M/C at 7 weeks on 2/14/12 M/C at 6 weeks on 5/1/12 M/C at 5 weeks on 8/8/12 C/P at 4 weeks on 12/12/12 C/P at 4 weeks on 2/13/13 Loss due to Trisomy 21 at 16 weeks
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I agree with downtheshore You can only take it one day at a time. In the beginning it seemed like the days took forever. I'm not sure there is anything I can say to take away your anxiety. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way for a good scan in Friday!
Post by luciddreamer on Jan 25, 2015 23:19:30 GMT -5
You're not crazy, that's why we have this board. I repeat the mantras and try not to let myself get anxious about something that hasn't happened. Distractions are somewhat helpful, too. Good luck on Friday!
Like PP said, you are not crazy! It just comes as part of being PGAL, unfortunately. Hope you find something to ease the anxiety and hope you have a good scan on Friday.
Post by mrskblack11 on Jan 26, 2015 0:13:26 GMT -5
I always get anxious before my next appointment. The worry is always there. The trick is to take it day by day and go over the mantras when you are feeling anxious or low. I hope this week will go by quickly for you!
Once again a million thank yous! I don't know where I would be with a support like this. We have told anyone and I don't think really think any of our friends and family would understand. I took a long warm bath and spoke to my baby (bloat ?). I feel so much better, going to try and take it day by day.
The loss I had was very early, but I still have moments (usually before appointments) where I get anxious and start going down "that road". It take a big conscious effort to think positive things and take it one day at a time. Like PP's have said the mantras are definitely worth using especially on rough days.
Post by amanda33758 on Jan 26, 2015 9:44:13 GMT -5
As PP have all said taking it day by day really helped me. The mantras really do help too and I also found trying to do something to relax and center myself helped me "tame down" my anxiety. I hope you have a good scan on Friday and keep us updated!
i felt the same way after seeing the HB...I thought I would relax but I couldn't. I have found that as time has gone on I am relaxing a little bit more each week. as pp's have said you really just have to take it a day at a time. big ((hugs))
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