Could use some help (loss mentioned)

[akraus2015]

I'm not ready to intro yet, and I'm not really ready to talk about my loss yet, but I could really use some help. Hoping you all won't mind the question and will allow a delayed intro when I'm ready.

I found out today (at 13 weeks) that I had a missed miscarriage. The doctor said the soonest they can get me in for a D&C is Monday. The more I sit here and this sinks in, I'm realizing that I don't want to wait that long. Do I have another option? Can I go to another hospital?

[meleml]

I'm not sure about what your options are, I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss and when you are ready, these ladies are magnificent. That being said, could you call your doctor in the morning and ask what other options you have? Or even call the hospital and see if they have another doctor available (maybe on call?) Again, I'm so sorry (hugs)

[league2b3]

Shit. I am so sorry to see you here, akraus2015. I second the thoughts of meleml. Call your doctor, call the hospital. They may be able to work something out. We're here when you need us.

[Deleted]

It depends on your insurance coverage, but yes. You can go to another hospital. If you can find another doctor that can get you in sooner, I say make the call. Your current doctor can send over all the necessary paperwork/history so they know what needs to be done. You might also call your current doctor in the morning and see if there is any possible way to get you in sooner there. If they really can't get you in before Monday, they might be able to help put you in touch with someone that would be more likely to be able to do the surgery before the weekend. 

Good luck.

Edited to clarify. 

[vancitygirl]

I'm so sorry for your loss, but I really don't have an answer to your question. For me, I was scheduled for a D&C and I miscarried naturally before that happened...I like to think my body and mind finally caught up with each other. Best wishes and big hugs.

[muscari]

akraus2015, ***hugs*** So so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice as I don't know how insurance coverage works in the States and we ourselves choose a different route after finding out about our MMC, but I wanted to offer you massive hugs. And please feel free to intro whenever you're feeling up to doing so. Best wishes!

[akraus2015]

Thanks guys. I woke up bleeding a little bit this morning, and now I'm really scared and confused. I've never miscarried before, but my husband is at work and I'm home alone and I don't want to do it by myself. Can anyone tell me how long it will take if that's actually what is hapoening? I'm really scared. It's too early here to call the doctor but I plan to as soon as they open.

[pbandj714]

Aug 6, 2015 6:33:43 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Thanks guys. I woke up bleeding a little bit this morning, and now I'm really scared and confused. I've never miscarried before, but my husband is at work and I'm home alone and I don't want to do it by myself. Can anyone tell me how long it will take if that's actually what is hapoening? I'm really scared. It's too early here to call the doctor but I plan to as soon as they open.

((hugs))

I was 7 weeks when I miscarried, but the bleeding for me lasted about as long as a normal period, it was just heavier and I had more intense cramping. The tissue didn't pass until the second day of bleeding for me. I think this will vary  a lot person to person, but I wanted to offer what little information I have.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[akraus2015]

Thanks for the advice everyone. They are taking me at noon today.

[NatalieDavid]

Aug 6, 2015 8:33:37 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Thanks for the advice everyone. They are taking me at noon today.

sending big ((hugs)) and good luck today. I was going to say when I started bleeding they took me that day bc they didn't want me to keep bleeding with as far along as I was and I would have ended up in the er. Take good care of yourself and come back to us when you are ready!

[mosdub]

I was thinking of you today before I even read this post. When we discovered our MMC at our appointment my doctor told me I could have the D&C the following day or in a week and one day. I chose the following day. Waiting while knowing is so hard and my heart is breaking all over again for you. I am so relieved to hear they were able to get you in today. I hope the procedure went as well as it could have. We will all be here when you are ready. So many hugs, so much love sent to you right now.

[akraus2015]

Thanks again for all the support everyone. My dad came into town and is working with my husband and our priest to make funeral arrangements. The funeral will probably be Saturday. I have a feeling the worst is yet to come.

[teenybenoit]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My 3 mc have all been different. The first was heavy bleeding, I did go to The ER because I didn't know what was happening, I was put on a morphine drip and kept over night, I spotted for a week before it happened. I was 8 wks
The second was a week, the dr gave me T3 and Advil every few hours, bleeding was like a period but heavier. I was 6 wks.

The 3rd I ended up in hospital because of the cramps but the bleeding was lighter then most of my periods. I was 9wks.
In all 3 cases I mc naturally and they each lasted in total about 7-10 days.
I hope this detail wasn't too much for you. I just thought I would share my experience. Hugs

[nikolie93]

I am so sorry for your loss but glad your Dr got you in. I know you aren't ready to intro but please know we are here when you are ready...and we understand. Every, horrible, part of it.

So many *hugs* to you.

[fionnathehuman]

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome.

[hollyberry]

I am so sorry for your loss. Definitely know we are here if you need us! Take care of yourself! * hugs*