What the what? (AW)

[steveo]

I'm dealing with some SERIOUS end of day bloat right now (as I have with my other pregnancies), and someone just came into my office and asked me if I was pregnant!?!?!?!!?!?

I was so taken aback I didn't even know how to respond. I won't be "telling" work for months - lots of things to get through before then. I mean, I've LOST weight the past two weeks (thank you, no wine after work). I knew I was blumpy by the end of the day, but I didn't think it was that obvious...I'm not even 5 weeks yet.

WTF?! 

[peanutmuse]

Boo.

Why do people think it's ever ok to ask that anyway?

[steveo]

Seriously peanutmuse? Like what the hell was she thinking?

I couldn't lie when she asked me -- I was so taken aback. But I kept saying "it's really really early, please don't say anything." She knows what happened with J, so I'm hoping she will at least have the decency to keep it to herself. Though she didn't have the decency not to ask it, so who the fuck knows.

[steveo]

If it happens again, I'm just going to say "Nope, just gained weight. Thanks for noticing!" in a cheerful voice.

I just was so unprepared for it today

[Ann612]

That is incredibly rude!! wow, that person has some nerve.

[jags8]

Whoa, that is never okay to ask!

And the bloat is why I've been wearing loose shirts every day.

[steveo]

jags8 the problem is, I wear suits / suit dresses & heels pretty much every day. Loose shirts would not really fly. I do have a couple of non-tuck in blouses I can rock, but most everything is tuck in. UGH.

[jags8]

Aug 11, 2015 8:49:09 GMT -5 steveo said:

jags8 the problem is, I wear suits / suit dresses & heels pretty much every day. Loose shirts would not really fly. I do have a couple of non-tuck in blouses I can rock, but most everything is tuck in. UGH.

What about tops like these? I have a friend who is a lawyer and she wears suit dresses or nice slacks with formal tops, and these look nice with them.

[JoeLies]

Not okay, dumb coworker! Don't people know that you don't say ANYTHING until a woman is ready to say something herself?

[ciaobaby]

Ugh, the nerve of some people! Sorry you were taken off guard, but thanks for sharing...it has motivated me to mentally prepare an automatic response in case the same thing happens to me! I have been feeling super bloated too. FX she can keep your secret!

[Deleted]

Sigh. Why do people ask?

I too have lost a few pounds, no alcohol + walking a lot and by the end of the day I'm all "hand me the stretchy pants please"

[minae01]

That is unfuckingbelieveable, steveo! So rude. I'm sorry you had to out yourself before you're ready. I totally know that feeling of being so caught off guard that you're unprepared to lie. I hope she keeps her big mouth shut for you!

By the end of the day, I'm a whale! I'm going to need my maternity clothes soon, but I just lent them to my SIL last month. She's due at the end of November, so I feel like as ass telling her I need them back already! I think people at work will be able to tell soon, as I JUST lost all my baby weight from DS2.

[ladywolff]

What an ass. People really need to get to grips with what is and isn't acceptable to ask people.

[ladywolff]

Aug 11, 2015 8:45:20 GMT -5 steveo said:

If it happens again, I'm just going to say "Nope, just gained weight. Thanks for noticing!" in a cheerful voice.

I just was so unprepared for it today

The bolded is what I'm going for. When people make you uncomfortable, make them feel uncomfortable.

[wittyandwaiting]

Aug 11, 2015 8:54:13 GMT -5 jags8 said:

Aug 11, 2015 8:49:09 GMT -5 steveo said:

jags8 the problem is, I wear suits / suit dresses & heels pretty much every day. Loose shirts would not really fly. I do have a couple of non-tuck in blouses I can rock, but most everything is tuck in. UGH.

What about tops like these? I have a friend who is a lawyer and she wears suit dresses or nice slacks with formal tops, and these look nice with them.

I also work in a suit and heels too and I've been doing these kinds of shirts.

Also, that coworker is rude.

[beyoncepadthai]

Wow, that's so rude!

[PiradicalMaid]

So rude!!

Fun note: I have only been asked if I'm pregnant when I'm definitely not. Humph. Not ever a cool thing to ask.

[danenikki]

So freaking rude!

[yourgirlblue]

That person is a cow. What did you actually respond with? Did you give them any inkling that you are expecting (not that it was in anyway their place to ask)?

I have already caught myself with my hand on my stomach subconsciously due to mild cramping.

[doublehammock]

How rude.

{insert gif that I'm too lazy to find}

[jags8]

Aug 11, 2015 14:36:33 GMT -5 doublehammock said:

How rude.

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[doodler]

So rude! I don't get people sometimes. With DS one of my coworkers came up to me and said oh, I knew you were pregnant before you told us. I said oh, why? She said oh, it was the way you looked from behind. What?!

[mrsk23]

A lot of my coworkers knew about our fertility treatments and often ask how it's going and if I'm pregnant yet. I have huge issues with lying so I don't and so the ones who've asked know. I don't mind. I'm just glad they aren't asking cause I look pregnant! I'm on the bigger side to begin with and will occasionally have students ask me if I have a baby in my tummy...ouch! That stings!

[chuggingwater]

That's what happen when you sober up. Jk.smooches.

[ellewills618]

Perfect gif gooselover2012. Also team mind yo business nosy coworker. And the blump struggle is real (autocorrect changed blump to blimp...totally appropriate for how I feel at the end of the day).