Intro - can I hang here?

[thesportsgal]

Sooo...I'm an Aug15 mom and at our 9 week scan last week, found out we are having twins.  Cue TOTAL SHOCK.  I guess shame on us that twins were NO WHERE on our radar but really, we didn't see this coming.  The only "explanation" is that I'm older - at the ripe old age of 34 .  They said they are di/di twins, so two eggs, two sperms - and seriously, the thought that I could EVER produce two eggs NEVER even crossed my mind.  I know - shame on me!!

Anyways, I just wanted to say HI and I hope I can learn a lot from you ladies.  To say I am scared shitless is an understatement.  I don't know if it's all of the hormones or what but I don't feel like I am handling it very well.  It's been days of non stop crying/terror/fear of the unknown.  I was thinking of giving it a week or so before reaching out to my doctor to see if I should talk to someone. 

I'm sorry this was kind of a debbie downer intro .  I'm just really struggling here and looking for advice/help. 

Oh, and I have a 13 month old daughter who is wonderful so I was a D13 mom on TB before the mass exodus over here  

[SassyPants150]

Welcome! Twins due in May here. They will probably be April babies though since May 1st is currently the latest they will let me go.

We did a lot of joking about twins before my dating u/a so we were only like 90% shocked when the u/s tech told us. I had also been off birth control for a year and a half without preventing so after not even having one sperm find the egg, it was shocking that there were two! You're not alone here.

Take care of yourself. A call to your doctor doesn't sound like a bad idea until the anxiety subsides. The initial anxiety was the worst for me. There was so much more to do than I had originally planned. New car? New house? One more of so many of the things we saved from DD. So much to think of all at once. We talk over all of our options a million times here. We finally decided on buying a new car which gives me some anxiety as well. It's a lot to take in...just keep having discussions.

Good luck!

[anakah]

Congrats on the twins!! I remember you from D13 but I was mostly a lurker. Take some time to run through all the emotions. It's completely normal to feel everything you are feeling with a shock like this. To be honest, I felt the same way when I found out I was pregnant with #3 and it was the other way around for me (already had twins). If you need to talk it out, ask questions, etc, I'm happy to help. Deep breaths, it'll all work out ok. =)

[thesportsgal]

SassyPants150 Thank you! From what I've googled, I think my reaction right now is normal - I just want to get over it and be happy/excited. My husband is over the moon. He even bought a lottery ticket after our scan because he felt like the "luckiest guy in the world". So at least one of us is excited

[wamom]

Congrats on the twins! And you're not a Debbie downer it is a huge shock for the average person that all of a sudden they learn they are growing not one but two people. I still struggle with it some days and I'm due in March!

[mymorningcoffee]

Welcome!

I never gave twins a second thought either (mine are 3.5yo). I was shocked when I found out, and I was terrified. It is a huge game changer to find out that you are having multiples. Don't beat yourself up about feeling scared or panicked. It comes with the territory. It definitely can't hurt to have someone to talk to about it though. It is a lot to process.

Hugs. I hope you feel better soon. For me, I was panicked for several days, then it was just surreal, then I was able to start accepting it.

Let us know if there is anything we can do to help!

[mrsf0831]

Congrats and welcome . its normalfor all the emotions you're going through. Hopefully they'll change soon.

[SassyPants150]

Another thing I did when I felt stressed was go to Pinterest and look up all sorts of twins related things. It made me giddy thinking about all the cool and unique experiences that I will get to have that I didn't otherwise. &

[kels09]

Congratulations. I hope we will be able to help you cope with the shock. You will be surprised what you can do once the babies arrive. We went from wondering how we would manage to holy shit we are actually doing this and the kids are ok! Hang in there. I think talking to your doctor about resources available to you is an excellent idea.

[harti09]

Welcome.

Try to enjoy it. It's a pretty amazing experience. I'm so glad I'm a multiple mom. There's something very special about it, that only a certian subset understands. It's hard at times, sure. Ultimately, it's a very rewarding thing though.

We're here for you. Please feel free to vent about your concerns. A local resource is a good thing to keep in mind too. We can help you find that if need be.

It will be okay. Again, welcome.

[thesportsgal]

Thanks everyone. Just putting it out there makes me feel better already. I think I was bottling up my feelings since I was "supposed" to be overjoyed so I let it out to my husband and my mom and I feel SO much better. Today feels like a good day, that I can do this and that we'll be okay.

Now comes the guilt for ever feeling that way in the first place, but hey, sometimes we just can't win, right?

[wamom]

thesportsgal don't feel guilty. I still go through a range of motions. I love my children and I will love these two just as much even if I am already anticipating being overwhelmed and stressed. It's normal.

[robertjane33]

As others have said, totally normal. Even with IVF, I was still shocked by finding out about twins. Reading about other people's experiences really helped me imagine my life with twins, and now I think all babies should come in pairs!

[Deleted]

Welcome and congrats! I remember being in your shoes just a few months ago, in total shock and scared shitless. We're still completely freaked out but we're starting to actually accept that we'll be welcoming two new babies in July (I'm 17weeks, we found out at 8 weeks). Twins do run in my family but I didn't know this until after we saw two heartbeats on the ultrasound, so I had no idea that they were even remotely a possibility. I'm in grad school and we were not trying for any babies at all, let alone two!

Like others said, the shock is COMPLETELY normal and (for me at least) it sort of tapers off over the weeks. I'm sure once I have two babies in my arms a different kind of shock will hit me, but for now I'm finally feeling okay about it. Don't feel guilty-- all of your emotions about this are completely legitimate. Take your time, be patient with yourself, and feel free to reach out for support if you need it.

[purplegaloshes]

Jan 26, 2015 11:29:44 GMT -5 thesportsgal said:

Sooo...I'm an Aug15 mom and at our 9 week scan last week, found out we are having twins.  Cue TOTAL SHOCK.  I guess shame on us that twins were NO WHERE on our radar but really, we didn't see this coming.  The only "explanation" is that I'm older - at the ripe old age of 34 .  They said they are di/di twins, so two eggs, two sperms - and seriously, the thought that I could EVER produce two eggs NEVER even crossed my mind.  I know - shame on me!!

Anyways, I just wanted to say HI and I hope I can learn a lot from you ladies.  To say I am scared shitless is an understatement.  I don't know if it's all of the hormones or what but I don't feel like I am handling it very well.  It's been days of non stop crying/terror/fear of the unknown.  I was thinking of giving it a week or so before reaching out to my doctor to see if I should talk to someone. 

I'm sorry this was kind of a debbie downer intro .  I'm just really struggling here and looking for advice/help. 

Oh, and I have a 13 month old daughter who is wonderful so I was a D13 mom on TB before the mass exodus over here  

Holy potatoes...I am an Aug15 mom as well and I think just reading your post made me feel better because I could have written it myself.  Cheers to having someone to commiserate with on the freakouts!

[kimstargazer1986]

Congrats, it was pretty shocking for us as well. We have no twins in our family. I was back and forth between excited and scared. DD was 17 months when we found out. It's hard at times, but I wouldn't trade it.