"Should have just done it myself" stories

[peanuts]

So I had a classic, "should have just done it myself" over the weekend and now I want to hear your stories.

DH has been bugging me to let him help MOTN since DD has been having difficulties sleeping since we moved. So Saturday night I finally let him get up with her because I had just put her down after a 1:30 am feeding and she was already fussing again. So he got up with her around 2. I wake up at 3:30 when I hear her crying again. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she's really awake or if she'll go back to sleep. But then I realize DH isn't in bed with me. So I get up and right then he comes in the room carrying DD. He said, "She's been playing so nicely on the floor for a little over an hour but now I think she wants to nurse again".

I was like, WHAT?! You took her to the living room, turned on all the lights, and let her play for over an hour at 2-3 am?! OMG! WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!

So I took DD  to her room, turned off all the lights and nursed. Thankfully she was obviously still very tired and fell asleep after maybe 20 minutes of messing around while nursing. So yesterday morning when we woke up I asked DH if he understood why I was upset, because I've told him 100Xs not to interact with her MOTN if he does get up with her. He said he understood, he just didn't think about it.

You can tell he's not the sleep deprived one in our family, because all I can think when I have to get up MOTN is to get back in bed asap.

[theteno]

Omg yeah id be mad. Ive gotten mad when dh picked him up motn in a dark room before he waited a few min when we were st. (Which obvi ended in a fight each time)... anyway, should have done it myself... ill think and get back

[acorn99]

When I got home from grocery shopping yesterday, DS was ready for a nap. H said he would put the groceries away while I got DS to sleep. I go into the kitchen later, and by "put the groceries away," H crammed the whole bags of things that needed to be cold into the refrigerator and left the pantry stuff on the counter near the pantry. I love the guy, but come on.

[HazyGrey]

The other day after a walk with our LO I totally had a moment like this. So we get back to the car and I asked my DH if he wanted to put our DD in the car seat or put the stroller in the car. He chose DD. So we get home and I go to take her out of her car seat to find the straps totally loose! He buckled her in but left it all loose. I was like, seriously? He's buckled her in great tons of times but for some reason not this time. Lol I don't get it.

[tinkl0ver]

I asked SO to get the morning bottle while I tried to get her calm enough to eat (some days she gets insta-pissed off in the mornings and has a hard time eating). He got up and slowly made his way to the kitchen, got the bottle started with the formula mixer, went to the bathroom, cleaned out his ears, got something to drink and then brought the bottle only after I asked what was taking so long. The formula mixer takes literally 20 seconds to fill the bottle. By the time I realized I should have just gotten up myself, it was a little late because I had already asked him and he gets really pissy if I end up doing something I asked him to do, even if I've waited days to do it.

hmmmm maybe this is more of a MBF lol

[toratoratori]

Basically any time I need to pack the diaper bag or dress the baby, it's easier to just do it myself. He tried to send her to school in a t-shirt and tights this morning. It's 40 degrees out. Come on, dude.

[daisylola11]

Yeah I put the groceries away and let DH bring them in from the car then watch LO. We don't have a ton of pantry space so I need to Tetris things so they all fit neatly and in an organized way.
He's done it before and just bitches the entire time because nothing fits, and we have things we don't eat and I'm a pack rat and wants to throw everything out... So I do it myself...

[daisylola11]

toratoratori yes! DH has expressed how he's afraid to break LOs arm/fingers/legs while he dresses him and that I "man handle" DS when I do it. The kid is wrestling w me and I need to get him dressed. Also he came out of my vagina I'm sure he'll survive!! Lol

[peanuts]

Jan 26, 2015 14:05:23 GMT -5 daisylola11 said:

toratoratori yes! DH has expressed how he's afraid to break LOs arm/fingers/legs while he dresses him and that I "man handle" DS when I do it. The kid is wrestling w me and I need to get him dressed. Also he came out of my vagina I'm sure he'll survive!! Lol

[toratoratori]

Ummmm, btw daisylola11 I just looked at your signature and our babies are totally birthday twins!

[daisylola11]

Jan 26, 2015 14:16:50 GMT -5 toratoratori said:

Ummmm, btw daisylola11 I just looked at your signature and our babies are totally birthday twins!

Yay bday twinsies!! Haha

[gahorseygal]

Yeah DH tries to play with LO while putting her to bed. It drives me up the wall bc some days he will barely spend time with her before she goes to bed (he is usually home an hour before we put her down during the week). WHY YOU NO PLAY WITH HER WHEN SHE WAS AWAKE AND I WAS TRYING TO MAKE DINNER?

There are so many things that I would rather do myself but I still make him do it anyways. Otherwise I would feel like I was doing everything mysef.

[peanuts]

Jan 26, 2015 15:26:21 GMT -5 gahorseygal said:

Yeah DH tries to play with LO while putting her to bed. It drives me up the wall bc some days he will barely spend time with her before she goes to bed (he is usually home an hour before we put her down during the week). WHY YOU NO PLAY WITH HER WHEN SHE WAS AWAKE AND I WAS TRYING TO MAKE DINNER?

There are so many things that I would rather do myself but I still make him do it anyways. Otherwise I would feel like I was doing everything mysef.

That's why I just do everything myself! The only thing DH does anymore is pack the bottles for daycare and empty bottled in my pump, and even that doesn't get done right no matter how often I ask him to put them all in there nicely so they don't spill if a lid happens to not be on tight. Maddening.

[skylark002]

We are quite the opposite over here! A lot of times I think DH should have just done it himself. He puts him to sleep quicker for sure.

[bobloblaw]

Whenever I ask H to do anything middle of the night, it's a comedy of errors. The man functions like a drunk raccoon. It's so hard not to just burst out laughing because I know it would hurt his feelings. The fact that he's even trying to help makes me want to love him up.

I've been really sick the past few weeks and can't seem to get well. So I took a nap this weekend. What does H do? He plays video games with LO facing outwards towards the screen and wonders why LO is so riled up and not napping. Gee, I wonder?? I woke up 2 hours later to the grouchiest baby. *sigh*

[mrsnorris]

Jan 26, 2015 16:09:23 GMT -5 bobloblaw said:

Whenever I ask H to do anything middle of the night, it's a comedy of errors. The man functions like a drunk raccoon. It's so hard not to just burst out laughing because I know it would hurt his feelings. The fact that he's even trying to help makes me want to love him up.

I've been really sick the past few weeks and can't seem to get well. So I took a nap this weekend. What does H do? He plays video games with LO facing outwards towards the screen and wonders why LO is so riled up and not napping. Gee, I wonder?? I woke up 2 hours later to the grouchiest baby. *sigh*

This is totally DW. She has no clue what is going on. A lot of times I'd rather do it myself MOTN because I'm afraid LO will end up in the dryer or something. But she wants to help.

[gingy]

Jan 26, 2015 13:48:16 GMT -5 tinkl0ver said:

I asked SO to get the morning bottle while I tried to get her calm enough to eat (some days she gets insta-pissed off in the mornings and has a hard time eating). He got up and slowly made his way to the kitchen, got the bottle started with the formula mixer, went to the bathroom, cleaned out his ears, got something to drink and then brought the bottle only after I asked what was taking so long. The formula mixer takes literally 20 seconds to fill the bottle. By the time I realized I should have just gotten up myself, it was a little late because I had already asked him and he gets really pissy if I end up doing something I asked him to do, even if I've waited days to do it.

hmmmm maybe this is more of a MBF lol

Mine is the same way. When I ask him to get something it's not at your earliest convenience! You saw the kid spit up, how do you not get I need a burp rag now? Like right now!

[jlynn62511]

Folding Laundry: I hate it, sometimes I ask DH but then end up refolding half of it because it looks like a 5 year old did it!

[mfsunshine]

Jan 26, 2015 18:44:58 GMT -5 jlynn62511 said:

Folding Laundry: I hate it, sometimes I ask DH but then end up refolding half of it because it looks like a 5 year old did it!

Oh so this!!!! We have been together 6 years...why can't you fold things MY WAY!!!! I'm not being anal it is how our clothes all fit in the limited space that we have!

[theteno]

Im gonna say that 9 times out of 10 dh does what daisylola11 mentioned... bitches. So it doesnt matter if its groceries or vaccuming or idk anything. If hes not in a particularly good mood, hes bitching and it would have just been easier to do it myself.