DH and I had a long talk since she was his friend too. She just has reeked of dumb assery the last few years and we're all fed up. She's one of those people who is very smart but lacks common sense. I'm just going to ride it out, not make an effort, and let it fade. DH wants to just make A and P the godparents for the next one. He said he will handle it. I'm going to let him
It's not that I expect her to help out with Miss A. I know not everyone is comfortable with kids. But she it a terrible house guest. She sits there while we do all the cooking and cleaning up and she leaves a ton of hair in the drain when she takes a shower (a huge pet peeve and gag inducing thing for me). She never offers to help or clean up after herself. How rude!
And you know how my family just sucks so bad??literal text from my dad just now "nora- have a great day at the clinic tomorrow!" dude. She's having surgery- this isn't the fucking first day of school. No one will be having a great time tomorrow.
IGNORE THEM.
Seriously, just ignore them tomorrow. Don't say anything, just focus on your N. This is about the family you made, not your family of origin.
Im sorry. That sounds terrible. I'm with cl8badb Is it a group? And you can request not to see him?
Coming from a nurse, I would definitely list those meds.
Thank you!! He also brought up Ambien that I listed (hallucinations and sleepwalking). I only started listing that after I was almost given it in L&D because IT WASNT ON MY ALLERGY LIST. He isn't the only doctor, he is one of four or five (all males but one). I'm seeing someone different next time. DH said we will give it another shot and then think about switching then. I don't love my other hospital options, though.
He was most upset about the Sulfa drugs (I don't know what happens with those, I was little) and penicillins (makes me anxious and unable to sleep--I was told to list it by the prescribing MD I was seeing at the time) because "it really limits the best meds you can take." I'll take penicillin if I need to and deal with it, but geez.
I'm allergic to sulfa as well and I get a nasty rash. None of the doctors I ever deal with think it's an issue. They would rather know than not.
Post by mommycoffee on Aug 24, 2015 21:29:15 GMT -5
I got through my first on campus class today! I start another online one in a few days. I thought I'd blend in on campus because I have always looked like a baby. HA! Apparently college girls wear CROP TOPS and short skirts now. I got asked if I was a grad student when I went to get my Student ID. I think I'm okay with that.
My jawbone is drunk. It lit up at like 4 today saying that I reached my goal but I checked just now and it says I only got about 3k step and it started at 1:52 pm. I charged it today so maybe it got messed up?
H has been out of town and was totally rocking putting B to bed (late. So, meltdown city) until B insisted that I lie down next to him instead of H. An hour later, I'm certain he's asleep and M wakes up immediately. GAAAAH!
I'm caught up and have been love titting along the way- hugs to all those that need them.
N has her heart procedure tomorrow. My baby. I've been holding it together really well- but I cried giving her a bath today. And in the target parking lot... And maybe a little while I was driving too. I know she will be fine- but I'm so fucking anxious and scared and it is just really hitting me hard today. Any thoughts or prayers you could spare for my little girl would be hugely appreciated.
All the hugs to you. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. We are all here for you and I hope everything goes well tomorrow.
Post by mommycoffee on Aug 24, 2015 21:42:01 GMT -5
I have had the worst migraines in a very long time today and last Tuesday. I think they were both brought on by exhaustion. I am having a hard time winding down in the evenings. Feels like my brain is all over the place. Our dramatic and quick changes in weather are probably not helping the migraines either though.
Thank you!! He also brought up Ambien that I listed (hallucinations and sleepwalking). I only started listing that after I was almost given it in L&D because IT WASNT ON MY ALLERGY LIST. He isn't the only doctor, he is one of four or five (all males but one). I'm seeing someone different next time. DH said we will give it another shot and then think about switching then. I don't love my other hospital options, though.
He was most upset about the Sulfa drugs (I don't know what happens with those, I was little) and penicillins (makes me anxious and unable to sleep--I was told to list it by the prescribing MD I was seeing at the time) because "it really limits the best meds you can take." I'll take penicillin if I need to and deal with it, but geez.
I'm allergic to sulfa as well and I get a nasty rash. None of the doctors I ever deal with think it's an issue. They would rather know than not.
One of my friends had a nasty reaction to sulfa. We were out of town when it happened. Rash everywhere and fever. We took him to the doctors care place on a Sunday morning before going home because it was so bad.
My jawbone is drunk. It lit up at like 4 today saying that I reached my goal but I checked just now and it says I only got about 3k step and it started at 1:52 pm. I charged it today so maybe it got messed up?
H has been out of town and was totally rocking putting B to bed (late. So, meltdown city) until B insisted that I lie down next to him instead of H. An hour later, I'm certain he's asleep and M wakes up immediately. GAAAAH!
Sleep little ones! Your mom needs it and so do you!
H has been out of town and was totally rocking putting B to bed (late. So, meltdown city) until B insisted that I lie down next to him instead of H. An hour later, I'm certain he's asleep and M wakes up immediately. GAAAAH!
Sleep little ones! Your mom needs it and so do you!
She went back down pretty quickly, so they're both asleep for now. Thankfully. I'm listening to Bossypants to recover now.
Oof. First day/night alone with 2 kids. Went about as well as expected. H started his new schedule today: school from 7:30-3:30 and work from 3:30-11:30 (this is Mondays and Wednesdays).
I managed to get Lilly dressed and we took her to daycare in time to eat breakfast there (she didn't want anything I offered at home). Delilah and I hit the store and then came home. The in-laws came by to say goodbye (they fly back to the UK on Wednesday but will be spending a couple of days in San Francisco).
Delilah and I vegged all day until Lilly came home. I managed to make dinner and we watched about 1.5 hours of Jake before bed. By some miracle, Delilah ate right before bath time and was content to hang in her swing while I bathed Lilly and halfway through story time. Then things deteriorated. Delilah started crying and holding her breath. Lilly wanted her to be quiet so we could focus on her story. I rushed through the last book (not fair to Lilly) and tucked her in. She was inconsolable when I left the room and continued crying for about 15 minutes :-(. She normally "cries" when we leave the room just until she realizes we aren't coming back in.
It's got to get easier right? It wasn't terrible but broke my heart a little bit. I don't want Lilly to feel like we're taking away from time with her to tend to Delilah.
TLDR: we all survived our first day of solo parenting. I need to stock my house with more alcohol.
Post by heelibrarian on Aug 24, 2015 22:21:54 GMT -5
melohdy Firstly, yes to more alcohol. Second, those days sound like me solo parenting bedtime when DD was born. So much anxiety. I have no good advice but that it will get better. Big hugs, lady. You got this.
Post by mommycoffee on Aug 24, 2015 22:22:19 GMT -5
melohdy it does get better & you did amazing today lady!! Bath and bedtime are for sure the hardest to juggle at first (H still doesn't like doing it alone). Soon you will have it down so well that you'll look forward to the routine of it. The babies will adjust to it too and both will learn (a little) patience very quickly and I PROMISE they both know you love them to the moon and back.
I have had the worst migraines in a very long time today and last Tuesday. I think they were both brought on by exhaustion. I am having a hard time winding down in the evenings. Feels like my brain is all over the place. Our dramatic and quick changes in weather are probably not helping the migraines either though.
Oof. First day/night alone with 2 kids. Went about as well as expected. H started his new schedule today: school from 7:30-3:30 and work from 3:30-11:30 (this is Mondays and Wednesdays).
I managed to get Lilly dressed and we took her to daycare in time to eat breakfast there (she didn't want anything I offered at home). Delilah and I hit the store and then came home. The in-laws came by to say goodbye (they fly back to the UK on Wednesday but will be spending a couple of days in San Francisco).
Delilah and I vegged all day until Lilly came home. I managed to make dinner and we watched about 1.5 hours of Jake before bed. By some miracle, Delilah ate right before bath time and was content to hang in her swing while I bathed Lilly and halfway through story time. Then things deteriorated. Delilah started crying and holding her breath. Lilly wanted her to be quiet so we could focus on her story. I rushed through the last book (not fair to Lilly) and tucked her in. She was inconsolable when I left the room and continued crying for about 15 minutes :-(. She normally "cries" when we leave the room just until she realizes we aren't coming back in.
It's got to get easier right? It wasn't terrible but broke my heart a little bit. I don't want Lilly to feel like we're taking away from time with her to tend to Delilah.
TLDR: we all survived our first day of solo parenting. I need to stock my house with more alcohol.
This happened with us too when we first brought E home. M went through a whole jealousy phase where she basically threw a tantrum or acted out anytime I had to do anything with E. She got over it once she saw that things weren't changing. But it's hard. You feel guilty because you're dividing your time. It gets better mama, just hang in there!
melohdy - sounds like you pretty much rocked your first solo day/bedtime. Solo bedtime is tricky- but you know- you do the best you can. I remember that feeling that I was rushing through with B because N needed something. It's so much worse on you than them. That 15 minutes of crying? She's already forgotten that even happened.
It does get easier though. Everyone falls in to a slightly more predictable pattern. Great job- you got this.
We haven't had a MOTN WAKEUP (that is autocorrecting to all caps- leaving it) in a few weeks. And actually I woke her up at 315 this morning. The breast milk cut off is 4- and though I know she could probably make it fine without these session- we won't know for sure until it's too late to do anything about it. Fingers crossed we can both go back to sleep for an hour or so when she's done.
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