Have you told your boss?

[graysweater]

Not yet, I am up for a promotion and really wanted to wait til that was in place before I said anything, She is submitting the paperwork today, so hopefully I will know something by the end of the week. I will probably still wait to tell her til after my first appt on the 22nd.

[holidayarmadillo]

I haven't yet. I'm only 6+2 though. I will probably around 10 weeks. I work for a very small company, so I want to give them a good heads up.

[Ann612]

I think I'll be telling him today. We are allowed to WFH and with the nausea being unbearable this week, I think I might start using that option like, every day. I also want to tell him personally before we announce, which we plan to do in less than 2 weeks now.

[JoeLies]

I told last time around 12 or 13 weeks, and will probably wait at least as long this time. Honestly everyone in the office is already talking - not very discreetly, LOL - but I'd rather wait until we have the results of our genetic screening before officially outing myself.

[tdf2010]

I'm planning on telling my boss around 11 weeks. I wanted to wait until 14, but I have 4 appointments in a week that I don't want him questioning.

[ciaobaby]

With DS, I told my manager at 12 weeks and will probably do the same for this pregnancy.

[renbee]

I was just thinking about this today as I'm sitting at my desk feeling like complete crap. I almost want to tell her to get a little bit of slack on coming in late or maybe being able to work from home a couple days. I am only 7 weeks, but at this point if I miscarry I will probably need to take several days off and she would find out anyway. I also just finished my annual review process and definitely wanted to wait until after that.

[NatalieDavid]

I told my boss early on bc her and I are very close and she's so supportive. I didn't tell the rest of my office until 11 weeks last time and I will probably hold off till the end of first tri this time. It's nice to tell someone bc then if you really aren't feeling well they know what's up instead of just thinking you are a slacker.

[shananagins]

My boss has been in the loop for quite some time. She followed my journey through going to an RE, to testing, to our IVF cycles, and knew we were transferring before school started.

***loss mentioned***
I hadn't told her with my first pregnancy and she found out the day I had to leave because I was miscarrying. It was awful.
***end mention***

So I told her our first day back to school, and explained how early and unsure things were. She has been wonderful about appointments and has been incredibly supportive. I also told my immediate team (because I'm late all the time) and my team from last year (because they knew I had my ET and I couldn't bear to make them wait.) I plan to share with the rest of work around the 11-12 week mark.

[minae01]

I'm a teacher and only two people know, neither of them my principal. One is a coworker whose wife is expecting and saw me at the OB's office we both go to. He totally called me out the next day! The other is my union rep because she was asking about LOA. She's a good friend, so I didn't mind spilling the beans. I'll tell the principal in a couple of weeks after the NT scan.

I'm just nervous for judgment because this will be the 3rd year out of the last 4 I'm taking maternity leave. I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I do!

[yummybunny]

Both my bosses know. I had to tell them last week so I could cut my workload back since I'm pretty much living on the couch or bathroom floor most days. They are both very supportive and also know my history so it helps me for them to know.

renbee I had the same though re: time off if things don't work out.

[danenikki]

My sergeant knows and all my partners ( we are a group of 5). My lieutenant does not know. I will tell him and the entire department at the end of the month. It will be after my US and first appt. I will be almost 13 weeks.

[wittyandwaiting]

I'm with graysweater; I'm up for a new position at work and an impending 12 month maternity leave might negativity impact their decision. I may have to (try to) keep it hidden for another 6 weeks which would put me at 17 weeks.....

Sigh.

[scotty138]

I do not plan on telling my boss until my contract ends on Oct 31st. At that point I will be telling them I will not be returning next year.

[graysweater]

Sept 8, 2015 16:16:11 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

I'm with graysweater; I'm up for a new position at work and an impending 12 month maternity leave might negativity impact their decision. I may have to (try to) keep it hidden for another 6 weeks which would put me at 17 weeks.....

Sigh.

That seems like better will power than I have! I was showing around 12 weeks with my first. I assume I will show much faster with this one. There is no way I could make it another 10 weeks without telling anyone at work, without telling my boss first.

[lecky11]

It's just me and my bosses so I've told them already. I tell them early since the wife had MS for 9 months with both of her pregnancies so they're very supportive.

[jags8]

I told my supervisor immediately. She knew about my loss, and I just needed someone at work to know if I were to have another loss. Having to make that phone call last year to explain why I wouldn't be coming in for a few days was excruciating. My supervisor said it was totally okay to just text her this time if it happens again.

We just went to a meeting room, and I said "Soooo...Im pregnant." She was thrilled!

[lclegit]

I told my boss pretty early. I tend to be a space cadet when I'm pregnant and I've been really overwhelmed at work so i didn't want him to think I was losing my mind. They're a UK based company and they have different laws over there. They are all about telling manager and HR early so they can look out for you and make sure baby is top priority. They have been really respectful about keeping it quiet otherwise and letting me tell people in my own time/way. I work remotely so they would never know unless I told them.

[wowcheezits]

I just told my boss today. I have MFM and OB appointments so I'll be in and out the office so I wanted her to know why I need to so much. I'm glad I saved up so much time and my boss is very flexible so I can also flex my lunch hours or I can work half my lunch hours to make up time.

She's excited and happy for me and she knows I've had a rough time with my past losses.

[Courtniko]

I have not even had my first appointment yet, so we are not telling anyone till then. I am just 7w, 1d, and my first appointment is Sep. 22.

Well, we did tell daycare to make sure we get a spot for the new little one. It is hard to get into DD'S daycare, so the earlier the better.

[oreille]

I told my boss this afternoon.  It's early (I'm 8 weeks today), but she's planning a big expansion of our business for 2016 so I thought it was only fair to let her know now that I might be missing for 6-12 weeks of 2016.

She took it really well.  She was really excited for us, and she said that she suspected because I was out the other week for bloodwork (I rarely take sick leave).

She's going to help me keep it a secret from the rest of our small office.

I feel like a weight is lifted from my shoulders.  Secret keeping is so hard!