Why or Why Not Green?

[Sammich_Cat]

We haven't decided if we are going to find out the sex of our baby.

Come discuss why you are or are not finding out!

[KirstenAlecia]

We will not be finding out. I don't know.....I guess I just want to save that excitement for delivery day........I have no real reason. I love surprises. LOL.

[partyinmytummy]

Sept 11, 2015 2:18:19 GMT -5 @aeroplaneoverthesea said:

We found out with DS and will find out this time as well. 1, because I'm an impatient control freak, but 2, because I find it a nice way to bond with the baby inutero.

I think it will also be helpful to prepre DS by him knowing in advance if he's going to have a little brother or sister.

All of this! We aren't planning on telling DD about my pregnancy until we find out if it's a brother or sister. I think being team green is cool but it isn't for (suuuper impatient) me. 

[ivedonethisb4]

We didn't find out with our first. I enjoyed it..until the moment when they put me under general anesthesia for the birth..

I want to be team green again to hopefully get our moment when we find out together with a little baby in our arms already..but DH wants to know so he can plan. Do we need a second nursery now? Do we need boy stuff or is all the buttload of girls clothes going to be sufficient? I put team green on the roster but he does have some very good points this time around...

He's the only man I know that really wants to do a cute gender reveal party..so I didn't say this in case I change my mind sometime between now and the end but..

I had it my way the first time even if it didn't work out right but he wanted to know then too...I MAY give in this time and let him do it his way..maybe...but I haven't decided yet.

And previous poster has another valid point about the new brother/sister being easy to understand...especially at my daughters age between 1-2. I think it will be easier for her to get use to the idea of brother or sister rather than just baby since she's learning words and who people are very well at this point.

[annarose]

I am team finding out
1) way to impatient to wait
2) I would also like to tell DD if she is having a brother or a sister
3) I would like to do a gender specific nursery
4) I have about 8 Rubbermaid bins in the attic full of baby girl clothes and accessories. If we are having a boy, I would like time to go through the them to donate,offer to friends or sell.

[helloerrbody]

I want to be able to call the baby its name in utero, decorate the shit out of a nursery, and buy lots of baby clothes. I realize I can do the last 2 if team green but the neutral stuff is so hard to find and not my favorite in terms of style and colors. I also am impatient and a control freak.

[birch113]

We are finding out, and we found out with LO as well. First, I just want to know! I can be horribly impatient for things like that. Second, and most important, I was very guarded after my loss. I had a very difficult time letting myself connect to LO during my pregnancy, especially after early complications. Knowing he was a he made things more real for me and allowed me to finally let my guard down and bond. DH and I kept his name a secret until birth, but we used it whenever it was just the three of us. We will do the same this time. Assuming we can find another name we agree on. :-)

[appleoatmeal]

Sept 11, 2015 6:37:10 GMT -5 birch113 said:

We are finding out, and we found out with LO as well. First, I just want to know! I can be horribly impatient for things like that. Second, and most important, I was very guarded after my loss. I had a very difficult time letting myself connect to LO during my pregnancy, especially after early complications. Knowing he was a he made things more real for me and allowed me to finally let my guard down and bond. DH and I kept his name a secret until birth, but we used it whenever it was just the three of us. We will do the same this time. Assuming we can find another name we agree on. :-)

This!  When we first started TTC we were on board with team green.  After a number of losses, we found ourselves walking on eggshells with our pregnancy that resulted in LO1.  We decided to find out at our 20 week US, because we figured it would be a surprise and a thrill whether we found out then or at delivery, and we decided that we deserved the joy and surprise early on.  It definitely helped us allow ourselves to shed some of the fear of loss, and turn it into excitement.  Even knowing it was a girl, we still didn't pick her name until she was born!  For the same reasons we'll find out this time.  And I definitely will enjoy the time before to plan his/her room, buy what we don't have, etc

[summerdonna]

We are definitely team finding out. There is no way I could wait because I am a planner. Also I would rather only have to decide on a boy name or a girl name and not both.

[teraiin]

We are going to find out. We are planners and don't do well with waiting and suspense.

I give a lot of credit to the people who have the willpower to wait to find out.

[fishbulb]

Honestly, I'm just impatient. I would want to know today if I could. I figure it's a surprise whether I know today or on delivery day. One perk of being AMA is I can get the genetic blood test that includes an analysis of the baby's sex.

There are some logistical issues that PP have mentioned. If this one is a girl, we'll need to think about getting some girl clothes and make long term plans for a second kid's room. LO will probably sleep in the master bedroom for at least the first 6 months, so I'm not going to do a second nursery immediately anyway.

[mrssqueegy]

Team green here. We just love surprises. We were team green with DS as well and it was like Christmas when he was born.

[walkek85]

Sept 11, 2015 7:40:07 GMT -5 summerdonna said:

We are definitely team finding out. There is no way I could wait because I am a planner. Also I would rather only have to decide on a boy name or a girl name and not both.

This exactly.  I want everything to be prepared when baby comes.  Do we need to buy girl clothes or are the boy clothes I have OK? Do we have to paint the nursery pink or keep it blue?  Will DS have a baby brother or sister?  I see the appeal of team green and how exciting that can be, but it just isn't right for our family.

[singingsea]

We found out with our son and probably will this one. I'm so type A.

[summerdonna]

Sept 11, 2015 8:22:02 GMT -5 walkek85 said:

Sept 11, 2015 7:40:07 GMT -5 summerdonna said:

We are definitely team finding out. There is no way I could wait because I am a planner. Also I would rather only have to decide on a boy name or a girl name and not both.

This exactly.  I want everything to be prepared when baby comes.  Do we need to buy girl clothes or are the boy clothes I have OK? Do we have to paint the nursery pink or keep it blue?  Will DS have a baby brother or sister?  I see the appeal of team green and how exciting that can be, but it just isn't right for our family.

I have a friend who didn't find out and they were thinking boy and bought a lot of boy clothes and it ended up being a girl!

[emc]

I would like to know. I have some nursery decor ideas in mind and I would like to buy a bunch of clothes. There aren't a lot of neutral clothing options, at least that I've seen. I'm a planner.

[littlelion]

Everyone has said pretty much all my reasons for wanting to know the sex. I can only add that if we have a daughter she's going to be wearing a lot of boy clothes hopefully my cousins with baby girls now find it in their hearts to pass some clothes down.

[walkek85]

Sept 11, 2015 8:33:42 GMT -5 summerdonna said:

Sept 11, 2015 8:22:02 GMT -5 walkek85 said:

This exactly.  I want everything to be prepared when baby comes.  Do we need to buy girl clothes or are the boy clothes I have OK? Do we have to paint the nursery pink or keep it blue?  Will DS have a baby brother or sister?  I see the appeal of team green and how exciting that can be, but it just isn't right for our family.

I have a friend who didn't find out and they were thinking boy and bought a lot of boy clothes and it ended up being a girl!

Well and really, even if you find out it can be wrong!  I know two people who this happened to.  One who thought she was having a boy and ended up finding out at birth it was a girl and another who thought she was having a girl and then found out at 35 weeks it was a boy!  I mean, if you only have one ultrasound at 20 weeks the tech could totally be wrong!

[tincupchalice]

DH says it's way too hard to think of boy names and girl names at the same time. We'll find out, and FX I can get the AS in before Christmas (I'll be 20 weeks exactly on Christmas day).

[summerdonna]

Sept 11, 2015 9:04:42 GMT -5 walkek85 said:

Sept 11, 2015 8:33:42 GMT -5 summerdonna said:

I have a friend who didn't find out and they were thinking boy and bought a lot of boy clothes and it ended up being a girl!

Well and really, even if you find out it can be wrong!  I know two people who this happened to.  One who thought she was having a boy and ended up finding out at birth it was a girl and another who thought she was having a girl and then found out at 35 weeks it was a boy!  I mean, if you only have one ultrasound at 20 weeks the tech could totally be wrong!

Oh wow! That would be crazy to be told one thing and learn later they were wrong.

[k3am]

We'll find out. It will still be a surprise either way, right? "Surprise, you're having a girl!" vs. "Surprise, it's a girl!"

Also, I'm always a little annoyed going to a shower or shopping for a soon to be mom who is team green. It makes it that much harder for me to find stuff.

I know there's plenty of gender neutral stuff, and most of DD's hand me downs were gender neutral, but I didn't love the first few months of her life where she was constantly called a he.

[k3am]

Sept 11, 2015 8:33:42 GMT -5 summerdonna said:

Sept 11, 2015 8:22:02 GMT -5 walkek85 said:

I have a friend who didn't find out and they were thinking boy and bought a lot of boy clothes and it ended up being a girl!

My parents convinced themselves I was going to be a boy (back before ultrasounds).. I had a blue nursery, lots of blue and green clothes, and a boy name planned out. I was named after both grandpas - I was supposed to be the something like Victor Charles and ended up being morphed into Victoria Charlotte (not my actual grandpas names or name, but you get the point.)

[starfishy]

Team green. Love the surprise!! Then after the baby is here I love getting the me time to go shopping for clothes.
As for shopping for a team green shower- I don't find it hard at all. Everyone uses bottles, bath stuff, white onesies, bedding, diapers, toys. Actually I find most baby things gender neutral.

[k3am]

Sept 11, 2015 11:27:54 GMT -5 starfishy said:

Team green. Love the surprise!! Then after the baby is here I love getting the me time to go shopping for clothes.
As for shopping for a team green shower- I don't find it hard at all. Everyone uses bottles, bath stuff, white onesies, bedding, diapers, toys. Actually I find most baby things gender neutral.

This stuff is all boring.

[tincupchalice]

Sept 11, 2015 11:54:54 GMT -5 k3am said:

Sept 11, 2015 11:27:54 GMT -5 starfishy said:

Team green. Love the surprise!! Then after the baby is here I love getting the me time to go shopping for clothes.
As for shopping for a team green shower- I don't find it hard at all. Everyone uses bottles, bath stuff, white onesies, bedding, diapers, toys. Actually I find most baby things gender neutral.

This stuff is all boring.

Toys are boring?  

[k3am]

Hmm.. Okay, toys maybe aren't boring, but the rest of that stuff is. I've never bought toys for a shower. We have a go to gift pack for all showers, which does not include toys.

[tincupchalice]

Sept 11, 2015 12:24:23 GMT -5 k3am said:

Hmm.. Okay, toys maybe aren't boring, but the rest of that stuff is. I've never bought toys for a shower. We have a go to gift pack for all showers, which does not include toys.

Just curious, what is in it?

I've just been buying random things off of registries lol!

[k3am]

tincupchalice, we usually buy 1 thing off the registry, a sleep sack with arm swaddle, and "month" stickers for pictures, and a book. We will add more depending on our relationship with the person, but that's our basic stuff. (Second babies get a book and a case of diapers)

It sounds really clinical, but for the last 3-4 years, we've been going to at least 3-4 baby showers a year. In the last 4 months, I've gone to 5. I am not coming up with unique or individual gifts every few weeks, I'm just not that good.

[tincupchalice]

Sept 11, 2015 12:59:01 GMT -5 k3am said:

tincupchalice, we usually buy 1 thing off the registry, a sleep sack with arm swaddle, and "month" stickers for pictures, and a book. We will add more depending on our relationship with the person, but that's our basic stuff. (Second babies get a book and a case of diapers)

It sounds really clinical, but for the last 3-4 years, we've been going to at least 3-4 baby showers a year. In the last 4 months, I've gone to 5. I am not coming up with unique or individual gifts every few weeks, I'm just not that good.

No, I love it.  I've gone to or am going to three this month, so I was looking for ideas, hahaha.  Some of them end up being super last minute too, I went to one three days after we moved here!  That one I was just scrambling for anything I got for Gremlin that was still in packages!

My very close friends get a blanket or a ring sling or something that I've made, but can't do that for everyone.

[k3am]

tincupchalice, how hard is making the ring sling? I've got a sewing machine that is itching for a few new projects, but definitely nothing at the advanced level.