Mamas of lazy babies

[Deleted]

Can we commiserate or celebrate our lazy babies here? My kid doesn't do anything. That could be good though

Let's see..... He doesn't eat real food, doesn't stand while holding something, doesn't crawl (he army crawled ONCE a few weeks ago), doesn't even lift his knees to crawling position, and doesn't use sippy cups/straws.

What he does do... Says "Mamamamama", that's about it.

I know all babies are different and have different timelines, but let's discuss our frustrations or celebrations that they aren't getting into the dog's food bowl yet. I know I'm getting a little antsy when people tell me he's so advanced yet I see younger babies doing all the things mentioned above, and my kid couldn't care less.

So what are your babies doing/not doing?

[babybarlow2014]

Jakob doesn't babble. At all. But we think he says hi. Weird.

His Dr doesn't seem concerned. But I am.

[mary97]

DD has zero interest in crawling and thinks sippy/straw cups are for chewing and banging on high chair tray. Doesn't say Mama yet either.

[footloose]

I personally think DD focuses on her social type skills more than physical. She babbles tons and uses lots of consonants. She can use a straw and spoon to feed herself with a little help, however, doesn't crawl or stand up holding onto things. I just started having her stand on the couch holding onto the back of it for several seconds until she falls down. Work in progress

[minae01]

I wouldn't classify my kid as lazy; he's very busy trying to figure things out! He doesn't crawl in the traditional way. He worms around. He doesn't get the coordination of crawling. I'm not sure he ever will. He doesn't quite pull up on things yet, although he tried in the bathtub last night when I didn't expect it! He's very good at mounting things low to the ground, like toys and me if I'm sitting. He cannot eat anything with texture - no stage 3 foods or finger foods. He gags and throws up. He doesn't have a clue about what to do with the sippy cup. He seems behind according to my email updates, but I'm really not worried. I certainly wouldn't say he's lazy. He'll just get to these milestones when he gets to them! No hurry.

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[mary97]

I think DD might walk before crawling, she's more interest now being put in a standing position rather than being on her belly. She always gave me a hard time with belly time so I'm not surprised. Only time she likes being on her belly is sleeping.

Not sure I'm ready for a mobile baby, she's decided she's now fascinated with the cat. He hasn't quite adjusted to her and he's ornery and can be spiteful. He's the one second he's snuggling with you next second trying to bite your hand off type. Not ready for the baby chasing the cat fiasco.

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2015 12:38:55 GMT -5 footloose said:

I personally think DD focuses on her social type skills more than physical. She babbles tons and uses lots of consonants. She can use a straw and spoon to feed herself with a little help, however, doesn't crawl or stand up holding onto things. I just started having her stand on the couch holding onto the back of it for several seconds until she falls down. Work in progress

I was told that babies tend to focus on one or the other, mobility or social. And I feel like DS is in the social category. He will intently listen to people speak. You can see the wheels turning in his head figuring it all out. And he loves to "talk". So I'm hoping he gets to some sort of milestone soon!

[emmagk]

DS doesn't crawl, pull up, push to sitting or scoot. However he is constantly babbling, uses a straw cup and eats all the food. I just started standing him at the couch last week and he stays for a few seconds before crashing to his butt. I'm not worried, he'll move when he's ready

[typeset]

Jan 27, 2015 12:38:54 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Be so careful with lazy.

There aren't enough love tits in the world for this. 

[kittyriot]

Jan 27, 2015 13:02:47 GMT -5 typeset said:

Jan 27, 2015 12:38:54 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Be so careful with lazy.

There aren't enough love tits in the world for this. 

Any advice for FTM's unsure of when to ask for a referral to EI?

I keep an eye on the CDC site, and if I am concerned talk to our pedi. I don't think I have any reason to be concerned at this point. But then again, I'm not entirely sure what I should be watching out for. 

[lrmrtn]

DS doesn't really know what to do with solid food. He seems content with his bottle. He's not crawling or trying to pull himself up but he scoots backwards and in circles. I'm getting worried about not eating real food but the pedi said not to worry about it. He's a babbler though. He says Dada, mama and ya. And has whole conversations with himself in his crib!

[comicSans]

Jan 27, 2015 12:58:27 GMT -5 emmagk said:

DS doesn't crawl, pull up, push to sitting or scoot. However he is constantly babbling, uses a straw cup and eats all the food. I just started standing him at the couch last week and he stays for a few seconds before crashing to his butt. I'm not worried, he'll move when he's ready

This is DD too. Not lazy, just not physically motivated.

She'd rather sit and play and figure things out than be laid down to work on crawling. Her fine motor skills amaze me. She loves her shape sorter. If we give her just the cylinder she can get it in the hole, otherwise she loves just playing with all the shapes and she figured out how to open the box so she can take them out and put them back in. In general she loves putting things in and taking things out of other things. She can stack all the rings on her pyramid stacker. This week she started pointing to things - usually things across the room, and whines until I bring them to her or her closer to them.

She doesn't do mamama or dadada but she sure is noisy. 2 weeks ago I would have said she didn't have any consonants except sometimes hey and yay. Since last week everything is mum and ba.

We started standing her at the oversized, padded foot stool because she previously didn't care to bear any weight on her legs. 2 weeks later she'll stand and play for several seconds to a couple minutes.

She's just pretty laid back, focused, and careful rather than being really active and physical. It makes it easy to take her places, leave her in childcare for an hour or two, or spend a few minutes doing something myself while she plays.

Out babies will continue to grow and change and achieve milestones at different rates. Ultimately it won't make any difference at what age they start crawling.

[meggypoo1]

DD doesn't crawl. Doesn't seem like she knows what to do so hates being on her belly. She sits up, babbles, will babble back at you when you make the same noises (no mama all dada ), this weekend I stood her up and had her hold onto her toy box. She liked that for a minute or so. She was good about getting puréed food but has taken a step way back on that (could be because she has been so sick for the last couple of months). We are so scared to give her real food. We need to get over that fear soon. Doesn't drink from a sippy cup; just crews it. Doesn't hold her own bottle -- well she does but doesn't tilt it up! I'm not sure what else she is supposed to do at this age though..

[justforshow]

No crawling, but she's working on getting up on her arms and getting her knees under her. She'll stand on her own against the couch, but she isn't making any effort to pull herself up on her own. If you grab her hands she'll help pull up.

No consonants yet. She likes blowing raspberries and making a pop sound with her lips, and that's her go to noises. She will watch us when we talk to her and move her mouth along with like she's trying to form some type of babble.

She's getting really good with her pincher grasp, and about half the time during dinner she demands we let her feed herself so she can pinch her food and look at it. She likes opening/closing (we spend 15 minutes last night opening and closing the curtains), and putting things in something and pulling it back out.

And she still wakes up twice a night to eat, but I'm in the process of lessening the nursing time during each feeding.

[becole]

Jan 27, 2015 12:56:54 GMT -5 @whimsy said:

Jan 27, 2015 12:38:55 GMT -5 footloose said:

I personally think DD focuses on her social type skills more than physical. She babbles tons and uses lots of consonants. She can use a straw and spoon to feed herself with a little help, however, doesn't crawl or stand up holding onto things. I just started having her stand on the couch holding onto the back of it for several seconds until she falls down. Work in progress

I was told that babies tend to focus on one or the other, mobility or social. And I feel like DS is in the social category. He will intently listen to people speak. You can see the wheels turning in his head figuring it all out. And he loves to "talk". So I'm hoping he gets to some sort of milestone soon!

This is us. He talks but is just now starting to crawl. From what I've learned from this kid so far, he takes about 2 months longer than when I "expect" him to do something. With food, rolling, sitting up, crawling. He's not behind, but I guess I'm always pushing things for about 2 months before he does it. So I guess also be careful about expecting baby to do something before their time. It's really hard. I am constantly asking if something is normal, but for him he just does his thing in his time.

[footloose]

justforshow I really like that description of "making a pop sound with her mouth". This is what DD has been doing for about a week now and I was wondering what that was about, glad to know she isn't the only one.

[justforshow]

Jan 27, 2015 15:05:30 GMT -5 footloose said:

justforshow I really like that description of "making a pop sound with her mouth". This is what DD has been doing for about a week now and I was wondering what that was about, glad to know she isn't the only one.

It's hard to describe that noise in writing!  My nephew did this before he started the "mamamama", so I'm hoping DD follows along the same lines as he did.

[footloose]

Jan 27, 2015 15:12:03 GMT -5 justforshow said:

Jan 27, 2015 15:05:30 GMT -5 footloose said:

justforshow I really like that description of "making a pop sound with her mouth". This is what DD has been doing for about a week now and I was wondering what that was about, glad to know she isn't the only one.

It's hard to describe that noise in writing!  My nephew did this before he started the "mamamama", so I'm hoping DD follows along the same lines as he did.

Ohhh I hope so too! Been waiting for so long

[jennybeans]

No crawling here yet. He will roll to things he wants still but doesn't roll too far to explore yet. It's been nice not having to baby proof our temp apartment so if like him to hold off at least 3 more weeks and then we will baby proof our new house!

He does babble a lot and will 'chat' with me if I catch him in the right mood (as in not right after we get home for the day from daycare or right before bedtime). He loves being with the other babies at daycare and around groups of people so he seems to be much more socially oriented right now. He does love to stand with support now.

[comicSans]

Jan 27, 2015 15:20:42 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Jan 27, 2015 13:40:56 GMT -5 comicSans said:

Out babies will continue to grow and change and achieve milestones at different rates. Ultimately it won't make any difference at what age they start crawling.

It is true that there is minimal evidence that not crawling in absence of other developmental concerns is a problem.  It is also true that for typically developing babies the difference between crawling at 5 months and crawling at 8 months is probably not meaningful long term.  That said, cognitive development is highly related to the ability to move and explore within the environment.  Delayed onset of locomotion absolutely can have negative impacts (some profound, some small) on other areas of development.  

True. I was meaning it more along the lines of within the normal range of expected development, without delays present, when our babies are 3 there won't be any noticeable difference in those who crawled at 6 months and those who crawled at 10.

Of course we can always qualify and say if you're really concerned or perceiving delays in multiple areas it's always better to ask a professional. I've had the benefit of somewhat unsolicited professional evaluation so perhaps that's calmed my momxiety about how my kid stacks up against similarly aged babies.

[flockofmoosen]

Baby girl is also not moving much. My neighbor calls it being a doorstop. We sit her down and there she stays. (But if laying down she rolls a couple of feet.) She loves playing with things that open and shut, or are flat (lids, foam pieces). We gave her a set of plastic drawers for christmas and fill it with toys and she can sit there for a really long time just opening and closing and pulling things out and putting them back.

If on her belly and not immediately rolling over, she will push herself backwards. She's also loving it right now when we hold her up so she can walk and chase the dog. She laughs so much doing that.

She eats anything (except grainy textures likes beans), and babbles a lot. We're working on sign language, but she doesn't even consistently wave yet so I'm not expecting much.

[letal316]

DD has no interest in crawling. Everyone at daycare says she will walk before she crawls, I personally still think she'll crawl first but probably not for another month or so. She was sick with colds, etc for 2 months which was prohibitive in terms of motor skill development but now that she's feeling better, she's starting to move around more. She babbles all the time and in the last week has gotten really good at eating (we did BLW). I felt like everything was taking so long, but as people say, one day it all just clicks and that seems to be what's happening.

[lunabug924]

Not even close to crawling. She really isn't rolling either. She'll roll to her side and reach just far enough to grab things and then roll right back. She still hates being on her tummy and isn't getting up on all 4s. She sits like s champ but can't get up by herself. She can stand really well holding onto something, but isn't pulling herself to stand. No cruising yet either, she just plants her feet.

She is waving and saying "hi". She babbles constantly "lalala", "dadadada", "babababa". She also makes "s", "t", and "p" sounds. And just this last week she started clapping. She'll be 9 months next week.

Of course I will always worry about her physical milestones, but it seems like she's just more focused on developing her social skills. I'll be asking more questions at her 9 month appointment, but glad to hear we're not alone.

[emmagk]

For those that have non crawlers, do your LOs hate tummy time? DS has always hated it and still hates being on his tummy. He even stops himself from rolling completely over if he's reaching for a toy. 

[comicSans]

Jan 28, 2015 9:43:17 GMT -5 emmagk said:

For those that have non crawlers, do your LOs hate tummy time? DS has always hated it and still hates being on his tummy. He even stops himself from rolling completely over if he's reaching for a toy. 

DD loved tummy time, until she could sit. She rolled back to front first to get to her tummy, and I think just didn't really care to roll the other way because she was content on her belly. Same kid sleeps mostly flat on her back. Smh

[Deleted]

Jan 28, 2015 9:43:17 GMT -5 emmagk said:

For those that have non crawlers, do your LOs hate tummy time? DS has always hated it and still hates being on his tummy. He even stops himself from rolling completely over if he's reaching for a toy. 

DS has no problem with tummy time. In fact, he seems to prefer it most days and will sleep on his tummy too.  He'll get frustrated when he can't get to things, but hasn't grasped that he can crawl yet.

[lrmrtn]

DS loves tummy time if he rolls on his own and immediately rolls to his tummy in his crib and usually sleeps like that. But if we put him on his tummy when he's not in his crib, he screams.

[becole]

My lo just started crawling 8.5 months and he screamed any time we tried to do tummy time. He's just now getting over but I'm sure it slowed him down a bit.

[nikkig519]

My little girl has absolutely no interest in crawling, loves to play and sit but nothing on her stomach. On the other hand she is soooooo vocal, constantly nabling and singing/squealing on the top of her lungs. Eating wise she is such a fatty. She literally will eat anything if she could. I could feed her dinner and then me and the hubby eat ours and she will scream and throw mini tantrum because she wants the food even though I know she is full. So needless to say with me two dogs begging while we eat now we have a baby also begging lol

[comicSans]

I have new and important information to share! Not really, but we had DDs last pt appt this morning and thought some of you might like the PTs pov on crawling.

She said they are starting to take it out of official milestones, but she still thinks it's really important and at this age all babies should be crawling or at least starting to. Not that you should worry yourself sick about it, but there are things you can do to encourage it and work on it if your baby is not naturally inclined. Also, as far as EI, she said if you're ever concerned about development ask your pediatrician for a referral for an evaluation.

I have to say I thought pt was pretty useless for us at first because we determined the first week that it wasn't going to help the flat head, which is why we were there. Ultimately though I did learn a lot about how to encourage gross motor development and that It seems my DD needs that encouragement. Both with rolling and standing she wasn't really doing a lot on her own, but after just a day or two of putting her through the motions and practicing she was doing both - the strength was there, just not the will. Today we worked on some ways to position her and work on crawling. Again, she's strong enough to hold herself up on her knees, she just splays out and doesn't do it on her own. So my job now is to hold her in the crawling position to encourage it. Also, she loves to sit so we're working on going from sitting to crawling position and back to sitting and she seems to tolerate that much better than being put on her belly then lifted into crawling.

So in summary, look into/ask about ways to help teach your baby crawling, and ask for an EI referral if you'd like one.