Looking for Advice
Sept 15, 2015 8:10:00 GMT -5
Post by hootiemommytobe on Sept 15, 2015 8:10:00 GMT -5
Hi all! I hope you all are doing well! I try to get on here as often as I can. I need some advice or insight. DH and I got a match yesterday!!! YAY! WE just found out that our agency has been REALLY slow this year, only having 7 adoptions so far this year, when they normally are in the upper teens to twenties. So, we'd really like to move forward on this one. But, One of the things the Expectant Mom said she wanted was to give us her full name and for the adoptive family to give her their full name. Have any of you dealt with this before? She only wants letters and pictures to start and MAYBE somewhere down the line, like years down the line, would want a visit or some kind of contact. DH isn't too keen on giving up our last name. We are all for visits, but it was something we wanted to work towards and build a relationship with the EM. I certainly don't want this to be the deal breaker on whether we move forward or not. But, I wanted to get some insight from you all. We are very open to Open Adoption, but I guess at the same time, we're scared too. It seems weird that she would want to know our entire name, yet doesn't want contact just yet. And even if she didn't know our last name, and wanted contact later on, all she would have to do is contact our agency and they would put us in contact with her. It seems confusing to me. Maybe I'm reading too much into it? Any thoughts or advice? I'm having a hard time finding the right words to ease DH's mind. Thank you all for reading and for any thoughts, advice or insight you may have.