how much detail?

[drl]

We are visiting DD's birth family next weekend. I am going to send a note to her school about the days off. I'm trying to decide how much detail on the visit to give.

On the one hand, it's possible DD won't mention this much at school. However, we are going to an amusement park, and she loves her BM's FI, AKA the child whisperer. I'm envisioning scenarios where she mentions them by name, a classmate asks who they are, she tells them about her birth family, confusion ensues.

Other pertinent info: DD is 5.5, this is her 3rd year at the school, staff know she was adopted but I don't think have much experience, director adopted internationally but told me last year that her son has major issues, and the one mom I mentioned adoption to asked why DD's birth mom didn't want her. So now I'm totally over thinking this. Usually I just say she may mention new names after a visit, but if kids ask questions I want to be prepared

[delenire]

"the one mom I mentioned adoption to asked why DD's birth mom didn't want her."

umm... you have got to be kidding. Every time I read something like this it makes me very angry.

Would the principle be willing to raise awareness on adoption during Adoption Awareness month? Classes talk about genealogy, why not honor adoption too after all there is a connection and it is 2015!

I don't think you are overthinking it... I think your surrounded by people who should know better.