Pot calling the kettle

[mel7806]

I've been noticing a significant number of times that Dh will get on our older DD about something and then do the exact same behavior himself. Most recently, it has been about rinsing her dishes after meals. He will stand there and make sure that she not only rinses her dish, but also makes sure ALL the food is off it so that it can go right into the dishwasher. This behavior is something that I have been trying to get so, while I don't think he needs to stand there, I do appreciate his help with rule following.

What I don't appreciate is when he does this...and then just leaves his UNrinsed dish on the counter with garbage (napkins, etc) in it! He does this all the time!

So ladies, tell me about your SOs and all the times they are hypocrites!

[toastercat]

My brain just short circuited due to there being too many options for anecdotes. BZZZZZT

[pele]

This will be our first kid, so no examples yet. But I will say I'm hoping our kid laughs at my DH when he tries to get her to pick up her clothes off the floor.

[luckystarz]

I chuckle at mine b/c he likes to limit the kids screen time, but he's the one that games constantly on the weekends and such. He wants a set time they can play on the iPad, watch tv, etc. I'm all for it, but you can't hide in your office gaming if this is what you want to do. My kids will have no problem calling him out either.

[urani]

H is really picky (he would say he's particular or discerning) about TONS of things. One thing is that he likes the kitchen counter as free from clutter as possible. The IL's countertop is always spotless so I'm sure that's where it comes from. That's fine. But it drives me crazy if he acts like I've committed some sin by leaving a new piece of mail or other important item on there for more than 2 seconds.

Other than the counter, our standards for the cleanliness of the house are about equal. We don't live in a pigsty but it's not spotless. EXCEPT for the office, which until this past weekend had shit piled everywhere, and I mean everywhere. Who is the one person that uses the office? H of course.

[rquinlin]

MH leaves random shit laying around for me to pick up. Every once in awhile he'll tell DD to pick up her stuff, mommy shouldn't always pick up after you, and she'll tell him she picks up after you lots. Usually just look at him and smirk. He knows he's setting a bad example.

[wamom]

My DH leaves his things in random spots. He also drinks milk straight from the carton and now DS(3yrs old) has started to try to do this....Thanks DH!

[mel7806]

Oh, and he also tells DD that he doesn't want her to bring any food or drink up to her room because he doesn't want her to leve dirty dishes and food garbage up in her room...But there are chip bags, dirty glasses, empty bowls all over his desk!

[huggabugga11]

My H has this thing about none of mine or DS stuff being on the floor in our room. He flips out if I leave my shoes or jacket in the middle of the floor. He especially hates it if I drop my purse on the floor. But then when he comes home from work, where does he drop his backpack EVERY SINGLE DAY? Right there, smack dab in the middle of the floor in our bedroom. Drives me crazy.

[stine28]

O.M.G. wamom, I didn't know that real live humans actually drank milk from the carton. I thought it was a 90's sitcom joke or something.

In similarly gross fashion, my DH's "quirk" is that he seems to not understand that having water touch something does not mean it is clean. Like he'll only rinse his fingers after using the washroom (So ew. I've tried ralking to him. Will wait for the baby to come home to drive home the idea of germ theory again.) or he'll fill an entire 4L (gallon) milk carton with water to "rinse" it instead if 2" of water and shaking it. I swear he's an engineer and worked in a DNA something-or-another research lab years ago. He understands all the theories and can apply them at work. I don't know how he doesn't KNOW this shit!

[wamom]

stine28 I wish it was just a sitcom thing.... And watching my 3 year old grab nearly a full gallon of milk and trying to tip it up is just a major mess waiting to happen.

[bluebell0315]

DH tells DD to stop making this weird, "Pffft" noise when she's concentrating on something. I'll be the first to say it's freaking annoying, and he does it, too! I guess it's subconscious, but it's so annoying.

[jennypm]

My H complains about stuff the girls leave on the kitchen counter or the kitchen table, but he's horrible about leaving his crap all over the table in the dining room. I totally call him out on it all the time, too.

[snarkysparklefart]

Mine gripes about DD leaving her shoes or toys out, particularly toys on the couch, but his size 14's are ALWAYS in the floor. and lately his new laptop is always on the coffee table. She sits on it and it makes me giggle.

[jnow]

Nothing seems to bother my h. I don't think he notices a difference between a clean sink or one filled with dishes. I'm curious to see how he feels when I'm home trying to keep a baby alive, not cleaning the house.

[NatashaBromanoff]

First kid so nothing to compare to him getting on the kid's case.

HOWEVER, my husband is really particular about certain things and a total slob about others. For example, he needs the kitchen to be immaculate but he's ok with the bathroom being completely disgusting. He'll get on my case for leaving a dish on the coffee table or counter, but he leaves his clothes in the bathroom all the time. he would leave them in there forever until laundry if i didn't make a point to pick them up off the floor. (My PA protest is putting them directly on his pillow.)

[mel7806]

I think it's hilarious that Dh is hygienically OCD, constantly washing his hands, great teeth, and always showered BUT he is otherwise a slob! Mine is the same way with clothes in the bathroom, too. He also takes off his shoes as he walks into the bathroom and just leaves them in the doorway for me to trip on later.

[issytex03]

My H was raised in an environment where the woman does everything and trying to break him of this mindset is like trying to train a puppy not to poop on the floor D: he refuses to put clothes in the washing basket?!?! And instead piles them By the machine and gets upset when DD leaves toys/food in our living room but ill regularly wake up to a kit kat massacre by the side of our bed. Anyone have any husband training tips to share?

[biscotto]

FI has a horrible problem of leaving wet towels, robes, whatever on the bed, on the floor, etc. I'd love to see if his something to DD about this.

[meowkitten]

issytex03 I'd stop doing his laundry!

I'm a FTM, but a few years ago my niece used to come stay with us on the weekends while her mom was out doing who knows what (she was 2 at the time). He used to get onto her about putting everything away where it goes. Well, he had an annoying habit of taking his socks off when he walked in the door and laying them on the end table by the couch...then she started doing it too, haha. He realized pretty quickly not to do that anymore LOL.

[issytex03]

Jan 28, 2015 6:18:19 GMT -5 meowkitten said:

issytex03 I'd stop doing his laundry!

I'm a FTM, but a few years ago my niece used to come stay with us on the weekends while her mom was out doing who knows what (she was 2 at the time). He used to get onto her about putting everything away where it goes. Well, he had an annoying habit of taking his socks off when he walked in the door and laying them on the end table by the couch...then she started doing it too, haha. He realized pretty quickly not to do that anymore LOL.

Ahh i tried that! But he literally just lets it pile up and repeatedly asks me where things are or if they're clean D: its like being married to a teenage boy.

[jrp]

OMG - the dirty socks in the living room make me totally twitchy. The main thing he gets after DS for doing, though, is drinking the last of the broth/cereal milk/etc from his bowl… 12 seconds after DH does the same fracking thing. I get that there's a much bigger mess potential with DS, but you can't get pissed at him for copying you. This isn't related, but he also gives DS basically no notice when it's time to switch activities (e.g., leave the play area, quit playing with trains so that we can go somewhere, etc.), so there are always temper tantrums, and then time outs. Hello! Give the kid a 2-minute warning so that he's ready to transition activities. You'd be pissed if I waltzed in to where you were occupied and said, "right now, before I get super pissed and punish you!" (In fact, he gets annoyed when I get after him for dawdling when dinner is ready, even though he *knows* that i'm cooking, and I give him plenty of warning -- "Ok, we're 5 minutes out." "Ok - I'm dishing J's plate up" "OK - IT'S MOTHERFUCKING TIME TO EAT AND YOUR PLATE OF FOOD, WHICH I HAD TO DISH UP JUST LIKE EVERY FUCKING NIGHT EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE A FULLY GROWN ADULT AND SHOULD BE DOING THIS SHIT YOURSELF, IS ON THE TABLE AND GETTING COLD. QUIT PLAYING FUCKING CANDY CRUSH AND SIT IN YOUR DAMN CHAIR!")

Um, I'm maybe more angry about this than I realized…. :/

[shanniegal]

Jan 28, 2015 9:25:25 GMT -5 jrp said:

... (In fact, he gets annoyed when I get after him for dawdling when dinner is ready, even though he *knows* that i'm cooking, and I give him plenty of warning -- "Ok, we're 5 minutes out." "Ok - I'm dishing J's plate up" "OK - IT'S MOTHERFUCKING TIME TO EAT AND YOUR PLATE OF FOOD, WHICH I HAD TO DISH UP JUST LIKE EVERY FUCKING NIGHT EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE A FULLY GROWN ADULT AND SHOULD BE DOING THIS SHIT YOURSELF, IS ON THE TABLE AND GETTING COLD. QUIT PLAYING FUCKING CANDY CRUSH AND SIT IN YOUR DAMN CHAIR!")

Um, I'm maybe more angry about this than I realized…. :/

I get so irritated when my H does this. And then he has the nerve to complain that the food is cold. It wouldn't be if you had come up the first time that I said that dinner was ready!

[darbie914]

When DH concentrates on something, he has a tendency to stick his tongue out. DD has taken to doing the same thing so we see her doing it when she's coloring, painting, or something else. It drives DH nuts when she does this but I'm like, dude you do the same.damn.thing. And it's more like a subconscious habit than an intentional one.

[jrp]

OMG, I might castrate DH if he said something about the food being cold. Usually he says things about how he likes a few minutes of quiet to "unwind" after work. Um, ok… how about after our tornado of a son goes to bed?? Because this pregnant, swollen, hormonal, bat-shit-crazy momma needs a break, too.

and I agree with issytex03 -- MIL did *everything* for DH and FIL (and still does when we're "home"). DH says he doesn't want a marriage like his parents', but somehow fails to see that their marriage is built on 37 years of daily habits, and I plan on fighting tooth and nail to keep those habits from forming.

Whew. Now I'm all in a tizzy.

[mamabear904]

My DH is majorly OCD about certain things (like keeping the kitchen counters as clutter free as possible) and gets "stressed out" when things aren't just so... He's definitely improved in the 4 years we've been together, but it still irks him from time to time. I'm looking forward to LO getting here to help him learn not to sweat the small stuff.