MIL strikes again!

[graysweater]

I am not sure if I posted it here or not, but when my MIL found out I was pregnant she made it very known that she wants it to be a boy. I am not sure why. She wont even discuss girl names at all. There are 6 boy grand boys ranging from age 16 - 2. You would think she would be thrilled for a girl. 

So last night we were over at her house showing her the U/S pic and she made another comment about the sex of the baby. She said that she hopes its not a girl, because a girl would just be ruined on this family. What the what??? I was stunned. What do you even say to something like that?? So, is she going to treat this baby different if it is a girl??

[k3am]

graysweater, really are something special, aren't they?

For the first two years after DD was born, we heard nothing except the fact that only children are spoiled, unsocialized, etc. Once we let them know we were planning on a second? "What if you get one like DD. You probably shouldn't risk it. And if you do have two, you should stay home with them. It's not fair for your children to be in daycare."

I had no words. She luckily left with her head attached to her body.

[graysweater]

k3am, that sounds like some crap mine would say.

Mine was so appalled that I BF DS to almost a year old. She was literally forcing formula on me.

[Ruca]

What in the world is up with MILs??? Sorry you guys have to deal with that Mine lives in another state 8 months out of the year so we don't see her much.

[teraiin]

Jeepers. I thought it was bad that my MIL is begging to know our prospective names after lecturing for years about how people should keep names secret to cut down on people trying to convince them to change their names lol

[k3am]

We haven't seen MIL and FIL since we announced it to them.. I'm just waiting for her to call me enormous again. (She did it at 13 weeks before I was even showing with DD). She does it again, and I've got several good quips in the queue for her, all of which are DH approved.

[mrsw062610]

OH MILs...sorry yours says such awful things. I don't understand why MILs are such a pain in the butt.

After DD was born, she and I were not on the same page. But we have worked it out and luckily, are on good terms again (for the most part). Occasionally she will get on my nerves, but it's much better.

to give you a small peak into things she does - when DD was 5 months old she picked her up by her ankles...just for fun. Who does that? Ugh.

[graysweater]

Sept 28, 2015 11:47:31 GMT -5 mrsw062610 said:

OH MILs...sorry yours says such awful things. I don't understand why MILs are such a pain in the butt.

After DD was born, she and I were not on the same page. But we have worked it out and luckily, are on good terms again (for the most part). Occasionally she will get on my nerves, but it's much better.

to give you a small peak into things she does - when DD was 5 months old she picked her up by her ankles...just for fun. Who does that? Ugh.

She did what??? I would have had a total fit! 

[tincupchalice]

Things like this make me glad that DH refuses to talk to his parents.

[graysweater]

Sept 28, 2015 11:56:06 GMT -5 tincupchalice said:

Things like this make me glad that DH refuses to talk to his parents.

My H is a total momma's boy. It can be very frustrating. 

[teraiin]

Sept 28, 2015 12:08:09 GMT -5 graysweater said:

Sept 28, 2015 11:56:06 GMT -5 tincupchalice said:

Things like this make me glad that DH refuses to talk to his parents.

My H is a total momma's boy. It can be very frustrating. 

So is mine!

[westiemom]

Sept 28, 2015 12:08:09 GMT -5 graysweater said:

Sept 28, 2015 11:56:06 GMT -5 tincupchalice said:

Things like this make me glad that DH refuses to talk to his parents.

My H is a total momma's boy. It can be very frustrating. 

So is mine!!!

[k3am]

I'm terrified that one day, I'll be the MIL that my future DD's spouse will be annoyed by.

[graysweater]

Sept 28, 2015 12:14:58 GMT -5 k3am said:

I'm terrified that one day, I'll be the MIL that my future DD's spouse will be annoyed by.

My mom is the MIL that drives my H and myself crazy. 

My MIL is generally pretty good, until she makes these weird off the wall comments. I think I am gonna do like vinolove, suggested and just not bring baby up at all. 

[mrsw062610]

Sept 28, 2015 11:55:29 GMT -5 graysweater said:

Sept 28, 2015 11:47:31 GMT -5 mrsw062610 said:

OH MILs...sorry yours says such awful things. I don't understand why MILs are such a pain in the butt.

After DD was born, she and I were not on the same page. But we have worked it out and luckily, are on good terms again (for the most part). Occasionally she will get on my nerves, but it's much better.

to give you a small peak into things she does - when DD was 5 months old she picked her up by her ankles...just for fun. Who does that? Ugh.

She did what??? I would have had a total fit! 

Yeah, totally ridiculous! DH and I both freaked out on her. She just like does stuff without thinking. Now she's better about asking if she can do certain things or if DD can have certain foods to eat. 

[graysweater]

Sept 28, 2015 13:26:24 GMT -5 mrsw062610 said:

Sept 28, 2015 11:55:29 GMT -5 graysweater said:

She did what??? I would have had a total fit! 

Yeah, totally ridiculous! DH and I both freaked out on her. She just like does stuff without thinking. Now she's better about asking if she can do certain things or if DD can have certain foods to eat. 

Well at least she is getting better about asking!

[o2girl]

Maybe it's because your MIL doesn't like herself and that is why she doesn't want a girl? Either way, she should be happy that it is healthy! Ugh!

I'm so glad my MIL hates me... Because I don't have to listen to shit like this.

I'm so sorry your MIL is being like this. (((((Hugs))))

[o2girl]

Sept 28, 2015 10:48:51 GMT -5 k3am said:

graysweater, really are something special, aren't they?

For the first two years after DD was born, we heard nothing except the fact that only children are spoiled, unsocialized, etc. Once we let them know we were planning on a second? "What if you get one like DD. You probably shouldn't risk it. And if you do have two, you should stay home with them. It's not fair for your children to be in daycare."

I had no words. She luckily left with her head attached to her body.

ugh! smh

[babycaps]

Sept 28, 2015 11:56:06 GMT -5 tincupchalice said:

Things like this make me glad that DH refuses to talk to his parents.

AMEN!  Haven't seen my MIL or my sisters-in-law since Christmas of 2010!  And don't plan on seeing them ANY time soon.
My MIL is delusional. 

P.S: Delusional is the PG version of what I originally wrote which was very much N17/Adult rated!

[starfishy]

We have a very limited relationship with the in-laws as well. MIL is crazy cakes.

[tincupchalice]

Glad we aren't the only ones! I talk to FIL sporadically on the internet, send him updates on DS, etc, but that's it.

[helloerrbody]

I would tell her to fuck off. Well in other terms maybe but geez that lady is a piece of work. Sorry you're dealing with that!

[grneyes]

What in the what?? I would have some choice words if my MIL said something like that to me. I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap.

[graysweater]

Sept 28, 2015 15:59:36 GMT -5 grneyes said:

What in the what?? I would have some choice words if my MIL said something like that to me. I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap.

and she conveniently only makes these comments when H is not around.  

[starfishy]

Sept 28, 2015 16:19:17 GMT -5 graysweater said:

Sept 28, 2015 15:59:36 GMT -5 grneyes said:

What in the what?? I would have some choice words if my MIL said something like that to me. I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap.

and she conveniently only makes these comments when H is not around.  

Of course. It's a MIL bylaw

Lord, please don't let me be the asshole MIL. Give me the strength to keep my mouth shut and let my DIL just be.