Loss EDDs

[cbowl]

Good morning and happy Sunday all.

I really feel like I'm spiraling now that it is October which is the month of my EDD from my loss in May.  This is compounded by my most recent loss last week.  Does anyone here have any coping mechanisms that have worked for them in the past to get through the month and the EDD?  I just feel so sad.

I'm forcing myself to go to the grocery store to do lots of cooking today...hoping that will help me feel a bit better.

[babyzebra]

cbowl, this has been pretty hard for me too this week. Yesterday was the EDD of my first loss.

I'm not sure if you're religious or not, but I like to think about my LOs that I have lost being in heaven. I hope and pray that they are in a great place without the pain of this Earth. It has also helped me to talk about them this week too. It seems like everyone has moved on. No one remembered that it was my due date. So, I brought them up in conversation a few times this week. I know it makes some people a little uncomfortable, but I don't want them to be forgotten.

I really hope that you can find some peace in this tough time and know that you're not alone.

[cbowl]

babyzebra I'm so sorry that you are having a hard week as well and so sad to hear that your loss EDD was this month as well. I really appreciate your words and thoughts. I am not particularly religious but I too have been thinking about hopefully my babies being together somewhere in the afterlife in heaven. It's just so hard. I am dreading that people won't remember the EDD...although I guess I need to just realize that they probably won't.

Anyways, I just really appreciate your response. It is such a heartbreaking and isolating experience...but it helps to know that other people understand.

[eaglewife]

I'm so sorry for this pain, cbowl. Distraction and cleaning the hell out of my house was the only way I got through our June\July loss date. We had a 7/4/15 EDD and were hoping to have a late June RCS so that our girls (I actually just surprised myself by typing that. I'm not sure why I felt like she was a girl, but it seems like she was.) would have separate birth months. November 6th is getting close and I can already feel myself bracing harder.

I see in your signature that you also have three lost babies and I'm so sorry. What did you cook today? I hope it was a satisfying process and outcome. PM me if you want to talk more.

[eaglewife]

Oct 4, 2015 13:50:53 GMT -5 babyzebra said:

cbowl, this has been pretty hard for me too this week. Yesterday was the EDD of my first loss.

I'm not sure if you're religious or not, but I like to think about my LOs that I have lost being in heaven. I hope and pray that they are in a great place without the pain of this Earth. It has also helped me to talk about them this week too. It seems like everyone has moved on. No one remembered that it was my due date. So, I brought them up in conversation a few times this week. I know it makes some people a little uncomfortable, but I don't want them to be forgotten.

I really hope that you can find some peace in this tough time and know that you're not alone.

I'm so sorry that you are at an EDD week too, babyzebra. Sending you love and strength to get through these hard times.

Posted too soon. How heartbreaking that you shared your due date with people you care about and they forgot. That makes me sad too. I feel like I'm trying to shield myself from this pain by just not sharing with people close to me. It's starting to feel like that might not be the right way to handle it though.  You are welcome to talk about your LOs as often as you like here.

[tbonequeen13]

cbowl, keeping busy's about the only thing I know of. This next loss EDD is really gonna sting b/c I was due 1 day before my birthday...and I was secretly hoping to go into labor ON my birthday...so I'll be finding lots to do to keep busy that week and although it won't make it easier, maybe it will keep me from thinking about it quite as much

[cbowl]

eaglewife thank you so much for your thoughts. I'm so sorry for your losses as well...I see from your signature that you recently had a loss about a week ago as well. I'm right there with you and hope that you are doing okay. I was hoping that I would be facing my Loss EDD while pregnant...and I thought that might at least lessen the sting but obviously that's not happening.

Anyways, I'm here if you ever need to talk as well.

Sorry if it's too personal (feel free to ignore if so) but are you pursuing testing after your 3 losses? I'm trying to navigate that as well.

[cbowl]

Oct 5, 2015 7:57:49 GMT -5 tbonequeen13 said:

cbowl, keeping busy's about the only thing I know of. This next loss EDD is really gonna sting b/c I was due 1 day before my birthday...and I was secretly hoping to go into labor ON my birthday...so I'll be finding lots to do to keep busy that week and although it won't make it easier, maybe it will keep me from thinking about it quite as much

I'm so sorry tbonequeen13.  Your loss EDD being so close to your birthday must be really painful. Hopefully you'll be able to stay busy and find some peace as you get closer to the date.  Thinking of you!

[woodenshoes]

I don't have any good advice, but I hope that keeping busy helps you.

I am worried how I am going to handle my loss EDD. My EDD was Valentine's day. Also, the EDD is right around my birthday and my husband's birthday.