When did you/will you tell immediate family?

[wanderlust]

MH and I just told my brother and his girlfriend last night (at exactly 7 weeks). He doesn't live in the area so we took advantage of him being in town so we could tell him in person. It was really nice to share the excitement of it with him!

Next weekend (at 8 weeks) we'll tell my parents and my in laws. I had these Shutterfly picture books made for each of them with family pics and on the last page I put our ultrasound pic with the caption "Coming soon ...newest member of the (insert last name) family! Estimated arrival May 21, 2016". And we'll tell MH's siblings that day too. I'm a little worried because my mom has a big mouth ....and so I hope she doesn't tell all our extended family before I'm ready! I didn't want to tell them til 12 weeks.

I'm curious when (how many weeks) and how everyone announced to family (& beyond - friends/coworkers if you've gotten to that point).

[Deleted]

I told my mother and one of my sisters already, but we won't really tell any other family until after a good a/s. If there are issues at the a/s we won't tell until birth. We'll tell friends whenever we see them or as it comes up.

Neither of us are super close to family and we're tired of telling and untelling them.

[mrssqueegy]

Right away. We have a loss history so needed the support early on.

[wanderlust]

@led and mrssqueegy - Hugs ladies, I can see how a history of loss can impact your decision to either tell right away or be cautious and wait.

@led - I hope your a/s will be nothing but reassuring.

[wanderingheart]

Our immediate family knew about the IUI, so they knew when the 2 weeks was up. There was no real surprising them, because I was getting constant text messages from my siblings and parents throughout the TWW. Another way IF sucks, I guess. Takes away all the fun of surprising people, ha.

As for our closest friends, grandparents, etc. - we won't tell until after the ultrasound and we get the okay from our RE to see an OB. Everyone else will wait until second trimester hits.

[shadesofgold]

Our parents know and all of our siblings will know within the next week or two.

[annarose]

We will tell our families tomorrow if our U/S appt goes well. I'm 8 weeks as of yesterday.

[thehockeylady]

We told ILs right away (they live with us) and MHs sister & family who I'm pretty close with. We have wiated for my immediate family because I get to see them this week and tell them in person (I'll be 9 weeks). I'm glad that this is after a good u/s but will ask that people wait to tell the extended family until 12 weeks.

MIL spread the news a little to her sister & her family but I feel like that part of the family is almost MHs immediate family because they grew up so close so it didn't bother me. His uncle posted a comment after I liked a pumpkin beer coming on tap at a local restaurant like "Not for [my name]" but didn't tag me (I think he is bad at facebook). I asked him to take it down and he did.

[twocents6708]

We told my in laws and my mom last weekend. I also told my best friend because she knows we were TTC and considering our next steps. I had to out myself to my partner at work because we literally spend almost every minute together and my nausea and frequent bathroom visits were a giveaway. I feel like these people are the ones we would need the most support from if we experienced a loss so I want them to know.

We are only 6 weeks so are waiting until after our 10 week appt to tell anyone else in the family and will probably wait until after first tri is over to announce to everyone.

[Ruca]

My mom knows but only from her intuition, I havn come out and told any family member yet. I've told a couple people from work and my good friend who also is a doctor so I like asking her questions

[mrsw062610]

Told our parents right away. I also told my best friend (who surprised me with pics of pee sticks of her own - she's due 3 weeks before me!) and DH told his aunt.

We hear the heartbeat on 10/28 at 10 weeks and will start to tell close friends and family around then. Probably tell my students the following week and announce on FB around then too. I can't hide this stupid STM blump from my students for much longer.

[walkek85]

Both sets of parents know. Sibling in-laws know and all of our closest friends know. We told those people at 5/6 weeks. My siblings will find out this weekend and then we will announce on FB at the end of the month.

[fishbulb]

We told our parents right away. I told my brother soon after. MH's brother is deployed so we can't really tell him - I assume SIL will at some point. I told my parents they could tell whoever after our 1st ultrasound.

We told a few friends early. We started telling local friends and coworkers after the ultrasound. We will go facebook official after we get our genetics screening results.

[snoris]

Ditto to mrssqueegy. Everyone knew about the losses and are really invested in my health now, so it made sense to tell them right away. I am pretty sure our whole family and extended family know because they care and ask how I'm doing. They all know about the losses, so we've got nothing to hide even if this one isn't a keeper.

[kateisoptimistic]

I haven't told anyone and won't until we get all our testing back, MH's family lives a good ways away from us and part of me doesn't want to tell them until we see them in person at Christmas but I'm not sure MH is on board with that as I will be almost 20wks by then. I'm going to need to tell my work before then though so we should probably tell family first.

[teraiin]

Our close family knew the day I took the test because MH couldn't contain himself. If it had been up to me they probably still wouldn't know.

Yesterday we bit the bullet and told my closest friend. She and I have been sharing our TTC journey and I knew she'd be a little hurt if I didn't tell her until EVERYONE found out. I have an appointment this week and if all goes well MH wants to tell both sets of his grandparents this weekend.

Everyone else will need to wait until after first tri is over. *gulp* Then I'll need to tell work once I go FB official.

[westiemom]

We told immediate family the second we got a bfp.

I told close friends on an as needed basis (when they offered me alcohol).

We plan to tell everyone else Nov 1 at 14 weeks.

[mushe]

I told my parents right away because we're close, and they knew when we had an IUI. I told my sister after the second ultrasound (7weeks ish), just because I was feeling paranoid about telling everyone. I told H he could tell his parents whenever, and he did after the first ultrasound. I have a loss history, and would want their support either way.

[ellesea]

We've only told our best friends because they knew we were trying. I have a lot of people to tell before I tell my mother in law because she has a bit of a big mouth. I have no idea when I will tell them.

[Sammich_Cat]

We'll be telling next week when everyone calls for my birthday.
Just wish I could verify that everything was still ok before we told.

[KirstenAlecia]

Most of our immediate family knows. We will be going public after 12 weeks with a cute photo post on Social media and stuff.

[rnmommy]

Nobody in my family can keep a secret and I don't want our oldest daughter to know until I'm pretty sure this one is sticking around. With her sibs we didn't tell her until I saw heartbeats. We don't tell family until after our oldest daughter knows. She's going to be so upset.

[starfishy]

My mom knows bc I had a hospital scare at 5 weeks and she could sense my anxiety. I told my sister after my first ultrasound. I have to tell my brother and his wife but I want to send them a fun picture so we'll wait a bit. Extended family will know after NT scan.
Non family that knows- my principal and assistant principal, my friend at school and my best friend that has been going on this journey with me. She has secondary infertility so we've been really supportive of each other.

[mels823]

Oct 5, 2015 7:15:00 GMT -5 mrsw062610 said:

Told our parents right away. I also told my best friend (who surprised me with pics of pee sticks of her own - she's due 3 weeks before me!) and DH told his aunt.

We hear the heartbeat on 10/28 at 10 weeks and will start to tell close friends and family around then. Probably tell my students the following week and announce on FB around then too. I can't hide this stupid STM blump from my students for much longer.

My best friend was 6 weeks behind me for my last pregnancy and it was so fun to have someone to go through pregnancy with!

[mrsw062610]

Oct 5, 2015 19:22:16 GMT -5 mels823 said:

Oct 5, 2015 7:15:00 GMT -5 mrsw062610 said:

Told our parents right away. I also told my best friend (who surprised me with pics of pee sticks of her own - she's due 3 weeks before me!) and DH told his aunt.

We hear the heartbeat on 10/28 at 10 weeks and will start to tell close friends and family around then. Probably tell my students the following week and announce on FB around then too. I can't hide this stupid STM blump from my students for much longer.

My best friend was 6 weeks behind me for my last pregnancy and it was so fun to have someone to go through pregnancy with!

That's awesome! What's so funny is we had we had our first kids 4 months apart! I love it!

[Ruca]

After showing DH that stat chart he's ready to tell people now. We agreed to wait until after our first ultrasound (11/4). So now I need to re-think our reveal