*~*-*~*Loss Check-In Oct 9/15*~*-*~*

[flutterfly88]

Welcome to the Loss check-in! This is a board-wide check-in for all of us who have suffered a late term pregnancy or child loss. As this is a board-wide check-in and we are all at different stages in our grief, please remember to post warnings for any subjects related to pregnancy or living children.







I am also so sorry to have to welcome any new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.







Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?







What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?







Rants/Raves/Anything else you want to share?




QOTW: Are you planning anything for October 15th? 

[mrswheelo]

*********Possible trigger********

I haven't taken any new stepd in a while. I'm mostly in a good place, burning do have bad days. Recently, a family member asked if I had any pictures of the twins on my phone that they could see. I was so happy I wanted to cry. No one ever asks about them. I was so proud to show the baby pictures I had. Even though they are mostly post mortem.

I am 33weeks pregnant with a little boy. I am praying he is our rainbow. He is due the same time as the twins' birthdays. I'm having a hard time knowing how to feel about that.

For anyone who has been through an anniversary before, what kinds of things did you do to celebrate/remember the day? It may be difficult for some to answer, but I'm having trouble seperating thier loss amd being sad from being excited for the birth of this baby. I feel a little guilty. And I'm worried that I may overshadow how wonderful it is that this baby is being born with the deaths of his older siblings .

This grief is so hard to navigate as I get closer to the anniversary. I am having so many feelings. Mostly sad about not getting to watch them grow and that they would be a year old soon. I can't shake the idea that we should have 3 babies this year.

[flutterfly88]

***pregnancy mentioned****


mrswheelo I'm glad to hear that you're in a mostly good place right now, and that someone asked about your twins. It's comforting when other's remember our children. I'm at a similar place as you, just about to hit Parker's first birthday and expecting my rainbow. I think you need to allow yourself to grieve Lane and Lydia and know that it's okay to miss them as your new little one comes and you celebrate his birth. (((hugs)))

[mrswheelo]

Thank you flutterfly88! It's very hard to feel both emotions at the same time. I hope all is well with this pregnancy for you

[flutterfly88]

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I'm continuing to attend the grief share class and it's been good. I haven't gotten as much out of it as I had hoped, but it would probably help if I did more of the homework.


What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I guess trying to do more of the grief share homework. I know it'll help me get more out of the program, I just need to be less lazy.


Rants/Raves/Anything else you want to share? Tomorrow marks one year since my life was turned upside down and I was admitted to the hospital, and 10 days after that will be Parker's birthday. These next 2 weeks are going to be draining. This weekend is Thanksgiving (I'm in Canada) and I can't help but remember that last year I was on semi-bedrest hoping and praying that we would make it 3 more weeks so my boy had a chance. Time has gone so fast, I don't want it to have already been a year.



QOTW: Are you planning anything for October 15th? I signed up for the choosing your breath emails from Franchesca Cox , and in one of them she shared about making a custom candle (print what you want on tissue paper and then basically melt it to a candle). So I made one for Parker. I haven't tried burning it yet, but my plan is to burn it on the 15th. I'll probably also post something on FB.