LO's sharing a bedroom.

[heavenwhip]

yes, I know it's still super early, but here is a question for the BTDT mom's with kids who share a room.

My DD will be almost 2 when the new tiny human (NTH) arrives.  Should I set up NTH's crib and dresser in their room before he/she arrives, or wait until NTH is ready to move in with DD?  NTH will probably be in our room until 6-7 months, at that point I'm hoping he/she will be mostly sleeping through the night like DD did, and can move in with DD.  Part of my wants to get it done ahead of time because.....well I'm a 'get it done' type of person, but part of me doesn't want to just start taking over DD's room too early.

Advice?

[arbe]

I've been debating the same, if it's a boy, it's easy since DS doesnt have a big kid bedroom set yet, if it's a girl we've got a lot of rearranging to do to make room for a crib. But Baby will be with us until sleeping through the night.

I think once I know I'll start putting the crib back together.

[ady45]

My DD will be almost 5 when new baby comes. I think we are going to modify a bed loft for safety(rails and stairs) and put the crib under it.

[abvintage]

I'm not BTDT but IMHO I think son't put baby with toddler until they are sleeping, for the most part, though the night. Grumpy toddler + crying baby = no sanity left.

[heavenwhip]

sorry guys, my question wasn't clear. I'll clarify saying that I'm not putting NTH in with DD until NTH is sleeping through the night consistently. My question is should I set the room up ahead of time, or wait until the actual move happens to set up their room with NTH crib.

[runningmommy519]

Jan 28, 2015 15:27:43 GMT -5 abvintage said:

I'm not BTDT but IMHO I think son't put baby with toddler until they are sleeping, for the most part, though the night. Grumpy toddler + crying baby = no sanity left.

My son is a freak of nature and can sleep through almost anything. once we were at a hotel and the fire alarm went off (it was right above his pack n play) and he didn't wake up!

That being said... I'm still afraid to have the baby sharing a room if he/she is waking multiple times a night.

[Deleted]

My DS will be a little over 2 when NTH (adorable, btw:) arrives, and NTH will sleep in the co-sleeper bassinet in our room until they're sleeping through the night, then it's likely DS and NTH will share a room for a while. I think that I will hold off on setting up DS' room with the crib until we are closer to the actual room-sharing date, since I would prefer for DS to not have to go through too too many changes baby-related all at once. Either way is fine tho!

[heavenwhip]

mrsaaa I share the "too many changes baby-related" thinking as well. I think that's why I'm asking what others have done/think.

Part of me thinks that DD might get possessive over stuff in 'her' room, but part of me thinks if I put NTH to nap in the crib in their room, maybe she will understand they will be sharing? I think I'm overthinking it.

[Deleted]

Jan 28, 2015 15:46:23 GMT -5 heavenwhip said:

mrsaaa I share the "too many changes baby-related" thinking as well. I think that's why I'm asking what others have done/think.

Part of me thinks that DD might get possessive over stuff in 'her' room, but part of me thinks if I put NTH to nap in the crib in their room, maybe she will understand they will be sharing? I think I'm overthinking it.

That's a fair point that I actually had not considered....it's definitely a tough one to balance out! For me, I would prefer to get things settled with NTH and get at least somewhat of a routine going before adding in the crib to DS' room, but that's also because I am kind of dreading additional furniture (I hate clutter or the feeling of not enough space, whether or not it's sensical lol), and I also ideally want DS to be old enough that he can speak with me about how he's feeling about the shared room (this may be a lofty goal; he's a big "talker" now at 21 months, and has a good sized vocabulary, I think, and understands what we talk about with him, but I ideally want to be able to really sit down and have a back and forth with him about the changes before adding to his room....this sounds a bit new-age wishy-washy to me even as I type it, but there you go;)
Either way will be fine; GL with whatever you decide!

[kristabelieve]

My DS will be 18 months when Baby #2 arrives and I am waiting to put anything in his room until they actually share.

[lulurm]

Jan 28, 2015 15:46:23 GMT -5 heavenwhip said:

mrsaaa I share the "too many changes baby-related" thinking as well. I think that's why I'm asking what others have done/think.

Part of me thinks that DD might get possessive over stuff in 'her' room, but part of me thinks if I put NTH to nap in the crib in their room, maybe she will understand they will be sharing? I think I'm overthinking it.

I was originally going to say just wait, and save yourself the hassle now. But this is a really good point! I change my vote. Set it up before NTH comes, that way you can also utilize it for him/her, and get DD used to the idea of sharing.

[pmcd886]

Jan 28, 2015 15:46:23 GMT -5 heavenwhip said:

mrsaaa I share the "too many changes baby-related" thinking as well. I think that's why I'm asking what others have done/think.

Part of me thinks that DD might get possessive over stuff in 'her' room, but part of me thinks if I put NTH to nap in the crib in their room, maybe she will understand they will be sharing? I think I'm overthinking it.

This is what I would hope for. So, I would put the new baby's stuff in before transitioning him or her to your DD's room. We are going to put DS1 and 2 together before baby comes, we still want a guest room, so that it is one less transition for them when their world will already be so crazy with a new baby.