They say you forget...

[ohioloveyou]

They say you forget the pregnancy/newborn part of having kids  Have you forgotten enough yet to do it again?  Or do you need more time?

[ohioloveyou]

I can feel myself forgetting the crappiness, but I'm still not there yet. I force myself to remember how icky I felt when I was morning sick whenever I start seeing pregnancy/birth through rose colored glasses.

[Jennifer18131]

I remember that contractions hurt and I was absolutely miserable in the last 4-6 weeks, but I can't remember the pain anymore.

[staryb]

I need more time, so much more time!

[lindseyione]

More time! I remember being miserable at the end of my pregnancy and the pain from my c section. There is no way I would want 3u3!

[saraml13]

I've always wanted more kids. Right after DS was born I was overwhelmed and wasn't sure how I could go through having another newborn and an older child. But now I'm sad that DS has gotten so big so quickly and I've got baby fever for another cuddly little newborn. I'm not quite ready right now, but we'll definitely start trying around the 1 year mark.

[crawford411]

I just told DH that I remember hating pregnancy ans being miserable 3rd trimester, but that I can't remember what it felt like. Seeing my baby get so big makes me thrilled and sad all at once. I want her to stay little forever!

I have not forgotten birth though. It's going to be a few more years...

[saragw]

I remember but I also remember getting through it.

[darwinfish]

Pregnancy unicorn warning...

Honestly, other than stress from my previous experience and having to diet later, pregnancy was great for me. I was wearing heels the last day that I worked, my manager was very flexible with my schedule and didn't make me feel guilty for having to head into the city for 2 ultrasounds/week, and I had an amazingly supportive husband. Labor was rather fast, and other than having to wait for an epidural because of an emergency ebola meeting, not terrible.. We had about 5 people in the L&D suite at the busiest time, and it was easy to forget that I was even having a baby.

The recovery from delivery is the part that I remember that still makes me shudder. I'm not ready for that again.

Also, I may not remember the pain, but I also don't remember what baby kicks felt like, so I lost some of the good feelings also.

[mrssinner402]

Birth doesn't bother me. My epidural was magical. Pregnancy wasn't bad either. I absolutely hated the newborn phase and how little sleep I got. Up every 1.5-2 hours plus my pumping schedule. It makes me ragey just thinking about how horrible I felt all the time. Not forgetting that any time soon!

[Cocomama]

Nope, haven't forgotten. Second-third trimester my pelvic bones felt like they were going to snap in half. Plus taking care of two kids and how difficult that is makes me feel like trying/having a third would just make us miserable.

[cnj]

I didn't go through labor this time (RCS), but I have not forgotten the pain I had with DD! Granted that wasn't that long ago either (May '13).

The plan is no more LOs, not because of labor/birth/recovery, but because I don't want to do the newborn thing again or endure the negatives I associate with breastfeeding (the initial severe pain, required certain diet, time limits on everything I do/everywhere I go, restrictions on alcohol/caffeine, etc) for ANOTHER year.

[ohioloveyou]

Jan 28, 2015 21:12:05 GMT -5 darwinfish said:

Pregnancy unicorn warning...

Honestly, other than stress from my previous experience and having to diet later, pregnancy was great for me. I was wearing heels the last day that I worked, my manager was very flexible with my schedule and didn't make me feel guilty for having to head into the city for 2 ultrasounds/week, and I had an amazingly supportive husband. Labor was rather fast, and other than having to wait for an epidural because of an emergency ebola meeting, not terrible.. We had about 5 people in the L&D suite at the busiest time, and it was easy to forget that I was even having a baby.

The recovery from delivery is the part that I remember that still makes me shudder. I'm not ready for that again.

Also, I may not remember the pain, but I also don't remember what baby kicks felt like, so I lost some of the good feelings also.

Same here. I tried really hard to remember this the other day and I couldn't.

[cantisa]

I was just thinking today! I'm starting to forget...

[jellykat2]

I was miserable towards the end of pregnancy. I could barely walk, and just rolling over in bed was painful. I labored for 20 hours and then ended up with a c-section. That being said, I have all the baby fever already. While I know I was miserable, I have forgotten how miserable, and like pp said miss the baby kicks as well as the cuddly newborn phase. I want to loose about 50 pounds before we have another baby, because I think it will be easier on my body if I do. But I want to start trying again late summer/early fall. It's my motivation to loose the weight.

Now, if we get pregnant right away again, and I have 2u2 - I'll probably curse myself during the sleepless nights. So 2nd baby better be cute, just like the one I already have.

[emerald27]

Oddly enough, as soon as DS was born and in my arms, and I had calmed down a bit and he was nursing, I looked at DH and said; "that wasn't so bad. I could do it again!" The poor man about fell on the floor! I was just on a super high and it's amazing how immediately the pain STOPS. It's instantaneous, and then I was flooded with happiness.

I still remember pregnancy as being uncomfortable and tiring, but birth, nah. No biggie.

...I know. I'm insane. Must be hormones, cause I was SCREAMING during labor.

[jeniece47]

I was telling DH that I have forgotten most of the pain from pregnancy and could do that again. What I have not forgotten us lack of sleep. If my child doesn't move out of donkey status soon she is going to be an only child.

[amandajean12]

Undecided. I want her to have a sibling, but the idea of being pregnant again and then having/recovering from another c-section... I'm not far enough removed to remember that sucked.

[Jennifer18131]

Y'all keep referring to a cuddly newborn, but I had a screamy newborn. My 3 month old is cuddly, though.

[nicb13]

I can't afford more kids! Lol

I am done though and another newborn might just send me to the nut house.

[staryb]

Jan 28, 2015 22:39:34 GMT -5 Jennifer18131 said:

Y'all keep referring to a cuddly newborn, but I had a screamy newborn. My 3 month old is cuddly, though.

Mine wasn't a cuddly newborn either. She was wiggly and always wanted to look around and I just wanted her to rest her head on my shoulder and relax. She's much more cuddly now.

[swise22]

Besides the sleeping issues we've had the past 2 months, DS has been a wonderful baby. Contractions weren't too bad for me but the tearing and him getting stuck was absolute hell. I would do it all over again in a second though and can't wait for the next. Kids are just so much fun!

[mrsc928]

I hated being pregnant. I was miserable the whole time with morning sickness, heartburn, and awful adema. The swelling got so bad that I had to start maternity leave early because i could not be on my feet. That being said, I would do it all again. My LO was so worth it and I can't wait to have another. We plan on starting to try this summer.

[ariel06]

I've forgotten the worst of pregnancy already. And to be honest mine was pretty uneventful. Childbirth was a little bit scarier this time. The main thing that deters me from another baby is lack of sleep. 3 donkey's infants doesn't make me believe the next one will sleep. Once I am consistantly getting more than 4 hours a night I might feel different.

[babybeluga]

I had pretty bad nausea through my second trimester, but it's getting harder for me to remember just how awful I felt. My labor was pretty awesome BUT my tailbone broke when I pushed my daughter out. It still hurts like a mother. So when I think about the next one... Ouch I just can't yet.

[nicb13]

Oh and if I ever did get pregnant again, I would live at the hospital for the last month to make sure I was able to get an epidural. That whole going without pain meds shit is for the birds. I literally thought the pain would kill me. I can't remember the pain now, but I remember honestly thinking I was going to die!

[theresat858]

I love the newborn phase and would do it 100 times. I hate pregnancy, though. At two weeks old I was already forgetting how much I hated it bc I love new babies.

[theresat858]

Oh, we are done. But if I could mother newborns until, say, 6mo-1 year and then hand them off (though that'd be hard to do), I would.

[breandmikebaby]

I have been ready by the time each of my kids were 6 weeks. This last time it was 1 day after birth.

[ashie0610]

Jan 29, 2015 0:29:32 GMT -5 theresat858 said:

Oh, we are done. But if I could mother newborns until, say, 6mo-1 year and then hand them off (though that'd be hard to do), I would.

I'll take them from there!