Post by murrt on Oct 24, 2015 15:21:12 GMT -5
Hi all,
I know some people are going to have severe adverse reactions to see a post about the holidays this early. But, I need some help...
Typically, DH and I trade off Thanksgiving and Christmas each year - spending one with his family and one with mine. This year, we thought the holidays would be very different, my due date was December 1, and were planning on having a newborn - so we planned to stay home for both holidays or MAYBE go to my in-laws down the street for Thanksgiving if they were hosting dinner or something. That way we could go but also leave if we needed to. Try as much as I can, I can't seem to get that thought in my head of what was "supposed to be" every time I think of Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Well, my SIL has started texting my husband asking what our plans are for the holidays. It's assumed we'll spend one holiday with them. Technically speaking, this year is supposed to be Thanksgiving with DH's family nearby and Christmas with mine a few hours away. My Mom is always pretty excited about Christmas with her so I know that's going to be VERY hard to get out of.
My SIL (my husband's sister) wants us to go to her SIL's (her husband's sister's) on Thanksgiving. This tends to be a new trend. My SIL always wants us to go to one of her SIL's houses. My SIL, her husband, their two kids and my in-laws are all going there on Thanksgiving I guess. It just feels strange to be anywhere celebrating this year, let alone someone's home that's not family. I told DH to tell her that we don't want to celebrate this year and explained why, and she got kind of pissy about it. Am I being too selfish? Especially since I don't see how I can get out of Christmas with my family?
What would you do? I don't see a way of getting through the day without losing it and I don't want to do that in front of people that aren't family, but I also don't want to hurt other people just because I'm hurting.
Thanks for reading.