Dear moms of adopted children (article)

[lizblue]

I've never felt very seen in a "mom" article until now.

www.faithit.com/dear-moms-of-adopted-children-this-is-why-i-recognize-you-from-a-mile-away/

[delenire]

This article really nails it! I can't even process all of what is happening in my life right now, and I had to fight for it to happen. Prove myself, and hope I was good enough.

Adoption is a difficult process for BOTH moms involved our most powerful asset is empathy.

Thank you so much for sharing this because it reminded me of who I am and what I am fighting for. It made me feel seen and known. Right now, that is everything I really need.

[pinkie]

I've read this before but teared up reading it a second time. I had a quiet moment with our 2.5 year old the other day and tried to tell him his story. He's so smart and understands so much but he kinda shut down and asked if he could go play. I told him of course but to remember always how lucky we are to all be a family.

The journey to adopt for us was so long for our older son. But with many things in life now it's sort of just a memory for me. Reading this makes many of those feelings come back as a stronger memory.

[gnomesweetgnome]

I'll be the voice of dissent. Mainly because I take issue with the title/intro - I don't believe anyone really sees me as an adoptive mom because of some strength/tenacity/what have you they can visually discern. Maybe I'm just taking her too literally.

In any case, I have a lot of feelings about this article that I can't really express with words. It is supposed to be uplifting, but I don't perceive it in that way. Maybe I'm just broken..?

[spooko]

I didn't like it, either. It wasn't identifiable for me because I missed so many of those steps and my path was much different than the typical adoption scenario she seems to have in mind. Yes, she does have a one-off line about maybe it wasn't planned, but most else doesn't really fit.

[pinkie]

A lot of it didn't apply to us either but the parts that did brought me back to staying up all night to pack and fly across country to meet our oldest son. We didn't know if he was even born when we got on the plane (just that his BM was in labor). We landed and got a photo texted to us and were crying on the plane. Then the nerves going to the hospital and not knowing where to be (no real place for us).

I overlooked the parts that didn't apply to us and didn't really notice the title (which is odd).

[lizblue]

Of course it didn't all apply. But she hits some of what we've already been through and will be in the future. For the first time in any of the "mommy" articles I've ever read. It made me tear up and I'm not usually very sentimental.

I guess it was nice to see a little what I've gone through on print.

I don't think she meant the title to be literal, aka actually seeing adoptive moms.

[frenchteachermama]

I loved it.

[redandblue]

I saw this article a few weeks ago on FB and I absolutely loved it! I don't think it is intended to hit everything for everyone scenario in adoption, because every adoption story is so vastly different! It did however connect with me in so many ways, and was able to articulate a lot of emotions that I would not be able to convey. I shared it with my friends and family so they can understand a little bit what it is like to create your family through adoption. Thanks for sharing it here! I agree, the title is not meant literally.